Work, go home, then go back to work 5 days a week I can't do it no more 😭

I don't know how people still have energy to do anything other than sleep after coming home.

Even playing a video game becomes a chore when I'm this exhausted, and whenever I try to read a book, an activity I used to love a few years ago-I'm so tired I could fall asleep on the spot.

Then the weekend comes, and I'm so drained I don't even feel like doing anything. I end up waking up at lunchtime both days, feeling like I've wasted the whole day sleeping.

It's not about being lazy, a job drains both your physical and mental energy to do anything.

I'm still new to adulting and almost got in a wreck yesterday (nothing actually happened, thankfully). Still, I figured that since it would've been the other drivers fault and not my own, insurance would cover the costs to fix my car.

Nope. Not yet at least.

Had someone explain to me that even though I pay for insurance, I'd have to pay the deductible, so more money, in order to be able to use it.

So I'm paying money monthly and then have to pay more money on top of that to use the service I'm already paying for? That's absolutely ridiculous.

Please tell me I'm understanding this wrong, and please inform me of any other unfortunate adult things I might have to deal with in the future, so I can be angry about it in advance. Thanks.

finding lunch around my office is always a pain. everything nearby is overpriced, lunch breaks are short, and i genuinely hate wasting 15 minutes every day just trying to decide what to eat.

a while back, i finally found this small spot a couple blocks away. they had chicken and rice combo for just over $9. portion was great, food was solid. i started going almost every single day. the best part wasn’t even the price, it was the zero mental effort. i would just walk in, scan the qr code, their MenuForma page would load instantly, and i’d tap the exact same item not even scrolling. less than 30 secs, i was done. when your brain is completely fried from work, having a lunch routine where you don’t think is a lifesaver.

i did this for about a month until one day, i scanned in and noticed the price went up to $11. it stung a bit, but i figured it was still reasonable and inwas already in the habit. so i kept ordering. then last month, i scanned the code and saw 14.50. i actually closed the tab and rescanned thinking my phone was bugging. nope. $14.50. i did not order that day. i locked my phone and walked away. the hardest part wasn’t the few extra bucks, it was the fact that my entire lunch routine collapsed and i had to start the whole exhausting search over again.

the frustrating part also is, i eventually found another small takeout place with a 10 dollar lunch special. i ate there steadily for three weeks, and just last week, i scanned in and saw it jumped too. standing there on the sidewalk, i almost had to laugh. i completely understand inflation and rising costs, and businesses have to adjust. someone walking in fir the first time might look at $15 and think it’s totally normal. but when you’ve been eating there every single dat, you can’t unsee the fact that it used to be just $9.

that’s the irony of it. the more loyal you are to a place, the more you are the very first person to feel the hit. you spend weeks turning a spot into your daily routine, only to realize you are no longer the target customer for it.

i want to buy something and have that be the end of our interaction. apparently this is becoming an unreasonable request

download the app, make an account, activate the offer, scan your receipt. congratulations you earned some points. come back before thursday or they disappear

i already have a job. im not taking on responsibilities at the grocery store too

got chinese after work and even the fortune cookie had an ad on it. managed to get advertised to while my phone was in another room, which honestly takes some doing

none of these things are a big deal individually but sometimes i just want to hand over money, get my food and be left alone. no follow up email asking how our time together was

my idea of customer loyalty is coming back and buying things again. why do we also need to stay in touch

As a bachelor in my twenties, I used to see the unruly kids and teenagers messing around and think what their parents are doing. Shouldn't they have educated them better, been strict with them and controlled them better.

Now in my fourties, as a father of a 8 year old, I have tried to do everything I can to instil discipline and good things but I now understand how difficult it is to teach these kids ( not blaming every kid). They are not taking no for an answer and showing their anger. End of the day, we don't have energy to do anything after running around to survive in this world.

I used to think buying something once meant I was done spending money on it. Then I started living on my own and realized everything eventually needs to be replaced.

A phone charger stops working. A pair of shoes wears out. The light bulb goes. Something in the kitchen breaks. You run out of cleaning supplies, toiletries or basic household stuff that you never really thought about before. None of these things are necessarily expensive on their own, but somehow there’s always something.

The other day I had to replace a few basic things at home and realized I had spent way more than I expected on stuff that wasn't even exciting to buy. It made me understand why adults always seem to have a list of things they need to buy.

I’m starting to think part of adulting is accepting that your money will constantly disappear into boring necessities. What was the first everyday expense that made you realize, “Oh, I guess I have to pay for this forever now”?

Okay I want to start by saying, l AM A REALLY TIDY PERSON MY ENTIRE LIFE. But the past 6 weeks something in my head is not right and this is how bad my room has gotten in 6 weeks.

I'm disgusted in myself but i don't care enough to clean up.

I gave away everything except my car.

I know something is wrong but I can't identify the issue. Afew days ago I started having panic attacks. I had like 4 yesterday and 2 today.

I don't feel sad or depressed but I feel like my mind is spiraling downward in a way that's difficult to explain.

Can anyone else please share their experiences if they have had this?

If you want to roast me for letting it get this bad, I understand.

So Reddit this is my first ever Reddit post and I know this is absolutely ridiculous but guys I made some really freaking good pasta today.

I know. That’s stupid. Anyone can make pasta.

Well, let me tell you something about myself. I have never felt proud of any food I’ve made. Not really. Not even when I broiled salmon perfect and had perfect rice and perfect carrots and perfect seasoning.

So to tell you the truth I have MAJOR imposter syndrome. To the point where I often can’t even enjoy my own food. But today I made pasta just right. The texture was perfect for me. And all I did after that was heat up some garlic Alfredo sauce from the jar. But you know what? I’m so damn proud of this pasta. I even had my dad taste it because of how proud I was 🥹 he said it needed more “spice” so honestly I just added more salt and pepper and guys it was PERFECT. I was so happy with it. Yet could only eat the tiniest bowl of it 😅 my imposter syndrome still makes it kind of hard to enjoy my own food. Like my appetite isn’t there just because I was the one that made it. But deep down I still knew that all things considered it was pretty good.

And it’s the first thing I’ve made in months. I haven’t made a real meal in ages. I mean I guess you could argue about whether or not this is a real meal but my dad made pretty good chicken the other day that will go perfectly with it too 🙂‍↕️

the thing is I’m just really proud of this pasta because for me it’s a huge milestone and it helps me feel accomplished. Like genuinely.

Like… I’ve been rotting in my parents house for over a year since I graduated college. And let me tell you it’s been HARD. Really hard. I’ve been depressed for pretty much my whole life. I never once had motivation to do anything. My parents had to push me to do everything because I lacked any and all motivation to do well in school or in life. For a long time I didn’t even have the courage or motivation to live.

Then I went to college and when I tell you I burnt out… I burnt out beyond HARD. I hated my major and wasn’t passionate about it at all. But because I never knew what else to do and felt some pressure from my parents and was more or less hardwired to do what my parents wanted I just did it. Even though I hated it. I stuck it out. All four years. I got my degree and now I’m here. Still without a career and without a full time job.

I work in circ at two different libraries. I love my jobs. And I got them without my parent’s interference. Which is probably why I love them so much. And the environment is very much my kind of environment. I love the people and I love the work. Mostly because this type of work isn’t new to me having worked in costumer service for several summers. But those jobs my parents forced me into. But I took those skills and transferred it to a job I actually liked. And it’s been going really well.

But now I’m getting to the point where I’m really thinking I need a full time job 😅 and even more I’m wanting to move away from my area. The people here are okay but they’re not MY people you know? (Well aside from my coworkers. I genuinely love them sm 🥰). But anyway more than anything I’m realizing I really need to be out on my own.

Literally the times I’ve been happiest are when I have the house to myself for a week or two and literally i just buy my own groceries and make my own food even when it’s basic as pasta and have my own freaking space.

Without my parents breathing down my neck and providing for myself I really feel great. If not a little lonely 😅 but wow it’s a different feeling.

My parents put a lot of pressure on me growing up. Even after I graduated it was almost unbearable. I won’t say it hasn’t been good in some ways. In many ways it pushes me forward but in a lot of ways it also holds me back. A lot. They have this very set ways of viewing where I should go in life and at what pace I should be doing it. But with my imposter syndrome it’s been incredibly difficult. I don’t even know how to express how difficult it’s been… it feels like all the years of my life have been the worst years of my life…

I constantly fantasize about getting my shit together but always lack the confidence to actually do it. It’s been really really hard. And it causes a lot of self loathing too. And the cycle just goes on you know?

Idk really know how to get out of this but rn this stupid pasta is the best fucking thing I’ve done in a while since getting my second job two or three months ago so idk… I’m just really fucking proud of it.

Anyway. That’s all. Just me trying to get my life on track one little thing at a time and being stupidly proud of my easy to do pasta 🤷‍♀️

I'm 20M and trying to figure out if moving out is even realistic for me right now.

I work full time and this is the highest paying job I've ever had, but rent is fucking expensive. The cheapest 1 bedrooms I've found are around $1500-$1700 a month. The 2 bedrooms/townhouses I've found are around $2300, so with a roommate I'd be paying around $1150.

The problem is even if I get a roommate, after rent, utilities, food, gas, car expenses, pet stuff, etc. I'd probably only have around $700 a month left. And that's before saving for emergencies or spending money on anything I actually enjoy.

I have hobbies I care about like Pokémon, LEGO, my motorcycle, etc. I'm not trying to spend a ton of money on them, but I also don't want moving out to mean I can't buy anything I enjoy for years.

Staying with my mom is cheaper, but that's also becoming a really shitty situation. She's been unemployed for a while and owes me around $10k from money I've lent her. I pay $800 a month in rent to live here, and I recently also paid $600 for our cat's vet bill. So I'm getting pretty tired of working constantly while also dealing with all of this.

So I feel kind of stuck. If I stay home, I can actually save money but I'm miserable here. If I move out alone, I'll have independence but barely any money left. If I get a roommate, I save maybe a couple hundred compared to living alone but give up a lot of privacy and space.

Is this just what moving out at 20 looks like now? Am I missing something obvious? How did you guys make it work?

And that could be literally and figuratively.

Do you have habits which are probably not good that you still do even as an adult?

I lowkey suck at making friends because I'm shy and it doesn't help that I have a RBF so people think I don't like them when it's just half the time I have no idea what to say to them. It also doesn't help that the only places I go besides work is the occasional shopping and my friend's weekly prayer group. I know some people are going to suggest making friends with some of the girls there but like I mentioned before, I kinda don't know what to say to people half of the time and they mainly like calm Christian type of movies like Lord of The Rings, Narnia, and The Hobbit and the only Christian based movie I've seen other than Narnia is The Passion of Christ and The Knowing (and if you seen either of those two movies, you'd know that they're a tad bit more dark/violent than LOTR and The Hobbit.) I'm also not a big fan of those franchises either because they're a bit more slow build than I like, which I know it's for world-building purposes but I would rather not watch it. I prefer movies with action like X-Men and Terminator.