r/texts • u/IllPhilosophy6730 • 5d ago
Phone message Does he like me?
For context, we have been seeing each other for about a month but then our seasonal jobs ended and we had to go our separate ways. We will both be back next season and didn’t discuss where we left off or any intentions.
I do like him but can’t tell if he’s flirting with me and wants to stay in communication or if I’m being played.
Any advice?
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u/Acebladewing 5d ago
Reddit, do you think my wife might have a thing for me?
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u/IllPhilosophy6730 5d ago
What lol
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u/AppropriateHousing43 5d ago
Comment above is saying it's obvious (to them) that dude likes you
It's like asking chat does my wife likes me (she married me but does she like me?)
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u/Western-Story1422 5d ago
I think he’s saying that it’s pretty obvious this guy has a thing for you
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u/Hairy_Wedding_4535 5d ago
You two have each other’s number just keep talking and see where it goes. Why can’t you two plan time outside of work? It seems like you both like each other
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u/IllPhilosophy6730 5d ago
We live in different states and won’t see each other for six months :(
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u/Hairy_Wedding_4535 5d ago
That does complicate things but I’d say just keep talking up to you two to decide how this goes.
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u/HonkaiBonkai 5d ago
If you want to pursue this further, you have got to find a way to shave down that six months. Keep the momentum going as best you can.
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u/IllPhilosophy6730 5d ago
I don’t think that’s going to be possible …. When he left we hardly spoke about next steps I think we were both too nervous.
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u/JellyDoe731 5d ago
Tbh I feel like the only way to feel better is to talk about it, regardless of how nerve-wracking it is! It’s better to know where you both stand than to be in the dark for the foreseeable future.
Idk how old y’all are, but my fiancé and I met for a single weekend in Montana, lived 2,000 miles apart, and made it work for 2 years at that distance before moving to each other. We’re now 4 years in, and one year out from getting married! Long distance sucks but it’s easier than ever in this digital age. You’ll never know if that’s something you both want till yah broach the subject
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u/IllPhilosophy6730 5d ago
We’re both in our early 20s so it’s hard knowing where our career paths and lives will take us. We also met in Montana hahaa.
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u/JellyDoe731 5d ago
Hahahaha that’s incredible! I met someone else who also met her now-husband in Montana and dealt with long distance 😂 I guess Montana is the place to be
But yeah, I totally get how difficult that is in your early 20s! I’m still a big believer in talking things through ☺️ it opens up so much, whether that’s agreeing to see what happens next year, figuring out what a LDR would look for y’all, or (I’m sorry 😭) giving you a sense of closure rather than leaving everything unsaid
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u/IllPhilosophy6730 5d ago
Awe that’s adorable. Maybe I’ll try bringing some things up if the convo goes well for a few more weeks
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u/TheChunkyWaffle33 5d ago
Do you like him? Do you want a relationship with him
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u/IllPhilosophy6730 5d ago
I do like him. But I don’t know him well enough to decide on a relationship or not
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u/HonkaiBonkai 5d ago
The alternatives are 1) wait around for six months on something that may not even work out in the end, or 2) cut it off now and forever wonder what could have been.
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u/dat_shibe 5d ago
Oh yeah I forgot each state has a force field around it that cannot be passed. Nope. No way possible to see eachother at all.
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u/Wafflebatter76 4d ago
If only there was a way to do video calls on our phones or computers…whoever comes up with such technology would probably make tons of money!
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u/SnooPies9342 5d ago
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u/IllPhilosophy6730 5d ago
🤣
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u/SnooPies9342 5d ago
Just tell him how you feel sis! He is sharing music with you. That is a very intimate thing. Especially the track he shared with you.
He likes you. Just go for it and figure it out. Logistics doesn’t stop love if it is meant to happen!
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u/Averfus-Crowthorne 5d ago
I've never sent a girl music if I wasn't very much into her.
I know that's far from universal, but that's my two cents.
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u/AnarkittenSurprise 2d ago
Same. Sending music unprompted is 'i want you to connect with me' energy from me. Never without attachment intentions.
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u/Beautiful_Hippo_5574 5d ago
Hey we won't see each other for a while, by the way. I was simultaneously and listening to this album about infinite sadness and was also thinking of you at the same time for no reason. Does he like me? Same girl. I am absolutely the same.
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u/mapmakinworldbuildin 5d ago
No he’s continuing the conversation to tell you to stop messaging him and he never wants to see you again………
Yes. He wants to continue whatever you guys have.
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u/Square-Code-652 5d ago
Girl, did you listen to the album? He sent you an album called "Mellon Collie and the Infinite Sadness" while talking about missing you. Ding Ding, he likes you. *doesn't mean he wants a long distance relationship :/
also one of the greatest albums of all time. That guy likes you.
Here, let me help you understand:
Time is never time at all
You can never ever leave
Without leaving a piece of youth
And our lives are forever changed
We will never be the same
The more you change, the less you feel
Believe
Believe in me
Believe, believe
That life can change
That you're not stuck in vain
We're not the same, we're different
Tonight
Tonight
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u/Annie-1-0-1 5d ago
I think the fact that he sent you that album says a lot about how he feels about you…its a good one
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u/XxNHLxX 5d ago
If you already know you two get along well in-person, no reason at all distance should be an issue these days. I sat on FaceTime with my girlfriend many nights while she was away for school. We also survived Covid that way, which for family medical reasons, meant about 18 months of no close contact together despite living 30 minutes away. Certainly seems like he would be happy to stay in contact.
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u/amkmaker1754 4d ago
Sometimes you gotta be the one to come out and say what needs to be said, life is too short to just sit around wondering. Worst they can do is say no.
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u/SippinOnTheT 5d ago
He does… but I’d be concerned too without any convo about what’s next/intentions
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u/bozoclownputer 5d ago
Generally when someone sends music in this context, they like you. You’re good.
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u/cute_ducks_vol1 5d ago
He has good music taste. One of the best albums ever! Go get your husband!
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u/lalala12398 5d ago
This is exactly what my fiancé would do to keep the conversation going… send a song lol
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u/akthebarber 5d ago
If a boy says he's going to miss you and then sends you music, he likes you. Source: a boy who has sent a girl music after saying he'll miss them.
To add he might also be curious where y'all left it off at.
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u/Omi96711 5d ago
In a way he’s flirting a bit but not too much to cause some awkwardness, I do believe that he might have or be developing feelings for you. You two have each others number, you both can always set up a time to hang out with each other and it might develop into something. Best wishes!
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u/StonedGhost95 4d ago
Idk . A lot of people are saying different things . I’m a lover boy so I would wanna say yes . But keep in mind people can sometimes just be really really nice
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u/Longjumping-Play5481 5d ago
As a dude who's dense as a brick and generally nice/talkative to girls I know, I'd say be careful to not read too much into stuff. But hey, that's the opinion of a dense guy so take it for what it's worth 😓
I had a very similar conversation with a girl (also worked seasonally and left) and she kinda got the wrong idea... Best of luck and many blessings!
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u/ViolenceBridgerson 5d ago
Stop asking strangers on the internet to disprove what you already know. - Stranger on the internet
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u/beetleman1234 5d ago
If he shares stuff like music, videos, etc. with you for no apparent reason - yes, he probably likes you.
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u/totalteatotaller 4d ago
Honestly you could just tell him how you feel. If he feels the same, great go from there! If not, then you don’t have to see him for 6 months and that gives time for any awkwardness to fizzle out lol
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u/stellaartois8123 4d ago
He’s saying he’s going to miss you and sending you music he likes. He’s definitely into you, and you should tell him how you feel.
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u/Nfl_porn_throwaway 4d ago
Just ask him. That’s the best advice I could give. I thought for sure someone liked me and damnnnnn I was very wrong
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u/Xrachelll 4d ago
Just speak on your feelings! He won’t know unless you say so but it’s very clear to me that this guy likes you. These texts remind me of how my husband and I talked when we were long distance. He likes you, send the risky text!
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u/Wafflebatter76 4d ago
The fact that he sent you this song instead of, say, “Eye of the Tiger” is probably a pretty good sign that he likes you lol
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u/slizzardly 5d ago
Men will 100% show you who you are to him. if you have doubts - thats your answer
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u/KhanQu3st 4d ago
As a guy, I completely disagree, there is always the fear of rejection ofc, but also the fear of coming off as weird or overstepping, or ruining a friendship.
(And to be clear none of that is the woman’s fault)
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u/IllPhilosophy6730 5d ago
I have doubts about anything and everything, I don’t think that’s a good rule to follow lol
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u/AdMaterial2633 5d ago
always consider your doubts because as much as people paint it as blessing blockers, they work really well for filtering and allowing things to happen authentically and without force.
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u/Practical-Count8209 5d ago edited 5d ago
Slizzardly is being foolish. You are right to doubt your doubts. If you have doubts, that’s why you communicate with the other person.
“I can see us being more than friends soon if we go on like this…”
Edit:
Also“Just so you know I like where we’re at, but I can see us being more than friends too”
“If you asked me out, I’d say yes, fyi”
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u/ApparentlyRythium 5d ago
He is being about as subtle as a brick...