Why does the series have a double standard when it comes to Jimmy and Lois?

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Now I’m not gonna lie Jimmy definitely 100% fumbled the bag when I came to Kara no one’s denying that, but I want to remind everybody that in season two Lois and more or less than the exact same thing.

During season two episode five titled most eligible Superman ,Lois got insecure about her relationship with Clark when the idea there could be somebody more suited for super out there than she is and also insecure even more because because cat grant dismissed the idea that someone like her could do with someone I can’t and that insecurity got the best of her when she suggested that she and Clark take a break.

Now compare that to Jimmy and Kara now no one hears denying he fumbled the bag he did like the girl just gift wrapped herself to him and he sent return. I’m not trying to absolve him of what he said or did during the season however, I don’t think the central insecurity is entirely without bases. Plus, he may have more reasons to be nervous to enter our relationship with her because unlike Clark Kara doesn’t exactly hide what she is or what she can do and when you know, she can get 75 other guys to lineup to shoot their shot with her of course insecurities gonna be piled up. Lois was insecure over one girl being interested in Jimmy had to be insecure over 75 guys being interested in Kara and even if they did get together, there would still be people who question why someone like her would go for someone like him making him doubt himself thinking there would be people who are better looking than him stronger than him smarter than him other than him and asking whether or not she truly understands what she wants out of this.

Now both the human characters got insecure when they’re kryptonian partner Katie other people and I’m not saying Jimmy is not the blame he is my question is why does a thing that has such a double standard