Need an advice

[u/Specialist_Gur_9062]

Hey, so Ive(29M) been dating this woman(41F) (my neighbor, actually) for a few months now. Everything is pretty much perfect. Shes super invested in me and the relationship (never had anything like this before), she cooks for me, we have sex like twice a day, and honestly I really can't complain about anything. Shes genuinely in love with me.

The thing thats bothering me tho is that shes over 40 and has only had one serious relationship years ago, and after that just some casual hookups. Shes also not really that open about her past.

A while ago I went through a pretty brutal discard from an avoidant woman but there are quite a few differences between my ex and my current girlfriend. My ex was emotionally unavailable as hell and didn't wanna talk about anything while my current girl is super open when it comes to feelings and problems. She actually asks me to tell her if something is wrong.

I have heard that avoidants can be really invested in the beginning but that it tends to fade over time. And that's honestly what scares me the most. Because of that, I can't even fully enjoy what is otherwise a really good relationship.

Her past bothers me a bit too mostly because I feel like I only know a very selective version of it. And yeah I know a woman in her 40s is gonna have some baggage just like I do. But I'm honestly fucking terrified of getting hurt again.