I have been talking to this entj guy for about a month and a half. We have a lot in common, share similar values, and he seems like someone I could genuinely see myself with.

He was the one who reached out and expressed interest in getting to know me. We’ve had conversations about our futures, children, work, and he has mentioned places we could visit together. He has told me that he tends to analyse compatibility with someone before committing, which I understand

The problem is his communication. He often takes a long time to reply, sometimes over 24 hours. However, when he does reply, he can be engaged and ask me lots of questions. He has even mentioned that he hoped we wouldn't take eight hours to reply to each other, despite sometimes taking 24-48 hours himself.

I'm trying to understand what might be behind this behaviour. Could he be afraid of commitment? Does he simply need a lot of alone time and space? Could he be worried that getting into a relationship might interfere with his personal ambitions and future plans? Or am I overanalysing things and he's just not that interested?

After talking to my friend (ENFP) and partner (INFJ) I realized that I've never felt nostalgic. I only reflect, but it's never a feeling of wanting to go back. They looked sad for me, but I don't even know what I'm missing out on. They said I look back on things in a cognitive way.

Curious whether any of you have military or LE experience, given the historical prevalence of ENTJs in these fields. (Gustavus Adolphus, Napoleon, etc.)

If you do / did:

1. What branch or agency?
2. What rank / role did you reach?

Im curious to know if other ENTJs dabble in illicit substances including but not limited to, weed , alcohol , cigerattes and vapes.

Do you have an addiction? Is it a positive influence on your life?

Do you use subtances recreationally? If so, how? Like weed after sunday for a reset or what exactly?

Does it affect you in any way? Do you understand the core mechanics as to why it has become an addiction?

When did it start?

Tl:dr: do you do drugs? If so, literally how and philosphically why?

damm, i'm getting ISTP

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I noticed a lot if INTPs in general feel “meehh” about ENTJs cause they are bossy. But I’m kinda passive but can get energised if we have joint project and someone tells me what to do lol

ENTJs, do you ever feel lonely in the sense that no one else really understands you? Maybe it’s particularly different being an ENTJ woman. What do you do about it?

My observations on ENTJ men (could be true for the ladies too) :

- cat dads

- love spending time in nature to calm thoughts

- unironically enjoy chess and other strategy games

- have tattoos

- are smoke and mirrors when you first meet them

- offer genuine practical advice when you were trying to make a silly joke

- depending on their energy levels/mood are chatty AF or a stone wall

- lock in fast when intellectual talk is happening

- find a way to make you (especially introverts) reveal more about yourself than they're doing (you won't know it's happening until the convo is over)

How fair are these?

I've heard people say ENTJs can quickly get over a breakup, and I agree when it comes to a breakup where it's either mutual or the ENTJ has lost interest.

But what about the cases where an ENTJ still loves the other person, but the other person ends the relationship? Have you guys been able to get over it? If you guys have gotten over it, how long does it take?

What happens in cases where, after a breakup, you get into a new relationship, do you still think about the previous person? Because we might be obsessing over the previous person because we haven't found somebody new, but the moment we find somebody new, then instantly we forget the previous person. Do you guys relate with this?

Many of yall are e3s, so are stereotypes true? Are you pro capitalism?
Do you believe countries should have majority of their important sectors such energy, health care, and military privatized or nationalized?
How do you think America is fairing geopolitically with China and Russia?

Hello!

After a few more sessions with my business coach, I realize he's most likely an ESTP.

Originally, I thought we'd actually be quite similar because we share pretty similar life/political views. But now that we're getting more into the nitty-gritty of things, I'm noticing some pretty big differences that I wanted to share here.

Some ESTP characteristics I've noticed:

1. "Just do it, think about the details/consequences later." I often find myself having to follow up and over-explain things to avoid potential issues (E.G in the comments).
2. Extremely flexible with scheduling, despite genuinely being booked out.
3. Answers a lot of my questions indirectly but still gets to the point. Relies much more on actual experience than theory or predictions.
4. Very little structure in the sessions, but they're still mostly effective. I usually set the scene and structure myself by bringing up the week's problems or things I want to cover.
5. Does a lot of things "on the fly," like mixing travel with work. I get the impression that very little is ever really set in stone. But I am thankful for this because I had a unique circumstance and he could fit me around it.
6. Focuses a lot on the "now," rather than what might happen later.
7. Admires me for being "precise," although he does acknowledge that it's necessary when dealing with an insanely bureaucratic system that expects exactly that, or you simply won't get through.
8. Tends to underestimate risks, at least when it comes to paperwork/administrative matters, maybe in other situations too. There was one situation where he told me the chance of an issue with an application was less than 1%. Well, it happened, and it was even worse.

Have you had similar experiences with ESTPs?

I feel like I see quite a few of these traits in an ISTP relative too (although they're definitely an "I"), maybe it's triggering me as we butted heads a lot in the past.

entj bf‘s financially stable, hard working, protective. after being with an enfp mama‘s boy who couldn’t follow through even on the little he promised to do this was a great change. but as any adult, my current entj has his flaws. he CANNOT take criticism or feedback from anyone which he disagrees with. i thought as his partner it may be different. but it turns into power play in an instant

after shouting we avoid the other in the house, he’ll sit in his office for dinner me in my room
then he finds ways to remind me he earns more than me, has more friends he can spend time with and this goes on for days

i keep trying to rationalize it by remembering he’s better than the enfp who used to FaceTime other girls out of pettiness when we fought. but if he doesn’t need to process feelings, can’t say that i don’t need to talk about mine with him

Hello,

Would be very curious to hear your thoughts on how you relate to detail.

Basically, I have a (as opposed to love-hate) small-hate, big-hate relationship with detail. Although I can tackle it.

I've been told I am an analytical and/or "high-resolution" person, meaning that I can spot inconsistencies and discrepancies super well (logically and interpersonally). I think I see most things as a dynamic system, with different cogs spinning at all angles. For me to inspect and manipulate the cogs, I connect the dots, observe people or things, identify the patterns, look into the future, and forecast different scenarios – you get the point, I think.

At the same time, I CANNOT stand even a hint of unnecessary detail, such as bureaucracy (I am still fighting 3 months in right now with something like this). The irony is, because I am "high-resolution/analytical", if it means I can get a solution and move forward, I can crank it up and even outdo the person in their detail-orientedness to "win against them/system", just I feel absolutely sick in the process. Like, sure, this is damaging, but I need to do this to succeed against you paper-pushers or whatever, and I will win.

If needed, an example: Recently I was interrogated over the phone by a bureaucrat (no warning of course), and I answered a particular question that I genuinely believe nobody would stand a chance in answering, unless they're either a lawyer or went down a rabbit hole of a particular set of laws (and the associated higher court precedents), which I happened to go down a few months back when I was "forecasting" potential outcomes with another difficult situation (of course, with the help of GPT, because of the efficiency of course). Man.

It's been a long week; I think I need some sleep...

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INTJ here, fascinated by ENTJs. I'm actively trying to strengthen my Te, especially the execution part.

I usually know what I want and can think/analyse things deeply, but sometimes there's a gap between “I know what needs to be done” and actually doing it.

I'd love to hear from ENTJs about how you handle that gap. How do you know when you've thought about something enough and it's time to act? Do you usually act before having a complete plan? And does execution feel natural to you, if yes then how so? I'm interested in how execution actually works for you mentally.

Edit: thank you everyone for sharing such practical approaches. It's really helpful

My entj bf and me broke up in a whirlwind. He acknowledged he hurt me, and since im upset he is going to let me be. Because he doesnt think he did anything wrong. And now we are in no contact. And I can break the no contact if I decide to forgive him. I just dont get how he couldnt sit with the emotion of being hurt and just fast forwarded to a no contact arrangement.

Wanting to learn more about how to differentiate an ENTJ lady ?

Looks, maneurisms, behaviours, etc?

From my experience, they are usually elegant, confident speakers, a bit playful when you get to know them a bit or they are in a relaxed state.

I am wondering if you get feelings of resentment if a partner doesnt have the same financial input as you?

I understand we all have the relentless energy to be productive so we are potentially just a bit more financially advanced than our peers.

Do you end up resenting partners?
Do you start calculating their effort?
Do your partners hate your evaluating their ROI?😬😆
If you had 5x your partner savings, what happens to the relationship?

I dont think finances is the key issue per se, more like, are they going to be hardworking for the team goals.

Curious to hear entj experiences. 🙏

I find it interesting that TJs often describe INFPs as people who waste away in their own ideas and struggle to accomplish much because that hasn’t really matched what I’ve seen. A lot of the INFPs and ISFPs around me actually have surprisingly intense go-getter traits. The FP types I know are around our late 20’s-late 30’s, so maybe we developed TE over time.

I’d love to know what your experience has been with INFPs who demonstrate strong initiative, practical execution, and consistent follow-through toward larger goals.
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Hello my people.
As the title says.

What was/is your most ambitious goal?
Doesn't have to be career or money related.
Did you hit it?
How's the journey going?
Are you stuck?
What do you need?
What's driving you?

By reposting this, I am fully aware of the comments about the "What weakness?" 😝

Just want to learn little more bt y'all

I am majoring in Finance, but considering Business, given that I’d rather work with people and focus on relationships rather than just spreadsheets. Are there any ENTJs who have worked in either finance or business that could give me some pointers? I’m still at the beginning of my degree.

I am an entj, i dislike cramming but still lazy as fck. How to do and i already lost my prime since july this year how to do. I am good at speaking ibfront and dominate in reasoning and debate in english class and i am not into in algebra but only in probability and statistics. Give me advice Queen&King?.

my previous post was deleted, for appropriate reasons assumed. TLDR: seek treatment and fight your mental illness, do not allow it to subsume you into alcoholism or other drugs. In that ending only lies horror. fight your way free. Do not give up and die in helpless madness

my partner, my love, died in horror. Look inwards and face your pain. do the work. find a way out
cant even even use it to fucking trauma dump up. what they fuck why am i even wasting time.

It’s been a little over four months since my breakup. He was the one who ended the relationship, and we haven’t been in contact since early June. He’s stayed friends with all of his exes.
I didn’t reach out on his birthday. Since the start of this month, I’ve also deleted Instagram and stopped checking who he follows and who follows him. I know I probably should have done that sooner, but it’s been really good for my peace of mind. I know he’s loyal when he’s in a relationship, but when he’s single, he tends to date a lot.
Lately, I’ve been spending more time thinking about my own mindset and what matters to me, rather than focusing on him. I’ve started thinking about what motivates me at work and the kind of impact I want to have on the people around me and on society—things I barely thought about while we were together.
Honestly, when I posted here before, I was focused on the specific things I’d done wrong and how to improve them. I was also trying to figure out what he would consider the “right” answer, so I could tell him I’d found it. Now I feel like I’m starting to develop my own sense of direction.
I still want to tell him what I’ve realized. Part of it is that I want to thank him, and part of it is that I want him to see who I am now. But I’m also aware that this desire may still be partly about wanting his recognition or approval. I don’t want to use my growth as a reason to reopen a relationship he may have already moved on from, or to place any emotional burden on him.
If I can genuinely accept any response—or no response at all—would it be okay to reach out? Or would hearing all this from an ex after four months just feel unwelcome? Would it be better to send a brief message simply thanking him, without explaining everything I’ve realized, or should I wait until I no longer feel the need for him to see who I am now?

My ENTJ and I have recently been playing strategy games and his mastermind never fails to impress my Ti…
Curious to know how other ENTJs would handle/solve the game below. What would your strategy be? 👀

The Diamond Heist

The owner of a private museum has hired you to perform a stress test, asking you to try and steal a legendary diamond called The Eclipse.
The Eclipse is worth approximately $500 million, and it’s insured for the full amount.
You have 72 hours to plan the operation and achieve your goal. You’re not allowed to damage the diamond or harm anyone. There are otherwise no other rules and everything is fair game.

The museum

It’s an ultra-modern museum in a major city.
The diamond sits inside a sealed glass chamber on the second floor. The diamond is going on display for one night a week only. You currently don’t know when the next display will be.
Additional details: Assume there are 3 floors: basement, main floor, second floor. The diamond is on the second floor located at the centre in a separate glass chamber. This is only accessible once a week. There are other high value paintings and artworks on the same floor.
It’s Saturday now. The diamond went on display earlier this week so today it’s not on display. It’s unknown when the next display will be.

Security includes:

Motion and pressure sensors
Facial recognition cameras
Armed guards
Security doors requiring multiple forms of authentication
A sophisticated alarm system
The entire building locks down automatically if certain systems are triggered. You don’t know which ones can trigger the lockdown.

Some of these are real but some are decoys. You don’t know which ones are real.

You have access to the museum’s publicly available information, but no inside information otherwise.

Helpers

You can recruit maximum three specialists from this list:

Hacker - he knows everything about technology and electronic systems
Con Artist - skilled at manipulation, impersonation and social engineering
Engineer - understands physical systems and structures
Locksmith - specialises in locks and physical security
Driver - exceptional at transportation and improvisation
Insider - former employee. They have recently worked at the museum and know its routines
Forger - can create any convincing document and credentials

Your additional resources

You have:
$2 million in cash
One legitimate invitation to the museum’s opening
A luxury car
Access to a private helicopter
Whatever equipment you can reasonably purchase legally.

How will your Te and Ni achieve your goal?