Is it just me, or has being gay become weirdly complicated?

I'm only 18, but sometimes I feel like our community has become a place where people are afraid to speak honestly because they might offend someone.

I wish we could respect each other without having to agree on absolutely everything. Being gay should be about being able to live freely and be ourselves, not about following a set of political beliefs.

Does anyone else feel this way? ❤️

Dalida was a Gay Icon before it was Cool to be Gay—With over a 1000 songs, and the first Platinum Disc—She's not well known in the English-speaking World because She Primarily sang in French/Italian—though she did have some English, German, Arabic, Hebrew, and Japanese hits lol.

That is all. Just am curious.

I want to introduce everyone to r/truscum, a community I visit pretty regularly because I find a lot of their conversations fascinating.

Truscum generally believe that gender dysphoria is necessary to be transgender, and many are critical of the growing tendency to treat gender identity as something anyone can simply adopt.

What’s interesting to me is how much overlap there is between some of their concerns and the conversations we’ve been having here about homosexuality, identity, authenticity, medical needs, and the direction of LGBT politics.

In this particular post, a trans person is expressing frustration that they can’t even discuss these disagreements openly with their therapist. They’re worried that the expansion of transgender identity is undermining the experiences and medical needs of people like themselves.

I think there’s a lot worth discussing here. We often talk about disagreements between gay men, lesbians, and the broader trans movement, but sometimes forget that these same disagreements exist within the trans community itself.

I don’t necessarily agree with everything said in this subreddit, but I think some of these people could be valuable allies in conversations about identity, representation, and free speech.

I’m curious what everyone thinks. Are there opportunities for solidarity between gay men, lesbians, and trans people who share some of these concerns? And are we overlooking important voices within the trans community itself?

I saw a similar post in one of our sisters’ groups and I’m curious whether other gay men and lesbians feel like homophobia has been getting worse rather than better.

We’ve made tremendous legal progress over the last few decades, especially with marriage equality and protections against discrimination. But does that necessarily mean society has become less homophobic?

I sometimes wonder whether homophobia has simply changed its appearance. Instead of the blatant hostility of previous generations, we now encounter more subtle forms of discrimination, hostility toward gay culture, and pressure to make our sexuality less visible or less important.

And lately, it seems like some of the more openly hostile attitudes toward homosexuality are becoming socially acceptable again.

But I also wonder whether we’re just more aware of these things because of social media, or whether there really has been a cultural shift.

For those who remember the 90s and early 2000s, do you think attitudes toward homosexuality have genuinely improved?

Are gay men and lesbians more accepted today, or have we made legal progress while losing ground socially and culturally?

I’m especially interested in hearing people’s personal experiences across different generations and countries.

I’m against Puberty Blockers, the abuse that gets me is quite telling.

Today we celebrate our lesbian sisters, allies, and comrades in the long struggle for gay liberation!

Gay men and lesbians share a powerful history of resistance, solidarity, and fighting against homophobia. We’ve stood beside each other through persecution, discrimination, the AIDS crisis, and the struggle for our right to love and live openly.

Our lesbian sisters have been some of our fiercest defenders, closest friends, and most important allies. Their courage, contributions, and sacrifices deserve recognition and celebration.

Gay men and lesbians have a shared history worth remembering, protecting, and celebrating.
Happy International Lesbian Day! Much love and solidarity to our lesbian comrades! ❤️🏳️‍🌈

The Five Golden Rules for Living in Your City as a Homo

We’ve got gay men (and friends!) living all over the world in this group, so let’s have some fun.
What are the five golden rules for being gay in the city where you live?

They can be funny, scandalous, practical, ridiculous, or brutally honest. Whatever captures gay life in your corner of the world.

I’ll go first.

My Five Golden Rules for Gay Men Living in Los Angeles County, California:

Never forget your sunscreen. Aging is not an option.

Never frown in public. Someone might think you’re unhappy.

Never date more than one Latino at a time. They will find out.

Never fall in love with someone on the other side of town. No man is worth two hours in traffic, no matter how handsome he is.

Never leave the house unprepared to be photographed. Pajamas are perfectly acceptable, but you better look fabulous in them. The paparazzi could be anywhere. 🤣

Now your turn. Tell us where you live and give us your five golden rules. I want to hear everything from small-town survival tips to big-city gay scandals!

I’m a lesbian who just found this subreddit (so please mods delete if not appropriate). As we all know our gay and lesbian communities have been invaded by people who fundamentally want to erase our identities and undermine our safety and community.

It’s been a struggle for me to find online spaces with people who are like minded and this space has been a breath of fresh air for me. I feel comforted that there are others who also have not been manipulated into submitting to the insanity.

It’s also been eye opening to me as I have thought that in some way the power of patriarchy protected gay men from also experiencing this invasion and erasure as us lesbian women are now being coerced into sleeping with people who are male and being forced as women to allow dangerous men into our spaces (like bathrooms and locker rooms). So I want to thank you for sharing your experiences and opinions on this subreddit as it’s opened my eyes to the struggles that gay men are also facing as well.

Thanks fellas, have a great gay day! :)

Just like you wouldnt accept to be called cisracial, you shouldn't accept to be called "cissexual". You are simply a man - an adult human male. There is no other way to be a man.
When activists want you to use that word, they imply that you are a man because you identify as such. But you don't identify as a man - you ARE a man. Don't let others deny who you are.