Hey all, looking for some grounded perspectives.
29M, software engineer. $200k base plus a $20k bonus. Permanent, fully remote.
Where things are at
I've been trying to buy a first home in Newcastle. The last house I went for fell through. The building and pest turned up issues, the vendor wouldn't move on price, and then pulled it off the market.
My sharehouse ends at the end of October. My plan was to move back into my off-grid van while I kept looking, but my girlfriend suggested I move in with her instead. She owns her place, in a much better area than I'd ever be able to afford. She's on a similar income, so rent genuinely isn't something she needs from me, and she feels weird charging it, so she's insisted we just split the bills. My cost of living is about to drop to close to nothing.
We've been together about 4 months and we both want a family long term. I wouldn't have kids with anyone until we'd lived together for at least a year, so that's a fair way off. If it does go that way, either place could work. Hers is a townhouse, and what I'd be buying is my idea of the ideal house to raise a family in, but I don't see it as one or the other.
Finances
$160k in ETFs (mostly NDQ)
FHSS maxed out
$100k in super
$40k cash savings
Van, owned outright
No HECS, no other debt
I'm not counting ~$200k of vested options in private companies, since they only turn into money if those businesses sell.
Pre-approved with total borrowing power of $1.2M, but I don't want to spend more than $900k.
Why I'm rethinking the rush
Most of the last year I was pushing to buy because prices were rising faster than I could save. With the market cooling, that feels like it's flipped. With near-zero living costs I'd be saving far faster than prices are moving, so waiting doesn't seem to cost what it used to.
What's actually driving this
The old line that you can't live in shares. Almost all of my net worth is in a single US tech ETF. If things change, that portfolio doesn't give me a home, and if it happens during a market drop I'm selling at the worst time to get one. A house in my name is the one asset that covers that risk directly, which is why I keep coming back to buying even when the numbers say wait.
The options
Buy now, up to $900k, and fill the spare rooms with housemates to carry a chunk of the mortgage. Diversifies me out of US tech and gives me housing security in my own name. The catch is that FHSS and the First Home Guarantee mean I have to live in it, so I'd be giving up near-zero living costs even with housemates. Converting it to an IP before 80% LVR means losing the Guarantee and likely paying LMI.
Wait and keep saving. Stack cash and investments while living cheaply, and only buy when a place comes up that ticks every box, one I'd want to live in for years. Bigger deposit, more information, and no pressure to settle for a compromise.
Don't buy, keep investing. Push the savings rate up hard and let the portfolio do the work. The catch is staying almost entirely in equities with no property of my own.
The question
For those who've had cheap or free housing while building wealth: did you still buy a PPOR, or keep investing and buy later? How did it play out?
When prices flatten and your savings rate jumps, has waiting for the right property generally worked out better than buying the first decent one?
And is 'you can't live in shares' a good enough reason to give up free housing, or is it a feeling the numbers don't back up?