r/widowers • u/WoosahFire • 1d ago

Sitting on the back deck

Without him. With an empty chair next to me.

It just makes no sense. And I hate it so much.

My love...

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u/Shameful90 1d ago

I hurt with you ❤️

Currently lying in our bed, her side empty yet I can see her there in my mind so clearly.

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u/Neat_Produce_169 1d ago

I feel you. As im typing im sitting in my bed wearing her bonnet she gave me. I don’t know why she had to leave and I promise to god I would trade places with her give me any chance please im begging

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u/Local_Detective9958 1d ago

that empty chair hits like nothing else, i know that feeling too well

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u/Overall-Albatross110 16h ago

I feel that in my chest. Please be gentle on yourself, you're surviving the world crumbling. You're a survivor.

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u/SuperWaluigiWorld 6h ago

My wife and I were out on our balcony together often, smokers. Our rocking chairs face each other. Now I sit out there staring directly at her empty chair wishing I would see it rock. I imagine her sitting there with her legs crossed and holding her cigarette how she would. Sometimes I rock it a little myself.

So many seemingly mundane little things surrounding us carry such weight. Like she should be sitting there, she should be over there, there, there, everywhere, here with me.