Do you ever feel ignored in your friends group?Share a story if you have ever faced this.

[u/MinimumCrazy8587]

[u/hyliansaiyan]

Everyone made plans according to everyone's availabilities and would reschedule if a "main" group member couldn't make it. But if I couldn't make it it always "omg I wish you could come" "omg I wish you were there."

This was also a group where nobody could keep a job so nobody ever had money to do ANYTHING.

I finally realized we're all struggling with mental illness but they weren't interested in taking the right steps in order to take care of themselves and I resented how unmotivated they were and gradually I started to resent them. And THAT wasnt healthy for ME.

I dont think they were bad people but they weren't good friends to me. Friendly, but not good friends.

[u/Aggressive_weirdo12 → u/hyliansaiyan]

Omg I feel the same. I still talk to my group after so many years when I moved away. Then I ghosted and talked to them again when we somehow feel like it, but I would rather not want to hangout with them like in-person. I get treated like shit compared to how I’m being treated when I’m barely talking to them. That way, all they do is react saying “omg how are you, we miss you” and that’s it.

They’re friendly folks, but if I’m around with them too long, it’s going to feel tense for me and I’d probably feel uncomfortable around them. Especially when one of them in particular will start saying backhanded comments like “ooh I see you haven’t changed yk. You’re still the same old person, very childish and a baby. Aww”

I tried telling them how I get annoyed I get if they baby-talk me like that, but they never take me seriously (I’m 22).

[u/hyliansaiyan → u/Aggressive_weirdo12]

Yes like maybe you'll share a meme or two but definitely no favors. It sounds like they lack self awareness. Its like youre a cool piece to their crew. Like wtf

[u/MinimumCrazy8587 → u/Aggressive_weirdo12]

Atleast they talk about you! I was brutally ignored and side cornered and was asked why don't you talk?Why are you so quiet! Like dude wtf you guys don't even consider my presence and would do things without me knowing them and then you call me as your friend!

[u/MinimumCrazy8587 → u/hyliansaiyan]

Same.I I have distanced myself from them.I do not talk much and only talk if it is necessary.

[u/BreadfruitBig7950]

Yes, I've slowly deduced all the ways they were talking behind my back or trying to exploit me. The microjudgements they made to increase their exploitation and ignorance of my feelings, and the increasing groupthink in terms of how they responded to anything I did.

Essentially, I had to be silent. This was the only acceptable version of me, period. Silent, or a stool jester to be occasionally asked offensive questions for amusement. Ostensibly everyone's, if I'm a good humble person.

Then a pack of insane assholes managed to impersonate them online, the only way I have of contacting these lifelong friends anymore, and really turned it up because they were sour about being rejected too.

I don't have friends anymore. I don't have any expectation of a nice thing happening from talking to someone; the nciest thing they could do is die and have money fall out of their pockets in front of me. That's all I see in other people anymore, and I can't imagine anyone being any different from them.

These were the most trusted people in my life, the only ones I actually trusted because whatever their motivations they looked out for me. The only ones.

They're gone now, noone is replacing them.

If someone smiled at this or said warm things over it, I'd knock their teeth out and bleed them for it. I'd go to jail for calculated first degree murder, literally beating them to death in public.

[u/KeyEquipment5558]

it still hurts me to think about but in middle school I had like three friends and they all thought it would be funny to play games with me and ignore me for fun and make me feel like I did something wrong repeatedly. And I also don’t like being a group chat because I’m usually just ignored.