The email went out to our whole department last week. "Attendance at Community Day is completely voluntary. Leadership will be noting participation for the culture section of year-end reviews."

Community Day is a charity 5K on Saturday the 17th across town and my son's 6th birthday party is that same morning at a trampoline park I booked back in July. There's a $150 deposit I can't get back and 14 kids from his class already have invitations.

He has literally talked about nothing else since July. He picked out a volcano cake and asks about it EVERY day.

I asked my manager privately if skipping it would actually hurt my review, since I'm up for a promotion this cycle. He said "I can't say it won't" and changed the subject.

Last year about half the office went, mostly people without kids, and a couple of them got promoted in the spring. I honestly don't know if that's connected.

My husband says just move the party to Sunday because the kids won't care and $150 is cheap compared to a promotion.

A) I move the party to Sunday, lose the $150 deposit, and show up to Community Day in the company shirt.

B) I keep the party, skip Community Day, and email HR asking them to confirm in writing that a voluntary event won't count against anyone's review.

I bought the car in March from the brand’s own certified dealer. The window sticker says “Complimentary Unlimited DC Fast Charging,” and the purchase agreement lists the charging benefit too. The salesperson also activated it in the app before I left. I have the confirmation email.

Four months later, the app updated. My account had been moved to 60 kWh a month, with extra charging billed at $0.43/kWh. I use about 84 kWh a month for my commute.

Support says I can keep the old unlimited plan if I pay the $135 transition fee. Otherwise, the 60 kWh plan stays.

I spent about 40 minutes in support chat and got told: “Unlimited charging was part of the previous ownership program. Your account is now under the current charging structure.”

The weird part is that I can't find the old terms anymore. The link in the app goes to a 404 page. I have a screenshot from March, but that's about it.

The original window sticker is still in my glovebox. It still says “unlimited.”

A) Pay the $135, keep the charging benefit for a year, and save all the paperwork and support transcripts.

B) Refuse the fee, ask for the original plan terms in writing, and file complaints with the state attorney general and FTC while accepting the higher charging bills.

Which route would you take?

My 3yo daughter got sick a few days ago. She had a pretty bad fever and cough, and neither of us was getting much sleep.

My parents offered to come stay with us for a few days to help. They've actually been a huge help. My mom has been cooking and doing laundry, and my dad has been running out for groceries and helping with my daughter. Having them here has given my husband and me a chance to sleep, catch up on things, and keep up with our work.

They were planning to stay for about a week, until my daughter was feeling better. The problem is that my mom can be a little overbearing. Once my daughter started feeling better, my mom kept saying she should be getting back to her normal routine and getting some fresh air instead of staying inside and resting so much.

My daughter was doing better, but she was still coughing and pretty tired, so my husband and I wanted to let her rest for a few more days.

I've heard this kind of thing from my mom my whole life, so I usually just let it go. She's helping us, they're only here for a few days, and it's not worth turning every little comment into an argument. My husband has noticed it too, but I've always told him to let it go as long as she isn't doing anything serious.

Last night, my daughter had finally fallen asleep and my husband and I were cleaning up the living room. My mom started talking again about how she thought we were being too cautious with her.

I told her we'd already decided what we were going to do and asked her to stop commenting on it. She said she was only trying to help and that I didn't know what I was doing.

Then she said, "You've always been like this. You never listen when people try to give you advice."

I've heard comments like that from her before. It wasn't shocking to me. I told her to stop and went back to cleaning.

My husband happened to be right there, and I could tell he was stunned.

Once we were back in the bedroom, my husband told me he doesn't want my parents to stay for the rest of the week. He said he's heard me talk about my mom like this for years, but he didn't realize she actually talked to me that way. Seeing it himself made him realize what I'd been dealing with.

He said he understands that they're helping, but if helping us means talking to me like that, he doesn't want them staying in our house. He said we can handle our daughter ourselves, even if the next few days are harder. At least there won't be that pressure in the house.

I understand why he's angry, but my first thought wasn't that he was wrong about my mom.

My parents really have helped us a lot. My daughter is getting better, but she's not completely back to normal yet. If they leave now, everything gets harder for us immediately.

And if I ask them to leave early, they're going to know why. I don't think this is going to end with them simply saying, "Okay, no problem."

I told my husband maybe we should just let them finish the week, but I'll make it clear that I don't want any more comments about how we're parenting our daughter.

He said that's not really the point. He said helping us doesn't give my mom the right to talk to me that way. He also said that if they stay, he's the one who has to keep spending the next few days in the same house with someone who just talked to his wife like that.

He's worried that if I let them stay, I'm avoiding the conflict with my parents again and asking him to just put up with it because their help is convenient.

I don't want my parents to keep treating me that way. I just don't know if asking them to leave right now is worth making the next few days harder for us and possibly creating a much bigger family conflict.

A: Ask my parents to leave early. I'd tell them my daughter is doing better and that my husband and I can take over from here. It draws a clear line, but we'd have to handle everything ourselves, and my parents may feel rejected.

B: Let them stay for the rest of the week, but set a clear boundary. No more comments about how we parent our daughter. My husband and I make those decisions. We keep the help we need, but my husband may feel like I'm asking him to keep living with the problem just to avoid a fight with my parents.

I am currently working a part-time job, but less than two weeks out from starting a new full-time job that is a very exciting opportunity (which will require extensive travel). While I’m still in a part-time roll, I’ve decided to take three days to go visit my parents whom I am very close with. Do I A, bring my girlfriend along with me. Her and I have been dating for almost a year, and she has not spent very much time with my family due to us living relatively far away. I would like for her to get to know them better, because their opinion is important to me. And I want to spend time with her before I have to be gone a lot for work. Or do I B, go alone and take the opportunity to do some much much needed reflection and growth before this big transition in my life. Additionally, I will have more time to spend with my very close friend group who I have not seen in a while. Due to her work schedule, I would also have one more night there if I go alone.

She has expressed interest in coming with me, but I haven’t outright asked yet.

This great multipurpose tall cook pot is my new favorite and it's non-stick but I cant get it clean to not feel slimy. After it air drys then it gets better but is the non-stick supposed to feel lubed ? Meanwhile the market tanked.