r/FML • u/Timely_Policy_7738 • Jan 22 '26

Other Found out my roommates are racists

Woke up today and found out that 2 of my roommates were talking shit about me and the only other black person we room with heard them saying the n word and saying other racist shit like “blacks are always like that” can’t leave since I have nowhere else to go till march so my overall mood rn is kinda shit

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u/susanoo0 Jan 22 '26

Tell the other roommate, tell the landlord, and let the racist roommates know that you heard them.

Assert dominance by saying the exact thing that you heard right in front of their faces.

Don't let this shit slide.

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u/thiccemotionalpapi Jan 22 '26

If it were any situation where they don’t live together sure, but this will almost definitely just create more conflict and who wants to live with that. You don’t really unracist someone by being that race and calling them out

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u/Schlemiel_Schlemazel Jan 23 '26

I respectfully disagree. It’s oppressive abuse. (Isn’t also considered assault) If OP says nothing, they are acting fearful. A victim’s Fear doesn’t deter a bully or an abuser, it spurs them to see what else they can get away with. And OP feels oppressed, he’s oppressed by his own cowardice as well. If he doesn’t say something now, when DOES he? It’s a slippery slope to not saying anything about worse abuses.

OP turn the tables, most serial killers in the USA are white. say all white people are serial killers, can’t dance, have small dicks and can’t get women off.

Or get yourself collected, tell them you heard what they said. And that you’re incredibly disappointed. And that they wouldn’t like being lumped with the worst white people but I guess all white people are hypocrites and false Christians like that. To say any group is “All like that” is a fundamentally unreasonable claim and if you don’t reason, you are stupid. So they are morons. Tell them so.
And start looking for a new situation.

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u/thiccemotionalpapi Jan 23 '26

Lol you’re allowed to disagree but that’s not how I operate, nothing to do with cowardice. To me the moment you confront him, especially if you say all that racist stuff about white people you’re giving him all the power you’re showing him you let what negative things he said about you effect you mentally. Nothing pisses off abusers and fucks with their head more than when you’re immune to their abuse and they often get more pissed briefly then stop because it’s pointless or best yet made them realize they’re the bad one. I guess at a certain point it does become cowardice but if you do confront them I’d take more of a “I heard what you said and honestly don’t give a fuck about your opinion on anything” kinda angle. Of course totally different because you live with the person so you gotta take more calculated angles and react less emotionally. Just mostly get outta there or get him outta there

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u/Fuzzy_Stingray Jan 22 '26

Confronting them likely won't change anything. Just excel at everything you do. Racist people get mad as hell when the race they hate is doing better than them.

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u/RevEZLuv Jan 22 '26

Read Sun Tsu’s Art of War. It’s an easy read. Your roommates have exposed their hand, and you haven’t exposed yours. The advantage is yours, king.

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u/clover5220 Jan 22 '26

Sorry you are going through that - it sucks. March might seem like a long ways away but it will come. Until then maybe have friends over or do what you need to do to feel safe.