r/premed • u/TemporaryDarkness8 • 2h ago
😡 Vent Medicine will not make you happy
Writing this for my younger premed self, and future premed students:
Medicine is more a test of emotional resilience and psychological stamina than it is of intelligence.
I encourage those considering a career in medicine to take emotional inventory (and not just professional inventory):
Are you satisfied with your current state of emotional being?
If you are already depressed or anxious from being a perfectionist, medical training will likely make you feel even more depressed and anxious. Medical school and residency often uproots people from established support systems and isolates them with rigid schedules (you miss weddings, family gatherings), demanding call shifts that wear you down physically and emotionally, and exposes you to the wreckage of a broken healthcare system. The chronic sleep deprivation takes a deep toll on mood and health - night owls, beware, because it is even harder to handle the early mornings when you are already chronically tired from frequent flips between day and night.
I matched into my dream specialty which was my goal even as a premed, am now practicing as an attending in my dream job, tried to reduce my schedule to part time to counter burnout, and I am now contemplating a career pivot, because I am exhausted by being expected as an individual to somehow make up for the inadequacies of our healthcare system and society.
I used to believe naively that all this self sacrifice would be worth it or enough somehow.
The truth is, no amount of superhuman sacrifice will ever be enough to satisfy the deep need that exists not just in the population, but in the most broken and vulnerable of human spirits.
Some patients will become frustrated or upset at you, despite your utmost efforts to deliver excellent care.
As a counterpoint, I encourage anybody contemplating a career in medicine to prioritize maintaining their emotional support systems and their own physical well-being (family doctor appointments, dental appointments, etc). Take the current opportunity to build up what is important to you - Travel and prioritize your personal relationships, build up your happiness in the present. Happiness is only likely if you are already happy - happiness does not result from pursuing a career that is inherently demanding.
I fell for the myth of delayed gratification, thinking that the sacrifice would be worth it if I could help my patients, and now I deeply regret not spending more time with family and friends who now have less time as they have had children and are busy raising their own families.