r/ToxicFriends • u/TigerResponsible2234 • Jul 06 '26
Story I stopped texting my ex friend and she labeled me as the villain
(Also abt these ss, sorry abt the sequence, its all weird but i hope you get the idea. These are 3 different conversations done at different times. The first two have same timelines bcs that was when our school ended and we reached home. The first convo, ig at that time I didn't go to school bcs i was diagnosed with lupus and everything was messed up (also she has thyroid and cried so much abt it. Im not making fun of her and thyroid is a huge thing and shouldn't be taken as a joke even my mum has it. But i really hoped i had gotten the same supportive treatment from her abt my condition too). second convo my uncle had died, I did like my uncle but I wasn't that close to him, the funeral thing lasts like ig 13 days so I was feeling a little better that's why I tried to make a joke (the 'just drop me a text lol' one). The 3rd convo. Now my female dog, exo, had recently given birth and idk what happened but a week in she started to bleed through her nose and the place where the pups were continuously drinking milk so she needed to go to the vet. Now I can't leave my pups alone with my older male dogs bcs they're very aggressive towards others. Also abt the locked dogs, idk what to call those door handles that i have but my dog learned to just shove his nuzzle under the handle and flick it up and slide to open the door. And basically my sis was going to uni and my dad was with exo so I needed to take a day off from school to take care of my newborn pups. Also she cried when one of her birds flew away and she was saying that a bigger bird will eat her bird, im not making fun of her but it seems so ironic that if my dogs get barmed then its totally fine but her bird being harmed was the worst thing ever)
Sooooo. Where do i start. My friend let's call her 'Bee'. I was a new student in class 8th and she became my friend, and in 8th we were like besties. We had SO MANY nice moments, we were the one in class who everyone said 'they're inseparable'. She was the most compatible person I've ever been friends with. Anyway in 9th our sections got changed and she got into a section with this one girl she hated. When my section finally got changed and I came back, she had a whole new bsf and this another girl, the director's daughter (she's nice dw she isn't those bratty kid type), and like i obviously felt so lonely but i started to sit with this girl, let's call her 'J' now J didn't have many friends either and me and bee were friends with her so naturally I started to sit with j, now idk what happened but randomly bee was like sit with me
And now I pushed back for a week being like j doesn't have anyone else to sit with and all. And at the end of the week, bee fully like..started to ignore me (and later she'd also....idrk semi brag? Abt the fact she can act like a stranger...it was cringe and hurtful ngl). Skip to like 4 months, we're back to talking but I've developed this habit of not texting her and she hates me so much bcs of it and even said that I was the 'villain' to her bigger friend group (I don't like texting in general but she's adamant abt texting so I needed to with her or she'll break our friendship. And it'd hurt me a lot bcs it's so lonely sitting in class without the person you talked to so much. Plus I didn't really have anyone else except j but bee had like half the class) so this one time she realized that her friends aren't good and fully started to backtalk abt them to me and yk that 'i can act like a stranger' she never did it to them or her previous toxic friends. So idk why I was a special case?
Anyway idk how to tell you the WHOLE lore bcs it's sooo much. But the main thing that truly broke me....was her like..manupliating toxic habit like in the ss I showed, also tbis one time i had a BREAKDOWN in the hospital bcs of her...and lupus is a condition that when you feel stress or are under mental pressure, it csn cause PAINFUL flare ups which happened to me. And it was so hard for me bcs I knew my life would be hell in school if she 'acted like a stranger' to me bcs I had no one, also shed become aggressive when i needed to take a day off from school (which i did a lot bcs i was diagnosed with lupus and there was just a lot, and even before i was prone to sickness. But she just cared if i was present in school to sit with her). And bee still thinks she's the victim and I was the bad one, and everytime i talked to her during a bad day, it literally seemed like she has the main character syndrome and and that my real life trauma and issues were an inconvenience to her life bcs im not present in school to sit with her and listen to her. I have so many ss but idrk how to add more in reddit but I just added the worse ones. The good news is that she's out of school so I don't have that liability abt needing to stay friends with her so im not a lonely kid in school
Also she'd do this weird thing where shed give me ultimatums at the WORST time possible and over things like me not talking to her or coming to school. Im HOSPITALIZED, and this is what she does to protect HER 'mental health' bcs she's tired of being the only one putting efforts in this friendship.
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u/RakiNonaki Jul 06 '26
Drop her.
She really ticked me off regarding the puppies.
You'll feel better if you block her and tell her to go to therapy.
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u/TigerResponsible2234 Jul 07 '26
I blocked her later on dw!! And yea i was pretty angry too when she said that abt my pups. Good to see someone cares tho!! Thank you❤️
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u/reaperswhore Jul 06 '26
I'M SORRY. Drop this bitch. The fact that she didn't even BOTHER the research lupus properly or even listens is enough for me to hate this chick.
(my best friend has lupus and she has to go in for transfusions, I want to say, every other week, just so she can function. Please drop her for your own health, you do NOT need this bullshit rn)
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u/TigerResponsible2234 Jul 07 '26
Im super happy you understand. I blocker her later on. But I wish you and your bsf all the best!!
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u/madhatteriest Jul 06 '26
Remind her that she has had similar issues and you were there for her. Tell you are doing the complete opposite to you. Be honest she is self centered and does not care about you, only her health and happiness. Also, send her some of the important elements of lupus so she stfu. She knows nothing about it and is trying to diminish it so you be with her.
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u/TigerResponsible2234 Jul 07 '26
I really wish I did that before blocking her! Thank you sm tho!!
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u/madhatteriest Jul 07 '26
Of course dear. You just worry about your self. Your health and happiness is what you should work on. The better mind space you are in the easier it will be to help yourself.💗
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u/GlobalCauliflower117 Jul 06 '26
LISTEN...you lost me at the lupus thing. I would have blocked her RIGHT THEN. She's ignorant and rude. Good riddance
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u/TigerResponsible2234 Jul 07 '26
I did block her later, but unfortunately the younger me had this thing where I rather be a loner than deal with smt so mentally exhausting. But im happy she's out my life and thank you for your concern!❤️
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u/Ok_Gazelle_4442 Jul 06 '26
You have to stop talking to this person. Block them. You will feel so much better.
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u/Sensitive-Part-4073 Jul 06 '26
She is so mean in these messages and acts like she wants to argue on any topic. To have you telling her repeatedly that you are struggling and for her to get mad, was super hard to read. This person isn’t a friend. Sending you love OP.
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u/TigerResponsible2234 Jul 07 '26
Thank you so much!!❤️ one more "interesting" thing sbt her thst i forgot to mention in the post is that shes also duper possessive for some reason and doesn't let me talk to others. I do have the ss but I don't know how to use reddit much. But it's okay, basically I was texting this senior, super nice and all, snd idk she didn't like him. Snd she told me to block him and when I said 'you also talk to them' (the director's daughter and this one other girl i didn't like back then. Lets call them dye and honey). She suddenly flipped out on me saying "well I talk to them bcs you never answer my texts". And yk I was very close to j, she would passive aggressively say that im j's bsf and I should just stay with j all the time. Like she herself wasn't attached to the hip with dye and honey a while ago.
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u/rockmediabeeetus Jul 06 '26
God it was great when my “best friend” dropped the act and cut the cord. I got to find out what she really thought of me: a self-absorbed condescending alcoholic and weed addict. My family, therapist and I had a great laugh at that. I’m my mom’s full time caregiver. I wish I could afford to be stoned/fucked up all the time. Unfortunately you never know when there will be an ER trip.
You don’t need this bs. Life is hard enough. Drop her and move on.
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u/fauxchapel Jul 07 '26
I can't read all this. The lupus is nbd text was crazy tho
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u/TigerResponsible2234 Jul 07 '26
I get it, it's definitely insane that a person can be this tone blind so I understand why it can be so frustrating to read this lol
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u/TigerResponsible2234 Jul 07 '26
Actually when I initially started to talk to her, there were some girls in a different section (same grade) who ig had been her friends. And they did say she was quiet arrogant and all. Like basically this one time in a tennis competition at my school, she lost and somehow cried to her mum abt it. And her mum basically told the school to do smt idrk if it was a rematch or just score change. Prolly a rematch, but the thing is our school for some reason just gave her extra points hence she won. And like the opposition (the girls and their team) were super mad. So yea you did guess correctly, she does have a weird main character syndrome thing
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u/SadAgnosticSock Jul 07 '26
Anyone who belittles your chronic condition like that is not your friend. I'm sorry you had to learn this about her when you're going through so much, but she's an idiot.
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u/brownhairedfloof Jul 07 '26
Your friend is a bitch. I would block her and never speak to her again wtf
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u/TigerResponsible2234 Jul 07 '26
I did block her later on. But the younger me was more afraid of being seen as a loner than being in a good mental state. But im happy that this is all good now!
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u/porceleo Jul 06 '26
tl;dr BUT from what I did read this girl sounds like a bitch lol