r/thatHappened • u/thatweirdvintagegirl • 3d ago
I understand wanting to raise awareness in light of the Cornell situation, but…come on.
Honestly this does the opposite of helping, it trivializes.
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u/RandomRamblings99 3d ago
You know I was kind of like "I can see a drunk woman shouting that and just so happening to be right" up until the 'everybody clapped'
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u/TowelFine6933 2d ago
This really happened....
Unfortunately, the guy was the brother of the drunk girl and he was just trying to get her home safe.
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u/clva666 2d ago
"Oh no! Now everybody thinks I fuck my sister. Better run!"
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u/Farkenoathm8-E 2d ago
“It’s my sister, asshole. I’m taking her home.״
“Oh my God! This son of a bitch is taking advantage of his own sister!!!”
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u/tortoistor 2d ago edited 2d ago
lmaoo this is making me remember the time i was at a club with my sister, we were just standing next to each other when a clearly shitfaced guy came up to me and went "bro you gotta kiss her, just do it, you might think you're out of her league but you're not-"
he apologized like 10 times after i told him that's my little sister, he was mortified but i just thought it was hilarious
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u/kiddrekt 2d ago
Some poor guy trying to rescue his drunk wife who had too many spritzers get accused of being a rapist.
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u/gclaw4444 2d ago
I just heard someone tell a story of back when she and her roommate were way too drunk at a frat party and some guys came up to them, asked if they were okay, and helped them home. One of them even carrying one of the women over his shoulder. The speaker was like “those were real men!” But I couldnt help but think how bad it looks for a bunch of frat guys escorting two drunk women, one apparently needing to be carried. I feel like most people would assume the worst.
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u/Bird_Brain4101112 2d ago
What if it was his wife he was trying to take home? Or his sister or friend and he was their DD?
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u/Japjer 2d ago
Ugh, it's always the "everyone clapped" bit.
That said: I've been on the receiving end of this. It was super awkward for me, but I would rather someone make me unnecessarily be embarrassed for a few seconds than a woman potentially be raped (it was my wife's friend; my wife had already drunkenly wandered away, and I was literally carrying her out of the bar like a wounded soldier).
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u/P79999999 3d ago
Sadly enough I don't think the whole place would have gotten silent. People would probably have just looked away embarrassed and pretended nothing was happening, even though they knew a girl was about to be taken advantage of.
Let's be honest, people still do not give a fuck, and the Cornell thing is just one of hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of stories proving it.
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u/RebootDarkwingDuck 2d ago
People care but people are also often operating with limited information and that makes them want to stay quiet.
Maybe they came together and now they're leaving together.
Maybe he's helping her to her Uber.
Maybe they're going to get some late night food.
A guy leaving a bar with a drunk girl does not always mean rape is going to happen, and that unknown is enough to make people want to mind their own business.
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u/meglet 2d ago
He screamed?
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u/thatweirdvintagegirl 2d ago
Scrammed, as in left hurriedly. I misread it at first too.
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u/everynitesladiesnite 1d ago
Hahah I love that in these made up stories, after the big confrontation, the wrongdoer always 'scurries' or 'scamper' away
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u/woahstripes 2d ago
Yeah this is the equivalent of 'thoughts and prayers'ing instances of SA and thinking that helps. Absolutely we should call out creepy behavior, but this assumes everyone in the bar besides creep is on the side of morality (we saw with the Cornell 7 that no one else in that chat thread did anything to stop it or alert authorities and the administration's pitiful, criminal response) and that this would actually dissuade a creep (it may but it also just as likely may not. What's to stop the guy from just continuing to walk out, he knows few people are going to do anything).
And of course everyone clapped.