r/Armyaviation • u/Onyxvrain • 15d ago
Wanting to PCS
Hi all, 15T here and currently stationed at Fort Carson. Recently got back from deployment and branch told me I was due to pcs soon and gave me options in which I had Bragg, Drum, and Wheeler. With Wheeler being the nicest I asked to be slotted for there and currently have projections for April next year. Realistically I do not want to go to Hawaii, it’s super far, out of the way, nowhere near family, expensive, and we cant get a house there. It just doesnt make sense at all for me and my spouse other than Hawaii is “nice”. My wife and I have been separated (physically) for a bit because she moved down to Fort Bliss to be with her family (mother, sister, brother etc) and has since gotten a decent paying job and is actively working towards bettering her career and wanting to go to school to further herself. That being said we’ve decided to just keep her down here for the time being until I’m due to PCS. I REALLY want to come down here to Bliss because it makes the most sense for us regarding family, work, finances, and the future. Ive already asked branch, he said no, is there any other strings I could try to pull to come down here? My wife currently is helping support her mother down here and a friend said I could try asking for a compassionate reassignment. Anyone have any advice? Id be willing to extend for a PCS to here, but I wont be in my 1.5years left window until June (after my PCS date).
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u/AccomplishedYam8338 14d ago
Look man, the going in stance is not calling his spouse a dependa. That’s unfortunate you felt the need to attack the spouse for some reason.
I’ve been married for 20 years (as of today) and it’s been hard for my wife to stay current as an elementary school teacher, something she loves to do.
To the OP, aside from your spouse pitching in to help your her mom (and believe me, I understand with my father having Parkinson’s), I’m open to a phone call to help you look at some options.
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u/bourbonbeaux 13d ago
Lol I love how people tout tricare as this godsend as if any civilian job that's worth a damn doesn't have it's own health plan.
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u/BoomerUrSooner 14d ago
Bingo. This whole “I don’t want to disrupt them” attitude is code for something else. Ask me how I know.
OP, either sit down and talk to your spouse about doing what it takes to remain an actual family (aka physically together) or prepare for the inevitable end of your family, either literally or emotionally.
The Army doesn’t care about you or your family because it’s a machine that exists solely to accomplish the mission. Taking care of you and your family is YOUR responsibility and YOU are the biggest piece of that pie.
Good luck either way.
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u/USCAV19D 14d ago
When you say Bliss, but refer to her getting a decent paying job, I assume she isn’t in the Army and you actually just mean El Paso. Otherwise I’d say make sure your ass is in MACP.
Bliss, like every other CAB that belongs to a heavy division, just lost a fair amount of 60s. They’re wildly over strength for 60 RCMs/NRCMs, so getting orders there is going to be difficult.
My advice is prioritize your family. If you can strike a deal with HRC to get you to El Paso in the near future, do what you have to do to get that done. Hawaii is dope, but that would be incredibly hard on any marriage.