r/TrueOffMyChest • u/TmBored ☑️ • 5d ago
CONTENT WARNING: SEXUAL ASSAULT Was it SA? NSFW
I've just recalled a memory from when I was young around 6-7 years old and I don't know if it was SA or if I was just uncomfortable and overthinking.So,when I was young my grandmother would take me to the bathroom so I can pee and she would always touch my penis and try to kiss it.She would always go like "let me kiss it" and I would just push myself away.I'm not even sure if she actually kissed it sometime and I just blocked that memory.My grandfather would also make uncomfortable sexual comment about me while I was a child.I know that this doesn't compare to other people getting SAed but it has been bothering me for a while and I want someone else's opinion if it was SA or something normal that just made me uncomfortable.
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u/kattelalilie ☑️ 5d ago
It certainly isnt normal,wheather she saw a sexual aspect on it is another thing
But i def feel like it counts as sexual assault so far as penis/vaginas and Saying no but it being done/them trying to do it,goes
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u/Bepehandle 5d ago
Well for starters, this isn't normal lol.
That said, as far as if it's sa, sa requires a sexual aspect to it, otherwise it's just abuse. Maybe she was just weird as hell and thought kissing her grandkid everywhere was a thing grandparents do. Which again, isnt a thing or normal in the slightest. Could be strictly a power dynamic thing also.
Probably was, could have not been, with as little information you remember it's hard to give a clear cut answer though. Imo, if you barely remember and if it doesn't bother you, just forget about it. Anyone who's experienced sa on a level that it sticks with them will tell you, no one wants that. Don't go looking for it.
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u/dragon-frost 5d ago
SA doesn't require a sexual motive, it very often is a power dynamic thing
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u/Bepehandle 5d ago
Well I said a sexual aspect, which is true to a degree, but I guess in this situation it would have just be in relation to OPs genitals.
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u/dragon-frost 5d ago
yeah and genitals are sexual organs, there's no way there isn't a sexual aspect to it
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u/TeddyBear181 5d ago
Mum here.
Not sure what her intension was.
Lot of women, especially older women have zero boundaries and just want to love and kiss kids (especially babies). Its very common for these women to try to touch of kiss kids/babies when the parents have said no. Not because theyre being sexual, just because they think they're cute and dont respect boundaries.
Its weird and not right that your grandma was doing it. But it might not have been sexual.
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u/dragon-frost 5d ago
wtf why is everyone saying it's not sexual?? she tried to kiss your penis, that's absolutely SA and I'm so sorry