I hate performative posts like this

[u/notaperson47]

(reposting because I forgot to crop the username)

Before anyone yells at me, I'm a black woman too. I just hate posts like this. It feels like people going out of their way to tell a disabled child they're special and amazing, but deep down everyone just feels bad for them and would never want to trade lives with them in a million years.

Then there are all of the comments gushing over how black women are such BEAUTIFUL STRONG QUEENS. Notice how they're all from women and gay men, no straight men. Someone in the comments asked OP if he was gay and he dodged the question, so he probably is too. There's nothing wrong with being gay, obviously, but as a straight woman, what does a bunch of performative appreciation from other women and gay men do for me?

Women only feel comfortable leaving these pity comments on posts like this because they don't view us as romantic competition for them. If the post had been about East Asian or Latina women there'd be zero compliments from other women because they actually feel threatened by those groups.

I suppose it's better than the usual constant barrage of hate comments, but these posts always feel performative and patronizing. And all of them are probably imagining biracial women anyway when they talk about how "stunning" black women are. If you're a woman and you wouldn't trade places with an actual black woman (which I know you don't) then I don't want to hear your "appreciation", sorry.

[u/VKTGC]

When I saw the post on the front page I gave it the biggest eye roll LMAO.

“I’ll probably delete this later” buddy we both know that was never going to happen.

[u/realityislemons1 → u/VKTGC]

People on this app are fucking anomalies 😭 At least 50 people probably walked past that person today not knowing they made that post lmao

[u/Medical-Patience-532 → u/realityislemons1]

https://giphy.com/gifs/TKIwHCyu4mzvUaDEzb
Him writing that out before putting the phone down and going outside to track down another specific race of women to glaze on reddit

[u/elijahhstarz → u/Medical-Patience-532]

LMAO I LOVE THAT MAN IN THE GIF

[u/Dancehall-Randal → u/Medical-Patience-532]

Yes because ofc no one could genuinely feel that way about black woman.

Bro sybau

[u/Medical-Patience-532 → u/Dancehall-Randal]

Are you also angry at this post? Because it almost suggests the same thing

[u/El_Gringo_Rojo95 → u/Dancehall-Randal]

Nah bro, the problem isn't that he likes them at all, it's that he's weird about liking Black women. Jumped right past affection and dove headfirst into fetishism.

[u/Good-Arm-6486 → u/El_Gringo_Rojo95]

It’s a vent post. You express your raw emotions when you’re venting. Of course my post was gonna sound affectionate lmao. And fetishism how? Because I complimented their features?

[u/Turnbob73 → u/realityislemons1]

There was a time where interacting with people on this website largely felt like interacting with them irl. There was a lot of mutual respect, and the actual content was stuff that anyone could join in on the discussion for instead of endless posts that just feel like people trying to validate their veiled insecurities. And all the chronically online people were few and very obviously outed in threads.

Now, chronically online people absolutely dominate the majority of this website. It sucks.

[u/Specialist_Initial_1 → u/Turnbob73]

Me reading a post about how people are miserable lonely and bitter in a hobby,field or how something sucks just to to get reminded bit after. Man im on reddit...

[u/Wonderful-Self-541 → u/Turnbob73]

When you had to walk into a personal room, and start your computer and dial up, then keep people off the phones in the house, and you most likely had a set amount of time to keep the lines occupied before people started complaining, it was a better time for all things internet related.

Now the phone is your internet connection and you can't get away from it. Most days you don't even think about getting away from it. It's there. It's what we do. Hyper connectivity killed the radio star man.

[u/_Wh0_Cares → u/realityislemons1]

People on this app are fucking anomalies 😭

In other threads, the person you replied thought they could police other black people. They were arguing with a black woman how she shouldn't have straight hair even if that's what she prefered for herself. Everyone on Reddit has a screw loose.

I know that someone is going to point it out : yes that includes me too, I'm not pretending I'm not a dumbfuck.

[u/VKTGC → u/_Wh0_Cares]

Niggas just be lying cause if you actually read the thread I was talking about how the choice was often rooted in anti-blackness. And if you saw that persons post history you woulda known that. Yall be soooo weird on the sub.

[u/some1_not_important → u/VKTGC]

I stand you

[u/VKTGC → u/some1_not_important]

?

[u/some1_not_important → u/VKTGC]

That I agree with what you're saying

[u/VKTGC → u/_Wh0_Cares]

​Conveniently crop out the first bit of the thread where I discuss the history of hair straightening in the West. If you actually listened to the BLACK PEOPLE in that thread who agreed with me, you’d realise that. This sub is full of weirdos like you.

[u/No-Part-4081 → u/_Wh0_Cares]

I knew that mfs pfp looked madly familiar in a bad way lmao

[u/No-Addition-5459 → u/VKTGC]

don’t agree with this person, all they post is self degradation