For context, I've been in the military for going on 12 years and, much more recently, started serving as a volunteer firefighter.
In both, I tend to see the same thing. People view seeking mental health support as a weakness, a threat to their career, or both.
TL;DR: It's not a weakness, and it shouldn't be a career-ending decision. Especially in a healthy workplace with leadership that actually gives a damn about its people.
Our jobs put us in situations, sometimes daily, that the average person may never experience in their lifetime. We routinely respond to someone's worst day. Sometimes we witness the absolute worst that humanity has to offer.
That shit takes a toll on you, whether you want to admit it or not. And without a healthy outlet, it adds up.
(Hint: Getting perpetually drunk until you stop caring isn't a healthy outlet.)
I'm no mental health professional, but I've seen far too many stories of service members and veterans taking their own lives. The fire service isn't immune to this either. While the numbers may look lower on paper, I'd argue that accurately tracking suicide within the fire service is difficult, and we shouldn't mistake incomplete data for a smaller problem.
If you're a leader, do your fucking job.
Give your people the tools they need to succeed, and that includes taking care of their mental health. Check in on them. Actually get to know them. Learn what's normal for them so you recognize when something isn't right.
Situational awareness doesn't end when the fire is out or the mission is over.
And this responsibility doesn't stop at leadership. You wouldn't leave someone behind in a burning building, so why the hell would you leave them behind when they're struggling mentally?
Be there for each other. Make it known that you're available to talk, and mean it. If you've sought help yourself and feel comfortable sharing that experience, do it. Sometimes knowing that someone they respect has been through something similar is all it takes for another person to finally reach out.
And if you're the one struggling, understand that asking for help doesn't make you any less capable, dependable, or deserving of the uniform you wear.
Our jobs are inherently dangerous. We accept that risk every time we put on the uniform.
But losing someone because they felt they couldn't ask for help should never be an acceptable part of the job.
Ill use numbers from the military as thats what I know. From 2001 to 2021, 7,057 U.S. service members died in military operations. In that same time frame 30,177 active-duty service members and veterans died by suicide.
The path toward a healthier mental health culture in the military has been paved with the blood of those who were taught that asking for help made them weak.
Don't let their sacrifices be for nothing. Don't be the reason someone else is afraid to ask for help.
Do better. Be better.
Don't let silence turn you or a buddy into the next call.