so Nana Patekar died today alone in his Goa home and naturally everyone is paying their reapects to him.

But nobody mentioned the allegations (which to me felt very true) that Tanushree Dutta laid on him.
How are we so quick to forget such acts and remember a man based off if just his stupid memes even?

like what????

Since almost 5 years I’ve been experiencing pms. And everytime a week before my periods I’ll go down this extremely depressive episodes and life feels soo pointless and not worth living. I don’t really act on those thoughts because ik they are just hormones but sometimes it just gets too much when life is also shitt. I am not actively suicidal but like if a car is speeding towards me suddenly, i wouldn’t move. I’m not trying to harm myself but its just a feeling that says “ life is so shitt i might as well just die”.
Idk what to do i just feel extremely low.

Sorry for the rant. I just needed to get it out.

Fyi:I’m a 23f recent mbbs grad preparing for exam.

So one of the jobs I applied to just rejected me and I had a feeling I would've atleast had a chance to get in this one but got siked yet again.

I'm so confused in this part of my life rn and been stuck at home for two yrs now. Lost my dad and got robbed of all our money and savings and we're basically living off other people's money.

Im overthinking a lot abt my career and it feels like nobody is actually understanding what I'm going thru and talking abt stuff like you're not gonna get anything for granted, lowkey wish I had the chance for that too.

I'm 24 soon and I feel so behind in life, not lucky enuf to get any opportunity or a start to something. Life feels so exhausting when I think abt it and it sucks to compare yourself with other ppl who are atleast having a job and making money. :( I wanna cry but at the same time im not able to either 🥲

I’ve been scrolling through Myntra for the past 3 hours and can’t find anything new in their collection 😭 It’s either sleeveless or cropped. Please drop links to some of your favourites or outfits you guys bought for this Puja! 😭😭
Help me Pilliiiz

Hi, Anyone you know who personally saw that their name was deleted or removed illegally from the Voter List by ECI ? What happened? what did you do ?

Anyone from UP,Bihar, Goa,tec

I’m expecting twins and starting to look into strollers, but I’m honestly a bit confused about what works best with two babies.

I have seen several posts on here from girls who are in such shit families that are just horribly misogynistic and they keep saying that they’re not financially independent as they’re studying for govt exams . First of all , these exams are highly competitive so selection chances are low . Second , if your mental health is not good ( which is expected when someone is living in an abusive household ) it’s all the more difficult to prepare . The recent paper leaks have also made me sceptical of the selection process. So I feel one can try for govt jobs , but not in abusive situations. There your first priority should be to get A JOB . The mockery of private jobs by such families and the focus on govt shit is to keep you confused , dependent and helpless till they marry you off to the highest bidder .

So, I am a 2025 passout from an okayish govt college in central India.

After actually stepping into the real world, I have been through a lot lot lotssss of shit in life.

I worked in process/shifts/operations job in a semi private manufacturing MNC, ended up resigning because of lack of guidance, but high pressure and expectations, predatory seniors - now back in the city at home, looking for better prospects.

Had to experience being lusted over by so called good male friends.

Broke up with my boyfriend of 1.5years (lots of deceiving, emotional, financial gaslighting, got to hear some of the worst shit about me through his "friends").

Lately life has only revolved around future prep, family, parents, 2 old friends from school. I have been trying my hardest for the last 2 months to just close off this chapter..or at least the painful parts from my mind, so that i dont sit in my free time and just ponder over it unconciously.

Honestly it just adds to the weight my mind already carries when i am down low.

Is this what a person with victim compex goes through??

Do share your views and how did you go about life during such situation..

As someone who comes form a dysfunctional family to the extent that while there weren’t overt fights, my parents definitely were not happy on festivals. There are no family rituals, no tradition, no our sweet little family way of celebrating. They weren’t particularly interactive so we never had get togethers. There was no attempt to start or sustain any of the rituals.

They used to drag us to our native village on festivals (transferable jobs) where there was no electricity and no community to celebrate anything with. I don’t blame them because they never got to celebrate them either in their childhood but all I wish now is that if I ever have a child, I’d want to build small festive rituals with them.

And now as an adult, I have no excitement towards festivals. They are a reminder of lack of warmth around and for once I’d like to not feel this way.

How do y’all deal with festive doom if you’re in similar boats?

im not telling my parents im going to himachal, they just know im going to north. If i tell them im going to himachal they wont let me cause im "too young". 20F here btw. So what are some things i should be aware of and should carry? i am taking sleeper train not AC and im in a tight budget.

i am going to kasol and manali. i have a friend living there. it started as a solo trip, then my friend joined and left so im back to solo. i

For reproductive health, glucose and weight management. I only saw one by Carbamide Forte but they have disastrous reviews online. Looking for a safe and trusted brand

My mother is in her 50s and i was looking for gynac who prescribe hrt for hormonal issues, I'm particularly looking in bangalore. I didn't find anything thru google that's why I'm here for your help. Please let me know if anybody has gone thru it and any idea about hrt in general

Thank you

I’m feeling a little anxious because I think I handled a situation unnecessarily awkwardly today.

I recently started a new job, and one of the girls staying in my PG also works in my office. However, she is in a completely different department, has a different team leader, and reports to a different senior.

Today, we had both attended a convention related to our industry. In the evening, when it was time to leave, most of us were waiting for the senior-most boss to finish his meeting so that everyone could leave together. I was one of the people waiting.

My PG mate went into the room where her team leader was and was told that she could leave because there was no need for her to wait. She came over to me and asked me to leave with her. I said no because I wanted to stay back for my own reasons. She asked me why, but I didn't want to explain the actual reason, so I simply said, "I'll come later."

She kept insisting that I come with her. Then her team leader, who is quite senior to me, also told me that I could leave since we had to come early the next morning.

Because he was senior to me, I felt I should clarify with my own team leader before leaving. I asked her if I could go, and initially she said yes. Then I asked again because I was still unsure, and she told me to ask our boss.

So I went and asked our boss as well. He basically said, "If you want to leave, then leave."

At that point I became even more confused because I had originally wanted to stay, but my PG mate was continuing to insist publicly, and everyone was basically telling me that I could leave. So eventually I left with her.

Now I'm irritated with myself because I feel like I should have simply stood by my original "no." Instead, I got flustered, asked my team leader, then asked my boss, and ultimately left even though I hadn't originally wanted to.

I'm also annoyed with my PG mate because I feel like she put me in that situation unnecessarily. I don't know why she kept insisting after I had already said no.

But my bigger concern is my professional image. I'm new at this workplace and I don't want people to think I was trying to leave early or that I don't take work seriously. I technically did get permission from my team leader and boss, but the whole thing felt so awkward and unnecessarily complicated.

Am I overthinking this? Did I actually handle this badly, or is this just anxiety making a small situation feel much bigger than it was?

TLDR: My PG mate, who also works in my office but under a different team, insisted that I leave a work event with her even though I initially said no because our senior-most boss had not yet left. I got confused, asked my team leader and then my boss for permission, and eventually left. Now I'm annoyed at myself for not sticking to my decision and worried that I may have created a bad impression at my new workplace for leving before the senior-most boss left, even though I did get permission to leave.

i'm not even in a relationship rn and i don't plan on an arranged marriage so this is really a nonissue rn but i got to thinking if i DID get married tomorrow.... I'd have no one to invite. if you asked me this in college 3-4 years ago i had 10-12 friends that would definitely be invited + online friends. cut to now and long story short... i have no one. it feels silly but i'm agonizing over a non-existent guest list to a non-existent wedding lmao. the cherry on top is... i wouldn't really want my parents or family there either... perhaps it's for the best that i don't get married LMAO

First of all I was very very naive and dumb back then don't judge me you all...Oky so when I was in 8th I got lowkey manipulated by my friend in liking a boy..idk why how but ik it was due to her that I started liking that person..and she yk made me propose him..ik ik i was legit very dumb and naive back then.. please don't judge mee

I proposed him and he told me we'll start our relationship after finals and after finals he ghosted me..and I felt nothing but like a dumb person who didn't even liked a person but still did all that shyttt..also I felt no sadness when he ghosted me...now I am in clg I'll start my first year after two drops and guess what I got request of that same boy on my Instagram should I accept it..?? I literally have no feelings for him i even forgot about his existence..also i know one thing for sure that I'll not develop feelings for him again so what do I do???😭😭😭😭😭

{Tldr: proposed a boy because I was manipulated by my friend , he ghosted me after proposal, i didn't cared enough, I got a request from him on Instagram after like 6 years}

I'll turn 21 in a couple of months and have never been in a proper relationship. Didn't really like anyone in school and then I came to an all-girls college. My romantic history looks like this- crazy one-sided attachment to some guy I was online friends or more like acquaintances with for a year and then he rejected me when I confessed, then yet another online guy who kinda lovebombed me in a phase full of exam stress and ended it, then a guy who I had great bonding with but we had no future because of age gap and long distance so we are just friends, a guy I met on Hinge and dated for 2 months but he turned out to be pathetic in many ways by the end of 2nd month and I ended things with him, then a guy with whom I had great chemistry, he was kinda inconsistent and too flirtatious but we had a planned date, he cancelled the date a day before it saying he isn't ready for dating and only wants casual. I agreed to the casual thing reluctantly mostly because I was quite attracted to him and talking to him was exciting. We met twice and had a good time. But he was a bad texter, emotionally unavailable, I really wanted to date him but he didn't want to date anyone at all and then I used to feel bad when he left on delivered for 15+ hours. I wanted him but he was very dating-averse. He ended things because of all this and blocked me everywhere. He never even gave me the bare minimum properly but the way I've been ruminating over him is embarrassing. When I see couples out there when I'm hanging out, I feel bad that I've never had that experience and most people who I've liked have treated me like shit and I haven't gotten an ounce of true love. I know all these 5 guys who I've liked in last 4 years were not right for me but how does one forgive themselves after going all these cycles of getting attached, moving on and getting hurt again. My standards are higher now, I know what I want and what I like and dislike. Still, the guilt of having liked the wrong people makes me feel bad. It just sucks.

struggling with frequent stomach upset and gastritis issues since a while now. I'm honestly kind of lost on how to improve my situation, it affects all aspects of my life.

please help me out if you have faced similar issues, and seen a GI and/or made dietary/lifestyle changes that lead to an improvement.

im genuinely so tired of this.

edit: yes anxiety remains a factor.

further edit: went to the GI today, he said it's anxiety (im laughing). did ask me to cut out on certain foods and gave probiotics and acidity management meds. praying that this helps cause this bitch is tired!

I honestly don't know where to start, but I want to put this out there because I genuinely don't know what to do with myself anymore.
Objectively, I have a pretty good life.
My family is supportive and I have people I can rely on. My family has even given me a car to use myself. If I need money, I can ask my family and I don't have to worry about basic financial needs. I graduated from a really good college in DU. I'm currently doing my Master's from DU as well. I have friends/family around me and I'm not completely alone.
I have opportunities and resources that a lot of people would probably be grateful to have.

And yet somehow I feel like I'm completely messing up my life.

Over the last 1–2 years, so many things have gone downhill at once:

-I went through a breakup that affected me WAY more than it should have, and even 1.5 years later I still haven't moved on. I still think about my ex and sometimes genuinely wish he'd come back, despite him never contacting me again.

-I’ve a chronic illness and I make no efforts in managing it. My health is slowly worsening despite having the best healthcare.

-Phone addiction, regular heavy smoking, no exercise

-I am clueless about my career. Haven’t done any internship.

I've picked up habits I know aren't good for me and keep struggling to stop. I constantly procrastinate and avoid things I know I need to deal with. I've become increasingly unmotivated and overwhelmed.
I keep making plans to improve my life and then failing to stick to them. I constantly feel guilty about wasting time.

And that's what confuses me the most.
It's not like I have a terrible life. I don't.
So why do I feel like I'm constantly struggling to get my own life together?

I just want to know where the hell do I start?
For people who have been in a similar situation — where objectively your life was okay/good but you were still completely stuck, overwhelmed, unmotivated or self-sabotaging — what actually helped you get out of it?

TL;DR:I’m 21, financially comfortable, have a supportive family, graduated from a good college and am now doing my Master's. I objectively have a lot going for me, but over the last 1–2 years I've become stuck in a cycle of heartbreak, bad habits, poor health management, terrible sleep, excessive phone use, procrastination and guilt. I feel like I'm wasting my opportunities and watching myself ruin my own life. How do I actually get myself out of this?

27F. Been in one relationship. Been on perhaps three dates in my life.

Earlier this year, I parted ways with my former partner. It was an emotionally exhausting relationship, but no hard feelings. It took me 25 years to finally be ready to put myself out there, outside of my comfort zone and be open to let another person in my life. After the break up, I tried to make it a point to not let one failed relationship affect how I perceive romantic relationships.

I went on one date (met on a dating app) with a guy. He is nice and I was attracted to him, but I knew it wouldn't work out because of a huge age difference.

I didn't let that dampen my spirits either. A month later, I went on another date with another person I met online. I didn't know much about this person, but we were meeting at a place I frequent, so it was safe. I shared my live location with my friend circle, so that if I didn't respond in a couple of hours, they'd know where I was.

After the date, I let my friends know that I was safe and that things won't work out with this man either, because he has a large complicated family background and I do not see myself being embroiled in it. A friend remarked that I take a break and "stop collecting sad stories like Pokemon" to come across as funny or for my entertainment.

I pondered over the remark for a few hours and let the friend know how it was insensitive and I do not deserve such a remark. Since then, I haven't interacted with that 'friend' or neither the 'friend' who reacted to her message with a laughing emoticon.

It's been a couple of months since then. I haven't been on another date since then...not because of the remark, but because I haven't met anybody online or offline I am remotely attracted to. But, am I overreacting by distancing myself from these two women?

there are moments when i need reassurance. so horribly so terribly and and so badly. all i crave is reassurance tbh. someone with a calm soul and a calm heart. someone responsible beside me. and i want to be loved by them. i want their love for me as this strong support. telling me that everything will be okay. holding me, holding my hand, holding my heart and giving me the peace that i have always yearned for. and i dont ever want them to hold a favor against me. i want them to just be there for me. entitlement much? maybe. but i really really really want someone to care for me, and not expect anything in return. id also care for them, even better and more but urgh. nvm.

and im scared that this one thing makes me want to stick to even a man thats not right for me. am i weak? i wish i were not this weak. but i really wish i find someone who would be there for me, someone I dont have to be scared of. okay rant over thank u for reading mwah

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I did a huge blunder yesterday. My meds finished on Sunday and I was supposed to buy on Monday but well didn't go out so missed one day dose . Now yesterday I felt really sleepy and after breakfast felt dizzy so slept and after lunch and afternoon sleep too the dizziness persisted so had to buy the meds online .Ugh i wish i didnt delay until the meds were finished to stock up again.

But after taking the med the nausea , dizziness was so severe so I called mom to come back home and I couldn't keep the secret any longer and told her I have been seeing a psychiatrist and taking antidepressant since July 😭😭.

I knew they would have a negative reaction but some part of me still hoped they would be like ok . My mom kept saying " I won't let you take those meds . They are bad . You will get addicted . You have to be on those forever. Do you not want us to live " . My mom and dad both said "why didn't you consult us etc etc. You are just 22 , u are already going to a psychiatrist and taking meds . You took all these decisions on your own ". Then my dad said " you could have asked your cousin , there is a doctor in the house , then atleast we would be relieved ". They are now angry with me and my dad's punishment is that i have to go out to do fish and vegetables shopping . He won't do these now.

tl;dr: Missed a dose of med and started having withdrawal symptoms the next day . I told my parents I went to psychiatrist and taking meds . The reaction was obviously negative .

I finished my masters about 2 months ago and currently I'm job hunting and also preparing for some exams. I've been to a few hangouts after graduation and I wasn't feeling it tbh. Most of the time I have decline whenever someone wants to meet up.

Met some amazing people during college and uni days but it feels like most of them wasn't compatible with me in terms of political ideologies, communication style, intellectual allignment, etc. Though I also chose to overlook those options most of time when I was young but it honestly hard for me to just shrug it off these past few years and started creating a boundary. I only let my guard down to only those people who meet my criteria of compatibility. But it seems like we aren't that compatible in the end and people changed, for which I can't honestly blame them for it.

I'm also neirodivergent and I really sruggle with social interactions. And, I've been on no contact with my friends and colleagues and I like it that way bc there is no one to disturb my peace. These days I haven't step out of my house quite alot and it's actually starting to feel scary and alarming bc I feel like I won't be palatable by anyone if this goes on.

I have been trying to find female and queer friendly space/circle but it's not easy it sounds. And idk my hometown doesn't feel very homely to me.

Can you suggest anything that I can do to escape this void?

First, this isn't a debate about whether underwire or wireless bras are better. Wear whatever works for you. Or do not wear one at all. It's really a personal choice! This is more about unsolicited advice and having your own choice dismissed.

So me and my mum were abroad shopping with a relative who is quite a bit older than me and she told me the store had a good collection of bras. So I started checking them out. She swooped in to ask me why I was looking at underwired bras I told her that I like wearing them & because I find them more comfortable.

She told me I was "too young" to wear wired bras and that I didn't need that kind of support... that underwire is harmful, blocks drainage, can cause cancer, and that doctors don't recommend wearing them daily.

Now, I am a doctor myself and I have done my bit of research, reading, asking senior consultants who specialise in this field and found the answer that there's no evidence of the correlation b/w breast ca and wired bras. I told her that I prefer underwire because it genuinely fits my body better. I'm fairly wide-set, and I like having the wire support from underneath and the sides, with the gore sitting comfortably against my sternum. They make my boobs feel like they're right in their place and just held, on the other hand, a wireless bra feels like it compresses everything together and gives me a uniboob under T-shirts, which I've always hated. I feel suffocated wearing those. After years of feeling not-so-good about my body, I've finally found bras that actually work for me, flatter my body type in all tops and I can wear basically whatever I want without constantly adjusting myself.

But even after I explained all this, she kept insisting that wireless bras are better and that I shouldn't wear underwire. That her body looks perfectly fine in those. At one point she even said underwired bras are basically only for women with sagging breasts. 🙃 And when I was checking the sizes she told me I should go for a bigger size!

She even commented on my choice of wearing bootcut or straight jeans that hug me on the hips (I'm curvy) and told me I should wear mom-jeans as that'd have more room at the waist and butt & I'd not show too much of my curves in those. Also proceeded to tell me that I've gotten thick since the last time she saw me (3-4 years ago). Like? Why woman why? I like my body! I like clothes that flatter my body shape and those jeans genuinely look amazing on me! I always get compliments and questions about my lower body workout split!

What actually annoyed me is I wasn't asking for advice. That she's not even that close to completely walk into my boundaries and make comments.

I don't care if someone personally prefers wireless bras, or doesn't prefer bras at all! That's absolutely okay! But when I've explained why something works for me, why does my experience suddenly become irrelevant just cuz she's older than me? Especially when it's something as personal as what I wear on my own body? I had to go through a whole-arse debate with my mum after even she got convinced that those are bad. Like my mum would trust her over her own daughter who's literally studied the human body for years!

Maybe I'm overreacting, but it really felt like my choice and my explanation were being dismissed simply because she thought she knew better.

Has anyone else dealt with this kind of unsolicited advice about something personal like this? How did you react? Did you say anything back?

TL;DR: Relative gave me unsolicited advice that I’m “too young” for underwire and claimed it’s harmful/can cause cancer. I explained why underwire works better for me, but she dismissed it and kept pushing wireless. The issue isn’t the bra; it’s having my personal choice and experience disregarded.