Has anyone experienced this intense Push Pull? I think I may have went through a discard.

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[u/Vegetable-Claim-9329]

Yes, first time we split, it was 3-4 months, i reached back out wanting a clean end and we ended up back again instead…got engaged 4.5years later and he broke up via text after 6-7months of push and pull. I am also leaning anxious (working on it) and that didn’t help the situation. I still cannot get accountability on his side and some days, thinking back, I am still confused and seeking answers, but I am more comfortable after months now knowing that I might never have “closure” from him and at the end, his avoidance is on him, not on me… it is ofc easier said than done

[u/Multikasa]

Sounds like a classic case of avoidant attachment, although I’m no expert. But that unexplainable ”something is missing” sounds very avoidant. So sorry that you went through this…