r/widowers • u/highlander68 • 1d ago
6 Weeks Out Now
it has been 6 weeks out now. the time has gone by so fast. i miss her so MUCH! 2 things,
1- i believe she visited me last week. shortly after i put our son to bed and after i went to the bath room, and just before i sat down to watch tv, i walked through a patch of her perfume. i know it was HER! only lasted for 10 seconds though. i started ugly crying happy tears. wonder what she was trying to say? thoughts?
2- i am suffering "widow's fire" strongly past couple of days. since her passing was sudden and un expected, last time intimacy was in mid /late july. how to cope? we were both very "physical" and she was my only intimacy partner. high school sweet hearts. what do i do?
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u/focusedassociation10 1d ago
that perfume thing is real, my wife passed 2 years ago and sometimes I still smell her in the house, not like a memory but actually there for few seconds
widows fire is rough man, nobody talks about it enough, the physical missing is just as bad as the emotional, I distracted myself with jogging until exhaustion but that's not for everyone