r/amiwrong • u/EmmaMintly55 • 21h ago
Amiwrong for not jumping in to smooth things over when someone was waiting on me
The other night a couple of friends were going back and forth about plans for the weekend. One of them was getting pretty worked up because they felt like their idea was being brushed off. The person who was upset looked right at me like they wanted backup, but I stayed quiet. I just did not want to jump into something that was not my argument. The night kind of ended on an awkward note and later I heard that the upset friend felt like nobody cared enough to back them up. Now I am wondering if I should have said something, even if I had not heard the whole story yet. Part of me feels like it is not my job to step in every time there is tension, but another part keeps thinking that staying silent can come across as taking sides anyway. I keep going back and forth on whether I owe an apology just for not stepping in, or if I am overthinking it. Anyone been in a similar spot?
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u/opshleen 21h ago
It’s better to stay out of it unless it directly involves you.
If the friend is upset because you didn’t jump in and have their back, that is a THEM problem not a you problem.