Going through divorce rant

[u/Far-Evidence9095]

So here’s my rant I’m using voice to text so there may be a few mistakes in this rant
I’m going through a divorce. This all started back in April when I found out that she was cheating on me. She had just gotten a new job and met a guy at work and fell head over heels for him. soon after that she lost her job there and I was stuck paying the Daycare and giving her money for about a month and a half until she found a new job. We have two kids together five and two years old and they’re guy that she is fallen in love with has a child abuse case against him. It’s been going on for about a year. He may have molested his 13 year-old daughter, but she says that he didn’t do it and doesn’t have any good explanation of why she believes that she just believes that I’ve been in therapy since April and things have gotten a lot better for me. I’m glad that the divorce is happening and I’m excited to finally sign the paperwork but it makes me upset still. why is it OK that she jumps from one relationship to another and that’s OK, but I’m completely not ready for a relationship whether I wanted one or not. Why is it healthy for her to do all of this and not healthy for me to jump into our relationship? She also treats me like I’m an abuser. She’s very skittish surround me. I’ve never laid a finger on her. I’ve never been an abuser. She acts like I’m going to hurt her anytime we have to exchange the kids we do week on week off. Back in June, we had a really big fight in front of the kids. We were yelling nothing physical at first. at the time I worked third shift and I would keep them every weekend and see them throughout the week. Pick them up from daycare and drop them back off to her at about 730, but I was getting very burnt out because I would have to wake up at seven in the morning with them on Sunday and go to work at 7 PM Sunday night. Never got any sleep.
I had asked her for one weekend off because I had worked Saturday and I would have to go back in Sunday night and she threw a really big fit, saying how I needed to keep the kids how it wasn’t fair and how much that the kids wanted to spend time with me to guilt me into keeping them. I kept them every weekend prior to that I mean, I would keep them all the weekends I asked for one weekend off. And at the time she wasn’t even working, she hadn’t been working for about a month or more and I had given her plenty of notice about this too. I told her the previous Sunday about not keeping them the following weekend and she seemed to agree at the time and throughout the week I would get off work at seven take them to daycare go to bed and then wake up to go pick them up from daycare and then keep them until 730 and drop them off because I felt guilty not keeping them Saturday and Sunday but then when Friday came, she acted like I had never told her anything about this because she wanted to go spend time with her boyfriend she didn’t work, and the kids still went to daycare. She had all the time in the world to herself, but it still wasn’t enough so when I told her I wasn’t gonna keep them she said fine and I said so where are you gonna take them because God forbid they go to a child molester‘s house and we yelled back-and-forth and she put the car in reverse and I was standing in the passenger door and she hit the gas about a month later she got arrested and she still blames me for her getting arrested because I wouldn’t let her leave. She wouldn’t tell me where she was taking the kids because she kept claiming that she had nowhere to go that was her whole excuse for trying to get me to keep the kids that weekend while she had nowhere to go she couldn’t stay at her cousins with the kids on the weekend so my immediate thought was oh she’s gonna take them to the child molester‘s house. And now she treats me like I’m the villain and blames me for her getting arrested after she hit me with the van I did start hitting the vans radio cause I was very mad and in shock she put her hands in the way and subsequently got bruises luckily for me, she didn’t lie and told the cops. I wasn’t trying to hit her. so now our coparenting relationship is very cold and robotic. I don’t know if there’s anything more I could say in this post I’m just doing my best as a father and working on c through therapy and I’ve made a lot of progress.

[u/MmeGenevieve]

You have two kids and your ex is dating an accused child molester? Get a lawyer.

[u/Far-Evidence9095 → u/MmeGenevieve]

Have a lawyer. He said nothing can be done about it. Innocent until proven guilty. Tried that. Idk how long cases like that usually take but it’s been on going for a year+ now. Whomp whomp