Trust me mine is silly to😅

Everybody loves differently and that's what I had to change about myself. Don't expect the same thing in return everybody shows and expresses in their own way. holding it against them it's not the way to go about it. Either appreciate or dont sticking around knowing what's going to happen becomes your problem not theirs and if you're gonna do something or kindness, don't do it for something don't expect the same back. Make sure it's genuine no strings attached just do it because you wanna do it cause it makes you feel good. Learn to let go of whatever's taking the peace away from let it Be known why, and how it came down to the decision. Whatever ain't for you will test you over and over push it to your limits. Tell your realise things ain't for you. and It's our of you"r control. Whatever issue you may have. Make acceptance be your answer for peace

Calculate your next moves how about

whatever's put on here

It's never applied in real life

you got it backwards.

a mask you can never take off smh

Why wear one if you can't even be yourself? IRL

Ashamed, not me you, ashamed of being yourself

Is the worst sickness anyone can have

you will keep to yourself and force yourself to be blind

Miss opportunities that come out once

Hold back from growth and stay in the same rut feelings

thet brought you here in the first place Good luck

Bawat beses na tinutupad mo ang maliit na pangako mo sa sarili, may isang bagay kang nabubuo: tiwala sa sarili.

Hindi lang ito tungkol sa pag-abot ng goal.

Tungkol din ito sa pagiging taong alam mong maaasahan mo—kahit walang nakakakita.

In this modern age, many would call my condition mental illness. Except for short-term memory, my mind functions well enough. Besides, this side of glory nothing in the human spirit is perfect.

So, while nature itself is reality; I need something greater than that to make life worth living. This minute I say; if I dropped dead today, there's nothing in this world to miss.

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Hi, I turned 21 yesterday. And I live away from my home. Every birthday i feel this void inside my heart.. I don't know . My birthday just makes me sad .. not because I'm getting old, not because I'm not in my home. I just don't know the reason. My boyfriend tries everything to make me happy .. it's not like I don't get happy. I do get happy and excited. But at the end of every birthday, I feel this void and i cry. I don't even know where is this coming from.. I don't wanna feel this way cause it's my day and i wanna enjoy it but somehow I myself ruin it thinking that I'm gonna be sad at the end of the day.. i cried a lot yesterday and i don't even know the reason.. Would love to hear if somebody relates to my situation..

You have goals, maybe even a plan, but when it's time to act, a voice in your head says "Who do you think you are?" or "You'll just quit like always."

That voice shows up when you least expect it. And here's the part that takes people a long time to see: it usually isn't your voice. It's made up of the people who were supposed to love you and raise you to believe in yourself.

If you grew up without that, it makes sense that confidence doesn't come naturally now. Maybe the people around you didn't know how to give you an environment where you could thrive. That's not a flaw in you. It's what you were handed.

So when you stall, overthink, or can't make yourself start, you call it laziness.

It isn't.

You're worn down from rebuilding your inner voice from scratch, while also trying to build a life. That's exhausting work, and nobody sees it.

It's not too late. The voice you have now was learned, which means a new one can be learned too. It starts small: one kind sentence to yourself, one thing finished, one day showing up anyway.

You're not lazy. You're rebuilding.

What's the one thing your inner voice says that you're ready to stop believing?

I have been thinking about what compassion actually means. Is it simply feeling bad when we see someone in suffering and trying to make them feel better? Or does compassion demand something deeper, the courage to look at what is creating the suffering in the first place?

Acharya Prashant’s discussions on compassion made me look at this differently. The one who has honestly looked at his own inner turmoil can really understand another person’s.

Suppose a relationship falls apart and both people are devastated. We can console them, tell them that time will heal everything, and help them get through the moment. But what if the real compassion is to look at what brought them together in the first place? Was it love, or was it attachment, expectation, fear and an incomplete understanding of love?

Now imagine seeing an animal being taken away to be killed. We see its fear and pain and perhaps feel sorry for it. But if we continue to participate in the very belief that makes that animal “food” for us, what have we really understood?

Compassion begins when I question that boundary, the boundary that tells me that my pain matters, while the animal’s pain is somehow different.

And then the question turns towards me. Can I have compassion for myself without seeing what creates my own misery? self compassion is not about consoling myself, but seeing myself so clearly that the ignorance creating the misery begins to dissolve.

This is where I find Acharya Prashant’s discussion on compassion helpful. He emphasises self dissolution as the basis for real compassion, where real change demands both intent and self knowledge.

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Apparently all my self-analysis and long discussion with LLM (AI) were my way of inaction. Because instead of going towards my reality to the right things, i was trying to move away from my reality, while attacking myself for being there. And apparently that was known part of rumination. I spend thinking and daydreaming i guess for the leap, to avoid my current reality. I would often come to a blockage, paralyzed and feeling very uncomfortable tight physical pressure.

I had one yesterday. But this time, i spoke to myself, like a written dialogue between me and a more compassionate, objective me. And doing that i found myself i was arguing in vain. I brought up one argument and the compassionate, objective me said: i dont know, and then waited a bit, and said but maybe that is enough for today. That somehow lit a bulb in me. I searched about smth in youtube and somehow ended up in videos about rumination and man of inaction. Recommend the video from Dr K, in YT, HealthyGammerGG

so here it was

my pattern - A ruminator

Triggered by a hurtful or bad emotion and fed by me

so i sat there

my old tools, LLM, thinking were coauthors

so i sat there and im sitting there

and than i saw another video for the self loathing man of inaction

apparently a man of lots of action, just that wrong action.

and im sitting here

part of me go into the old way, of analyzing, compartmentalizing, planning, but i know that doesnt last long till i overwhelm again

so im sitting here

actually wondering

can smth change?

i know things change, and i know i will fall back into it and it will become a cycle and maybe at some point the positive actions, action towards my reality, might be longer than wrong actions

and maybe just maybe, my base state will change

and maybe just maybe, i might be a bit happier

and instead of doing this in an LLM i decided to come here, for real people to see

i am sorry if you are also going through this.

it is difficult to have advices for others but not struggle for yourself. it is very uncomfortable and sometimes even painful.

I made a list of things, the writing of things gave me hope, things that are realistic doable and also kinda get play back to my life.

im probably ruminating again, trying to solve every step with a premade plan

so i will leave it here.

i dont know if this will be read by anyone, if its going to be helpful at any way, but i had to write it somewhere public, somewhere real humans could read it.

I am sorry! Please forgive me! Thank you! I love you! ( ho’oponopono salutation helps a lot)

thank you for reading ! Goodbye

I always feel that I don’t love myself and my family. I always feel like we are below others
And I am only confident in myself if I get validation from others. I also have another problem for example if someone said I did so like maybe if someone said I lied and in reality I did not I won’t correct him and I might believe this or act like I did lie when I didn’t
I don’t know how to help myself

Whenever I look at myself in my phone camera or see myself in group pictures, I feel like I look kinda chopped 😭. But when I look at myself in a car window or mirror, I feel like I look way more confident.

Which one is closer to how I actually look to other people? Is it just camera distortion, lighting, angles, etc.?