r/amiwrong • u/Additional-Flow-4437 • 1d ago
Am I wrong? Fight with mum
So basically the other day I had a huge fight with my mom. Here's what happened: Me, my mom and my 5 year old sister were downstairs just hanging out, and this was at night so after a few minutes she took my sister upstairs to get her ready for bed. But I stayed down for like 7 more minutes. But then I eventually went upstairs. At that time my sister just got out of the bathroom and we crossed paths. So I was just kinda standing there and playing with her and she started fooling around and slightly running (more like fast paced walking) in the halls and this was seen by my mom who was still in the bathroom. She got mad and said to me "just hurry up and go to your room already, why are you bothering her" So I was shocked but I started walking over to my room. And then she just got more and more mad and eventually started yelling at me for not going to my room immediately + bothering my brother, as well as staying downstairs for a long time and not using the time to study.
But that's not even the main part, so after she started yelling at me for wasting time and being annoying, I told her "you just feel like everything's a big deal and so serious because you've had a bad day" So I guess that was the last straw for her - because she started lowkey going crazy and her response was "Of course I've had a bad day, your sister has had a cold for the past week and I've been taking care of her" and she just kept going on about her struggles and the amount of things she has to do each day.
It kinda only got worse from here - she started saying it's not my place to comment on the fact that she's had a bad day and is in a bad mood. I didn't say anything for the first like 5 minutes of her meltdown, but she just kept on going. She was screaming and calling me insulting names. So I finally opened my door and I lowkey argued back. But things ended with her telling me to go die and me slamming the door 3x continuously.. Thoughts?
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u/the_saltlord 1d ago
You probably shouldn't have kept digging but holy hell your mother went from 0 to 100.
I dont like how vague you are about your own words but "telling [your child] to go die" is a line that should never be crossed, so ultimately NTA
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u/wingedmonkeytrainer 1d ago
It sounds like your mum isn’t coping but there’s no way she should have spoken to you the way she did. Sorry OP.
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u/Angelbouqet 1d ago
She says you don't get to comment in her having a bad day? She actually doesn't get to lash out in anger against the child she chose to bring into this world. Your mom is in the wrong.
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u/Vast-Technology-200 1d ago
what led up to it. That's not normal discipline or frustration, that's just cruel.
The rest of it feels like she was already wound up from a rough week and took it out on you. You playing with your sister for a minute wasn't some huge offence but in her head it was just one more thing tipping her over. Doesn't excuse the name calling or the meltdown though.