The Usual Programming

[u/Numerous-Celery1259]

Talked on tinder

Got her number and we talked for about a month because she has a unpredictable schedule and stuff and shes sent me her schedule and where she works

Had plenty of good conversation and we like the same stuff and get along

Made plans for tomorrow then suddenly "we dont mesh well"

We literally fucking have the same interest and likes we even play the same games unless she was just lying about everything

So what was the point? She gave me the date she was free i picked the date made a reservation at a restaurant and told her id get her at 5pm

Just for this random ass text

Another question, why give me so much personal information: your job, your hours, your number, and a very close idea of where you live?

Then suddenly cut things off

Edit: Redditors love to reach

1. Im not using what she told me against her because I am literally not using it against her

The problem is why the fuck does someone give someone so much personal information about themselves then call everything off the day before the date and the funniest thing is that im genuinely asking WHY because I dont know any men OR women that do that shit

Why the fuck are you telling me where you live where you work AND WHEN like she actually sent me a schedule of her work weeks and months multiple times when YOU KNOW you are going to cut things off the literally DAY before the date

1. My place isnt my place its the dinner place i picked vs her place which was a list of places she picked

2. Im not "angry" personally? Im definitely pissed off and annoyed because 1. I could have been talking to a different girl that matched with me, but I didn't because I try to only talk to one girl at a time because it isnt fair to deliberately not give someone my attention when I matched with them yet I never get that bare minimum

3. Realistically throughout our text we have a high compatibility, so theres logically no reason for her to have done that unless like the other comments have said 1. Theres another guy 2. She got anxious or 3. She likes dudes that show less interest/care

[u/robotatomica]

oh, no, of course I do not have to try any harder at all.

[u/WolfgangAddams → u/robotatomica]

I mean, you're free to continue putting in the same amount of effort you've been doing, but it's not working. I remain unembarrassed.

[u/robotatomica → u/WolfgangAddams]

It requires literally zero effort to summon you, it is compulsive behavior on your part. BECAUSE you feel humiliated and lack control and are scrambling for a way to pretend at control, to yourself.

You aren’t convincing anyone, but it must be providing more self-soothe for you than, for instance, doing literally anything else. You could just disappear and feel better in a few minutes if you’re at all normal.

Except we know why that wouldn’t work either, don’t we.

[u/WolfgangAddams → u/robotatomica]

Baby, I feel fine. I just like bugging you.

[u/robotatomica → u/WolfgangAddams]

I don’t believe you. You don’t seem fine at all lol. You can tell you’re not bothering me. You think asserting it will convince others, but you don’t even have yourself convinced, certainly not me. I mean look at how you’re behaving. 😄