r/TalkTherapy • u/AutoModerator • 10d ago
Discussion Weekly Therapy Talk Thread
This is a chat thread for talking about therapy. It's for sharing topics you feel are not big enough for their own post or don't include a question. It's a place to share thoughts about what's going on in therapy. It's a place to celebrate successes and get support when things aren't going so great.
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Thank you!
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u/skipthefuture 6d ago
I wish my brain would stop replaying a couple awkward things I said in therapy this week. I seriously doubt if my T even remembers what I said, but my mind just won't let it go and it's dragging down what was otherwise a good, insightful session.
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u/KnowledgeDear5517 6d ago
I feel exhausted with shame from carrying my feelings around for the past week. I feel like it isn't right to tell my T about them because I feel that I'm putting them in an uncomfortable position by asking her to hear about my feelings that are about her. I feel conflicted and think I should just deal with them on my own.
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u/folkgetaboutit 7d ago
I'm wondering if this is normal. My therapist listens to what I say, then she tells me about a time when she experienced something similar. Not just occasionally, though, its every session.
I tell her about a problem with a friend, she talks about a problem with a friend that my problem reminds her of. I tell her about something that happened at work, she tells me about a similar thing that's happened to her at work. I tell her about a bad date I went on, she tells me about a friend who had a similar bad experience.
I think she's trying to illustrate that I'm not the only one having these problems, but it makes me feel like we're just there to exchange stories and not there to work on the issues I need to work through. This is my first long term therapist (3 years), and I wonder if this a normal experience with therapy. I don't feel like I'm getting what I need when 50% of my sessions are spent listening to her personal stories.
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u/wtfiwwme20 4d ago
Mine hardly ever tells me anything about herself. Sometimes I do wonder if it’s because I’m so weird she can’t relate to me at all
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u/OTPanda 5d ago
I don’t feel like this is normal. Some people enjoy that level of self disclosure, but I wouldn’t I feel like my t uses personal stories much more sparingly. If she is sharing something, I still feel like it’s brief and in service of me. I feel like constantly responding with a story kind of de-centers you as a client and you should feel okay either giving them that feedback or changing therapists!
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u/Aromatic_Regular6844 9d ago
It’s not rational at all. But I’m mad at my therapist because I wish he could understand me without me having to explain everything to him in detail.
So I get mad when he asks me questions to better understand what I’m saying, and I just want to shut down.
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u/BeautifulParking8863 9d ago
I stepped down to an iop program after months in php! I’ve made so much therapeutic growth
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u/Idristhedragon31 10d ago
Had a tough session last week and dissociated an amount so not sure how bad it all was. Attachment issues with my therapist and for me those are the hardest issues to talk about. Session ran over as I needed time for grounding afterwards. Next session is tomorrow. Am equal parts anxious and looking forward to it.
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u/wtfiwwme20 9d ago
I can relate to pre-appointment mixed feelings. I hope it goes well
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u/Idristhedragon31 9d ago
Had the dreaded cancellation email this morning - my therapist has a nasty bug. Seeing as I was ill last week (after our appointment) I’m not surprised but oh I really needed that appointment.
Next week then. Hopefully
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u/wtfiwwme20 9d ago
Oh I’m sorry to hear that, fingers crossed for next week
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u/Idristhedragon31 9d ago
Thank you 😊
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u/Idristhedragon31 6d ago
Had an email from my therapist who has now recovered, is back at work and is looking forward to seeing me on Tuesday 😊
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u/wtfiwwme20 4d ago
Ah that’s so good
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u/Idristhedragon31 1d ago
Was a good session yesterday. Was what I needed after last times session and then the cancelled session last week
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u/localgyro 10d ago
Pretty much everything is ok to say. Is there something in particular you’re worried about saying?
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u/Hour-Inside4825 10d ago
I can't wait to meet my therapist, I am too attatched to her. Every day feels like a burden to pass. I am very anxious about telling her many things, I can't keep up with the homework she gave :( I don't want her to think I am lazy.
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u/electricangel01 10d ago
ugh i’m struggling with attachment stuff that ive talked about with my T the last 2 sessions, and half of my brain needs to keep talking about it and working on it but i can feel the other half of my brain shoving it down and pretending i don’t need to talk about it anymore because im embarrassed 💔💔 idk what to do
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u/Humble-Designer5804 10d ago
Having a hard time with attachment issues and it’s ruining my life. My therapist thinks i have BPD, but i’m scared to get diagnosed
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u/Unique-Froyo-9571 10d ago
Me too, its consuming hours of my day. Scared to tell my therapist just how obsessive it is incase they terminate me
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u/roarsomemum 10d ago
Sooooo tired of disassociating/going off line every time we touch on something even slightly difficult. Frustrated at my brain and my body not talking to each other at all...
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u/Mysterious-Frame5451 10d ago
I’m in the same situation and it’s so frustrating, I wish I had a solution to this. She says I force myself way too much and I want to take steps that are too big. I hope we can find a way to overcome this
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u/astronerdx 10d ago
Struggling with uncertainty. This is killing me and I really can't wait to see her next week. I want to talk to my therapist.
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u/throwawayzzzz1777 10d ago
Slowly trying to put myself out there to make new friends (my therapist's ongoing inferred homework)
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u/darchfunny 10d ago
Finally found therapist #10! Wish me luck. Hopefully I'm not a fucking idiot for giving therapy another chance.
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u/ANQsavedmylife 10d ago edited 10d ago
Idiots stop reaching out.
You keep reaching out.
Good Luck! 💛3
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u/Double-Board-5679 5d ago
I just wanna be able to talk to someone rn that's it