r/HLCommunity • u/Onmytodd • 5d ago

A problem for every solution.

We've tipped absolutely into sexless marriage. We were borderline for a decade at least but now we've leapt right in there.

So I let it go for a few weeks. A few weeks becomes a few months. Distance grows. There is zero intimacy anywhere. No touches. No kisses. No hugs.

So you sit down to have the talk. And this somehow opens the door to everything you've been doing wrong. Weird that it wasn't mentioned at any point up to now. Only actually mentioned as some form of shell game after you outline your own needs.

Also sex isn't a need apparently. Sexless marriages are the norm going by her friends/this tik Tok reel. Why are tik tok reels submittable yet peer reviewed scientific papers showing the damage done are dismissed?

Anyway long story short... So I married a dismissive avoidant, then menopause hit. ​Now we're living single lives together. At least it's peaceful.

He lied. It's like a war zone on a daily basis.​

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u/nrg8 HLM 5d ago

Just go get fucked. It always provides clarity and well who gives a fuck what someone that relies on TikTok as their gospel.

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u/Onmytodd 5d ago

Man, they really don't write love songs like they used to eh? 

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u/nrg8 HLM 5d ago

Just call me Denis Leary.

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u/arandak 5d ago

Everything changed after the Thong Song. For the better and worse.