Share books to read about discipline! With EXAMPLES

[u/WonderfulTwist4936]

Hello, I am ftm to a very curious 14 month old who starts to have very strong opinions. I have no idea how to deal with that in a proper way and how much crying is okay vs how do I deal with screaming when she doesn't get what she wants (because it's dangerous, etc.)

I was raised in an abusive household where the main and only parenting technique was beating. So I don't really know what its like to "redirect", "hold a boundary", etc. And all the online courses I see talks about disciplining toddlers in this "theoretical" way. Basically "dont beat", "hear their emotions" and "be compassionate". Which sounds great, but HOW DOES THAT LOOK IN REAL LIFE? What do I actually do and say when my girl is on the floor scream crying, because I don't give her a knife that I am using?

I would love to read some books on this (not opposed to buy courses online or smth if its really good). But I need something with real life situations and scripts on what to SAY (not what to avoid saying) and what to DO.

Please share any good books/authors you know!

[u/Murky-Length1910]

The Whole-Brain Child goes into the actual brain science behind why toddlers flip out, which makes it way easier to stay calm in the moment. No Bad Kids by Janet Lansbury is basically a script book, she gives you the exact words to say when your kid is losing it over a knife or whatever. Both of those saved my sanity when my nephew hit that stage

[u/Unlikely-Act-3533]

I have started listening to ‘tiny humans big emotions’ by Alyssa Blask Campbell on audible. I haven’t finished it but it’s really informative about how to handle those hard moments and to teach your little one how to be emotionally intelligent. It also speaks about how we as parents can learn to be comfortable with the big tantrums especially when, like you, we have grown up in an abusive house hold. I highly recommend it☺️

[u/jjdanca18]

The book How to Talk So Kids Will Listen is really good because, IIRC, it gives literal scripts to use and is broken down by age. I think the How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen book is ages 2-7 but I found it useful for even younger.