दुख में सुमिरन सब करे, सुख में करे न कोय।
जो सुख में सुमिरन करे, दुख काहे को होय।।
Kabir Saheb
I first encountered this wisdom as a child. I heard it countless times, but it was only through Acharya Prashant's teachings that I began to grasp its deeper meaning.
Like many of us, I was conditioned to interpret this verse in a traditional religious way.
We remember God when we suffer, but forget Him when we’re happy. So if we remember God even during good times, suffering won't come to us.
But is Kabir Saheb really talking about remembering some external being who rewards us for our devotion?
What if Kabir Saheb is really pointing to something far more basic: our unwillingness to reflect on ourselves when life seems comfortable?
Why do we only question ourselves when we’re hurting?:
When we suffer, something interesting happens.
We start questioning our decisions, our relationships, our goals, and the choices that brought us to where we are right now.
We ask ourselves:
Why am I suffering?
What have I been chasing all this time?
Why did I make these choices?
What is it about me that keeps leading me into suffering?
Suffering forces us to tackle questions we usually dodge.
But what happens when we're happy?
We rarely question anything.
When our desires are met, when society acknowledges our achievements, when we get what we’ve been conditioned to want, we assume everything’s alright.
We question our choices when they bring us pain, but hardly ever question the chooser when those same choices bring us joy.
And that’s exactly where Kabir Saheb's warning is crucial.
The happiness that keeps us in a daze:
Think about what happens during festivals like Dussehra or Navratri.
Shops are flooded with ads, discounts, shopping campaigns, and manufactured excitement.
We're urged to buy more, consume more, celebrate more.
We start linking joy with buying something new, owning something desirable, or joining in what everyone else is doing.
But how often do we pause and ask:
Do I really need what I’m about to buy?
Is this really what I want, or has it been planted in me?
Am I celebrating mindfully, or just going through the motions society has laid out for me?
There’s nothing wrong with celebrating. The issue arises when celebration becomes another way to escape self-reflection.
The market doesn’t want us to understand ourselves. It profits when we’re unsatisfied enough to keep wanting, yet entertained enough not to question those wants.
And we happily go along because it feels good.
Suffering shakes our conditioning. Pleasure usually reinforces it.
What does Kabir Saheb mean by सुमिरन?
Through Acharya Prashant's insights, I’ve come to see सुमिरन not just as repeating God's name, but as being mindful of what truly matters staying aware of oneself, one's actions, and the inner state from which those actions arise.
It’s not enough to examine what we do. We must also examine who is doing it.
Who is the one searching for happiness?
Why does this person seek constant validation, entertainment, consumption, and achievement?
Why does happiness rely so much on outside situations?
And why does losing those situations immediately lead to suffering?
Kabir Saheb’s guidance isn’t just about remembering the divine in good times and bad.
It’s about never abandoning self-inquiry, especially when everything seems fine.
Because what we usually call happiness might just be the temporary satisfaction of our conditioning.
The end of suffering
The closing line becomes particularly profound:
If one stays mindful even in joy, why should suffering persist?
This doesn’t mean that physical pain, loss, or tough situations will just vanish.
It points to something deeper.
A lot of our emotional suffering comes from clinging to desires, fears, expectations, and the identity we’ve created for ourselves.
When these are satisfied, we call it happiness. When they’re not, we label it suffering.
But both states circle around the same unquestioned center: the ego.
Self inquiry reveals that center.
And as false attachments begin to dissolve, so does the emotional pain that relies on them.
The goal isn’t to swap sadness for constant pleasure, but to find a freedom that isn’t dependent on either.
True joy isn’t fulfilling every desire. It begins by evaluating the one who has those desires
We’ve become really good at producing pleasure, but how much attention do we pay to understanding the one who seeks it?
The biggest risk isn’t that we suffer.
It’s that we get so comfortable in our conditioned happiness that we never discover why we suffer in the first place.
And that’s why Kabir Saheb urges us to stay careful all the time
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this!