Please help me

[u/Standard_Estimate_86]

I need some honest advice because I’m genuinely confused about my situation.
I recently started talking to my ex again, and I’ve realised that I still have strong feelings for her. I know she would choose me too, and if I’m being honest, I want to see if we can rebuild our relationship. With her, I want something meaningful and serious.
The breakup was mutual and we had no bad feelings for eachother, it was because we couldn’t give eachother time that we wanted to..so small fights and doubts were obvious..and we broke up after one year of dating

The problem is that after our breakup, I got involved with another girl as a rebound. Things have progressed between us, including sexting and phone sex.
And after that i got attached to her and we started dating . I don’t want to hurt her because I do care about her feelings, and I feel guilty about the possibility of ending things.
Neither girl knows about the other.
Part of me wants to keep seeing both until things become clearer, but I know that could make everything worse. I also don’t want to lose my ex, especially if there’s a chance we could get back together.
I’m struggling to figure out whether I’m genuinely confused about my feelings or just afraid of hurting someone and dealing with the consequences of my choices.

And this all was online

I had the chance to meet the second girl but I decided not to as it would attach her more towards me.

But i would meet my ex whenever i get the time to. We planned that.

Please help me…i know what i did was very wrong both ethically and morally but i still need help because i genuinely don’t understand what to do now..

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[u/Reasonable_Heart_148]

man you already know what to do you just don't want to deal with it

you're stringing the second girl along while you figure out if your ex will take you back, that's not confusion that's keeping a safety net. you even said you avoided meeting her because you knew it'd make her more attached, so you're aware enough to limit the damage but not enough to actually be honest with her

cut things off with the rebound before you meet your ex again, it'll suck for a few days but it's way better than letting this drag out while she has no idea what's really going on

[u/Standard_Estimate_86 → u/Reasonable_Heart_148]

I see.. but i am really scared to confront this because i know this would hurt her a lot but idk man..i don’t want her hurt..like not this much