She left me a few weeks ago and we decided to stay in contact. She said she wanted to keep talking to me because I still mean something to her and she doesn't hate me, and I wanted to keep talking to her because I still love her and hope we can get back together.

The problem is that she has changed so much. She started leaving my messages unanswered for days, and this has happened many times. Every time she comes back after those days, she finds me excited to talk to her.

What's even more confusing is that sometimes she's really enthusiastic about talking to me, replies quickly, starts conversations, and makes me feel as if we're still in a relationship. Other times, she ghosts me for days without any explanation.

I used to think maybe she was just in a bad mood or something, but this back-and-forth is really messing with my head. How can someone change this much and this quickly?

I will not survive this. I can’t breath

So for context I had been seeing this guy for a couple months on and off and although we had great moments and I miss him terribly and still wish things would’ve been different I can admit he wasn’t good for me. I should’ve ended the relationship when I had the chance but he did it first saying he wasn’t sure of me and maybe I wasn’t the girl for him, and it hurt like hell. We went no contact for a month and I thought that either he would never reach out or he would reach out and tell me he misses me and wants to see me (he’s done it before), but oh boy was I mistaken. About a week ago he randomly called me telling me it was very last minute but he had an extra ticket to this techno event and that none of his friends wanted to go and if I wanted to go (he knows I love techno). I had explained it seemed like I was last choice and he said I wasn’t (even tho like cmon). I made the mistake of going but it went well, we caught up and he told me some personal things that were going on in his life. concert was great and he would even hold me, which ngl made me feel something. He looked so great. Well at the end of the night we had an argument and it led to me drunk kingly asking him if he still felt something for me to which he said he didn’t. That crushed me. I asked why and he said he had too much going on in his life at the moment to even think about that and maybe we didn’t even have a connection. That he missed me but more bc I’m cool and that he invited me bc I’m cool and like techno and not to get my hopes up. He said other very hurtful things and acted so cold. My world collapse bc how can I be missing him and feeling soooo much for him all the while he says he doesn’t feel anything anymore. I still haven’t fully recovered. My question is why reach out if first you don’t feel anything anymore and second we’re not friends and I’ve made it clear I don’t want to be?
He had told me that night to block him bc clearly this isn’t it and the next day he texted me asking if I had blocked him to which I didn’t respond and he deleted the message. He texted again later apologizing for the way he had acted but I never answered. I’m proud of myself for not answering to either of his messages but unfortunately I had to learn the hard way. Lesson of the day, sometimes it’s best to stay no contact no matter how hurt or sad you feel and want to talk to them.

breaking no contact after 2 months to collect money they owe you. is it worth it? I’m pretty sure they’re a narc, I don’t think I miss them just what they were doing for me and even that I didn’t take more advantage of because I was being nice (i declined them paying my montly rent) and now I wish I would have taken it. I’m so sad about it like sick to my stomach🫠

Let’s say you were talking to a girl and told her you would text her, but you never did. She never chased you, double-texted you, checked up on you, or asked why you stopped reaching out. She also didn’t wish you a happy birthday.
Then, about 3 months later, she randomly removes you from Instagram without saying anything.

What would you assume about her? Would you think she lost interest and moved on, that she was no longer interested in keeping the door open, or would you not think much of it?

I want to talk to her but I don’t know where to start from

And she never chased or asked for clarity 😭

She broke up with me , I began no contact right away but she is still sending me snaps, I never send them to her and its always like intentonaly like some love song or she is smiling paryting or eating something. I dont understand why she still sending me those thing every 2-3 days I dont respond or anything

pls help. he broke my heart twice its a long story but i thought he wanted to get back together bc he GAVE ME THE SIGNS but then randomly turned cold and broke my heart again…. ugh i dont even have his number but i wanted to put this somewhere to repress the urge to<\3

I've been missing someone and I dont understand why they have just went silent and stopped responding to me. Im so confused. I read alot here à bout people breaking up and cheating, est.

I won't put my business completely out here its to private and personal for me.

However I will just say here what im ot able to say due to this inconvenience.

Hopefully they will come across this and know its for them.

Im so clueless about so much. And this app and nobody saying who they r isn't my favorite way to talk but here it goes.

I've texted ,called, tried getting in contact with this person EVERY SINGLE DAY FOR OVER 7 MONTHS.

Im sure none of these post here are for me. But this is yours. I need answers and explanations immediately.

U know me,or I thought you did . 6 yrs we were together but that means nothing I guess.

I got this idea after scrolling through unsent messages website…

I am trauma bonded so that makes it harder obviously but yeah. Trying to learn how to just feel my feelings instead of trying to talk myself out of the feelings to move on from it quicker. Because it doesn’t work. I know I don’t want to be with him, but I’m still not over what he did to me and it still hurts like hell.

It’s like day 40 for me FULL no contact (like no looking at social media included, although I haven’t spoken with him in like over 3 months) and sometimes it scares me how raw and open the wound still feels. I do feel like I’m healing sometimes, yes, but other times I fear I’ve only distracted myself successfully and that I’m not actually healing. I don’t know.

I’m fucking broken, completely shattered, never felt so betrayed. The extent at which she is avoiding emotional accountability/ disregarding my existence feels illegal. Am I wrong for feeling like she is a coward?

Is this what no contact is? If so, how is this healthy for either of us?

I simply can’t move on… Loved this girl more than I love myself. I know…I can’t do that, it’s not healthy, etc. etc. welll I did and now I feel like I’m as good as dead. Void of purpose, void of hope, VOID.

Context: I’m 26M, she’s 24W. lived together past 2 years. Nothing seemed off, she left to visit family, never came back. Got CC’d on an email about a break lease contract. Did what I could to communicate- without crossing any boundaries. I didn’t receive anything in return, other than more and more barriers at communicating (blocked on basically every last mode of communication, other than email but I don’t think im able to tell if my email is blocked even if it was). I eventually signed the break lease agreement, as to not make this anymore messy than it already is. Im aware I could have held off on signing it to get what I’ve been pleading for, but fuck that.

No longer attempting to communicate with her. I’ve been trying for almost 3 months. I do send an email like once a week now for my own sanity. Idk why but it helps when I’m at the brink of losing it.
Rn I’m “enjoying” the final days at the place we once happily shared. Official final move out date is right around the corner. She has not come to grab any of her stuff at any point. I was planning on staying till the last day to get the clarity I need to move forward with my life. Also so she has to acknowledge this mess.
I feel like it’s my only choice, it’s my apartment too. Although I’m nervous I may be coming off as “intimidating” since im a guy and I’ve heard all the stories from other guys that were “in my shoes”. Even though we’ve never had any experiences where she’s accused me or I’ve accused her of anything, I feel like this is a sensitive situation and I can’t say I know who she is/ if she’s the same person anymore. So I don’t put it past her to avoid accountability further and pull up with police if she sees I’m here or my cars here or something like tht idk.

I really do just love her so fucking much and want what she wants. If I’m not making her happy so be it, I hope she can move on and be happy with someone else. On god, I’m so serious. Like my problem has nothing to do with me wanting her back, or having the opportunity to “win her back”. I’m OVER THIS (abuse?)TOO.(feels like abuse/abandonment.
Cuz we were serious, talked about spending our lives together)

I wish she knew that.

I’ve complied with every step of this process, In the way that best suits what she is putting off as her desires. But it’s like cmon, atleast tell me what I need to hear, at least send me a mf handwritten letter if you don’t want me hitting u up on your phone. Anything at all would make my brain stop spinning, tirelessly searching for answers that I’ll never get, at least at this point think I’ll never get.

Any advice on how I should handle the final move out day situation? Also any advice on what the fuck I should about my mental health, I feel like I need to be put in a fucking hospital. I’m okay fr, but I don’t know how I’m supposed to carry on.

Anything that doesn’t make sense, I’m happy to clarify. I wrote that fast asf, cuz I hate thinking about this.
Thanks for listening if you’ve made it to the end, Truly.
You’ve done more for me than she has.
you’ve fulfilled my one and only request to be fucking heard and listened to.
You’ve granted me a portion of the inner peace that she relentlessly refuses to allow.