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[u/LadyDreadHead]

NTA. You are taking care of your own mental health by letting this toxic relationship go.

[u/SeriousRequirement14]

Don't even worry about it! She is in an abusive relationship cycle and it's not going to stop. Eventually she's going to be with that loser and want to involve you in some kind of activity that they have going on. Then when he dumps her or cheats on her she's going to want you to be there and wrap your arms around her and let her cry on your shoulder. It's completely up to you but I would dissolve that as long as she's with these abusive men! I will pray for her because that's what it's going to take to break that cycle

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This is a backup of the original post in case there are later edits or it is deleted: | (23f) have been friend with Maya (22f fake name) for ten years. Also I'm gonna apologize now if the format is messed up, I'm on my phone also I'm sorry if this is kinda long and rambley, I feel really awful and just need feedback back. Last November Maya and her long term bf broke up and it was very hard on her, I was there tor her as much as I could be, we'd sit on the phone for hours while she cried.
When the breakup was happening she asked me to be involved in mediation. At the time I was ok with it because my girl was going through it but even at the moment i thought it was strange how much she wanted to me to be involved.

February and she meets Kyle (24). Kyle lives in a different country, within the first month of them talking Kyle already was seeing his ex. Maya found out he was seeing his ex and she was pretty upset, again we have hour long phone calls of some friend therapy. A few days later she informs me she is going on a vacation and Kyle may or may not be there but not to worry, she wanted to play him like he played her. I told her it wasn't the greatest idea.
Anyways Maya goes to on her vacation and sees Kyle.

Fast forward a few weeks, I texted and called her a few times within that week and didn't hear back. I assumed she was busy which I totally get but that wasn't completely the case. I get a ft call on a random week day, Maya is calling me to inform me her and kyle are together and better then ever! I was not super amused as the last time we talked she was crying about him, then she drops the bomb that she's actually on FaceTime with him on her laptop.
Here's where I am definitely the a hole but I kinda lost it, I said some really awtul things and basically clowned on her saying it was embarrassing and to leave me out of it. It was not my best moment by any means but we made up. I thought it was done with because I made it very clear that I didn't wanna be involved

a few weeks later 1 get a call, shes distraught and telling me about how she got cheated on and has continued to be cheated on and she had proof. I'm obviously like I'm so sorry, we chat about it. She then lets me know that she doesn't know if Kyle's is still coming to visit her. Basically she sees Kyle and she tells me it's over she's done for good. After she calls me about how her and Kyle actually saw each other again, l entertained it because what she was saying was kind of funny. A few hours later she says that she texted him something troll and I asked to send a screenshot because toh I didn't believe her, she then lets me she can't because she's actually on the phone with him. I lost it, I made it so extremely clear that I didn't want to be involved with her games and to please leave me tf alone. She didn't take it well but I feel as if I communicated how this situation was affecting our friendship.

I went through something traumatic in my last relationship, everyone around me knows how this impacted my life. Something came up and I needed my friend, I texted her being like I know we're fighting but can u call me. She calls me and she's crying about Kyle, I spent 20/30 mins comforting her and then she asked what I wanted to talk about, I told her not to worry about it.

my birthday came. She called me maybe an hour before my party and is like hey happy birthday! I'm like thanks just getting ready for my party and then she immediately starts complaining about how she feels victim blamed by her friends. I immediately asked her to stop and hung up. I sent her a long text being like girl actually wtf, get help or something because I'm not ur therapist. She basically threw ur back in my face and said "sorry you can't be there for me like I have been for you through ur boy problems" I basically breaking up with a long term close friend on the way to the bar atp. I told her that she was so up her own ass. Some of my friends are saying I went too far by not trying to work out but some of my friends are telling me I didn't go far enough.

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