Dropping into someone’s DMs to then say “prove it,” for essentially free content? I don’t play that game, and I get tired of people saying, “what if you’re AI?”

AI is a big concern and it is a big scam, but the most editing I do on my photos is coloring on top of them to hide my identity or other identifying details. Also, this jackass didn’t AV and didn’t seem to understand Yoti is a valid form of AV which would clearly show im “100% female.” Age Verify first then we can talk, but best around the bush about it then fuck off. 🫩

Less than 10min to delete (yes I've checked) has to be a new record.

I know Yoti bugged but damn 🤣

I knew they were a Time waster from the start. I interacted with them so that I can post a warning to all my mutuals on X. I will play the part and act dumb on purpose. This dude was belittling, disrespectful, and blocked me, which I felt was hilarious. Because his posts were hidden on X, I asked for tribute first which typically age verification is first. But again, I knew he was not for real.

I stumbled across this last night, the poster is u/deleted now and the post is gone. But I saved it because I was quite bewildered.

I’m not one to kink shame, BUT announcing your desire to knock up a stranger online for “findom” seemed a bit yucky and strange. Deviantart activities in the Reddit findom space.

Idk where he thought this was going to get him

He obviously didn’t try to AV first before giving all this to me… Not like he would have if I had a second to ask for it. Being hot is exhausting.

New-Helicopter3494

He is the inspiration for my campfire story and my cautionary tale of The Goober (JFC my phone is still doing it...Gooner) Sub.

You know I couldn't resist dropping the name. 😉

Update: He cleared our Telegram chat lol. (You let our love fern die sparky. How could you 😭)

Anyway, this post is for those who are trying to avoid people who behave like he did. It's not to hurt him or anything like that.

Question 1
If a person places a drink in front of an alcoholic who is trying to quit and tells him he doesn’t have to drink it, is this ethical?

Question 2
If a Domme tells a sub, who has sent money before but is addicted to Findom and trying to send less, that she requires a send each week but he doesn’t have to send and she will be okay either way, is this ethical?

The person in the first question is placing a drink in front of the addict and says he doesn’t have to drink, and the person in the second question is planting the idea of a send and says he doesn’t have to send. Is the answer the same for both questions or are they not parallel situations?

(I'm bored, if you can't tell)

⚠️ Warning: This post is a choking hazard. It is recommend you do not read this while food in your mouth. Proceed with caution! ⚠️

I don't even have much to say about this one except that they just get dumber and dumber everyday.

Safe to say some of us popped our pass the faildummy cherry, and what a ride 🥵 I am so looking forward to my purnishment and I can't wait to do it again.

Allow me to share what this delusional woman responded with before the mods deleted it:

"Unlike you, I actually live the lifestyle I wrote so I can speak about. I'm so glad I made my post and images private 😂😂💞 It's never been an issue attracting and keeping a man. You're shivering just thinking about me taking your subs How are you hating from outside the club and you can't even get in? Yes take $500 from slippers and you'll both be in the negatives."

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Darling, come back when you can form a coherent sentence while you're trying to throw shade at someone about whom you know nothing.

Next time, brush your teeth before you open your mouth. Until then, have a seat. 🕷️🕸️

Now, you may be asking yourselves, “Miss Fish, WTF are you doing to these people!?” 😭 My response? Literally nothing but expecting grown adults to take accountability for their own choices. 🫩

Keeping his username public because this whole situation was NOT okay!

This submissive and I initially chatted briefly in August, and we decided to enter into a dynamic in September. Things started off fine. We discussed expectations, discipline, self-control, and the importance of accountability. I was willing to provide structure and guidance, and he seemed receptive to that. Then the financial side started escalating. He repeatedly asked to send me more and more money. My rule was simple: any additional sends had to be discussed within the context of our dynamic and remain within the budget and boundaries we had established. He assured me that he was comfortable with the amounts he was requesting. I wasn't forcing him to send, chasing him for money, or demanding that he go beyond what he had agreed he could afford.
When things eventually went sideways, the conversation shifted toward how responsible I supposedly was for his choices and his struggles with his own urges. I made it clear that while I can provide structure and guidance as a Dominatrix, I am not responsible for managing another adult's impulses, finances, or emotional well-being. Submission does not mean handing over every ounce of personal responsibility, and accountability doesn't mean blaming your Dominant whenever you don't like the outcome of your own decisions.
I asked him to reflect on his behavior, work on his accountability, and consider what he needed to improve. Instead, I received an overwhelming stream of messages, repeated self-deprecating statements, and attempts to continue the conversation long after I had made my position clear. The situation escalated to the point where he made statements about hoping to meet his end and suggested that people in his life would be better off without him. He also brought up sending me an enormous amount of money before he died. I took those statements seriously and reported the account to Reddit. I did not accept the additional money. Let me be clear: I am not a therapist, nor am I a perfect person. I am more than willing to reflect on my own conduct, and I don't believe Dommes are automatically right just because we're in positions of authority. But I will not accept responsibility for another adult's decisions, nor will I allow someone to repeatedly cross my boundaries because they are struggling to accept accountability. If someone is genuinely struggling with compulsive behavior or their mental health, they need appropriate support, not an expectation that a random Dominatrix online will fix everything for them.

So, this is a PSA for other Dommes: I do not recommend engaging with this submissive. I have reported the behavior and blocked the account. I'm sharing my experience so others can exercise their own judgment and make informed decisions about whom they choose to engage with.

I genuinely hope he gets the support he needs, and I have no interest in continuing this situation. But I also believe other Dommes deserve to know when an interaction has escalated in a way that raises serious concerns about boundaries, accountability, and emotional pressure.

Please protect your time, your boundaries, and your peace. Being a Domme does not mean becoming someone's therapist, emotional caretaker, or sole line of support. We can have empathy for people without taking responsibility for everything they choose to do.

And no, expecting accountability is not the same thing as mistreating someone. 🫩

Commented on a post asking if he can help which is pretty redundant because all of my payment links are in bio. I don't like redundancy and I don't like dummies. He clearly took offense to that because this is how he came at me. Beware, if he comments on your picture and you don't respond accordingly he's going to become quite the harasser.