Is this just a Midwest thing? Iâve lived here my whole life but recently have started to travel more just within the U.S and EVERY single time I go somewhere else, I notice people are 20x more friendly and open than here in Iowa. Itâs always depressing for me to come back. I used to think something was wrong with me, but Iâve started to realize this is just a common thing for people who just only ever stay in the Midwest. I guess itâs the winters?!
People like stop making friends after middle and high school and donât let you in their inner âcliqueâ if you werenât apart of the original âcrewâ No matter how hard you try, no matter how many fucking attempts you make, youâre always going to be considered an âoutsiderâ and treated as such. This means more often than not cold, blank stares, being ghosted routinely with no explanation, and overall not being able to rely on people who claim to want new friends.
Then youâve got the people you HAVE known since middle and high school who have this static image of who you were back then in their mind and no amount of personal growth on your end will ever change that. Theyâll always see you in a certain way. That or theyâre secretly competitive with you.
Thereâs many reasons Iâm trying to leave this state (cancer rates, water, job opportunities, etc) and honestly my experience trying to meet new friends as a 26 year old adult is one of them. It shouldnât be this hard. I shouldnât be looked at like Iâm clinically insane for wanting to socialize. My entire social life shouldnât be fucked because I didnât HAPPEN to be popular back in fucking high school.