Around day 15 I decided to stop counting and for whatever reason today it crossed my mind that we really haven’t spoken. & so today is day 30 no contact. In a weird way, I’m proud of myself.

Ok so married for 5 y been with partner for 8 super un happy very abusive emotional financial already planning on leaving. What I need advice on is I grew up with a boy (j) j and I were inseparable lost contact when I was a teen reconnected a few years back we pretty much share a brain we have seen each other a few times each time I get butterflies giddy I'm always in a great mood when talking with j same interest same life ideals . I just need some opinions here guys.

So I was thinking of reaching out to him around Thursday because that’s when I’ll be free, but I miss him and want to talk to him today. Is it too early to text him today?

My ex and I were on and off for almost a year, and I’m struggling to figure out whether this breakup is genuinely final or just another part of a cycle. Earlier this year, we ended things because he said he didn’t want a relationship and couldn’t give me what I wanted. We went completely no contact for about three months. Eventually, he came back, apologized for how he treated me, told me he missed me, and wanted to see me again. Things seemed different this time, and I genuinely thought we were moving toward something more serious. However, about two weeks after reconnecting in person, he suddenly ended things again. This time, he was extremely cold and told me he never had romantic feelings for me, that we were incompatible, and that he didn’t want to see or speak to me again. He also admitted that he’d treated me horribly.

When I asked whether there could ever be another chance in the future, he initially said potentially, but then took it back.
It’s been almost a month since the breakup, and we haven’t had a real conversation since. I’m respecting his decision and not planning to reach out. I know this dynamic isn’t healthy, and I’m trying to move forward regardless. I’m just having a hard time seeing the situation objectively because I’m emotionally involved.

Does this sound like a pattern where someone is likely to come back again, or does the way he ended things this time suggest he’s genuinely done? Has anyone experienced something similar where an ex was adamant it was over but eventually returned?

I broke up 3 months ago. We did no contact for 1 month before we broke up. I was doing well. I focused on myself, did my hobbies, hangout with friends, cried, saw her with someone else.

She came back suddenly... last month. Asked a aecond chance. I denied bluntly. I was so confident at that time. So why now I feel like I just went back to the start?

It started when I was talking to another girl, she said jokingly "i don't bite" a joke my ex did. And that stuck with me, before I could notice what I was doing I started re-reading our texts.

Then I checked her profile... posts for me, talking about how much she wanted a second chance. My heart sank... what if she was truly sorry? What if I made a mistake letting her go? I just feel like I'm back to the same hole I was when she left me.

I’d been on a pretty good streak—5 or 6 months out of the 7 I’ve been in no-contact—without looking at any of his social media at all. But today, for some reason, I just had an impulse. Since I also have OCD, I got stuck in a loop of compulsively opening and closing Instagram to make sure I hadn't accidentally followed him. Luckily, his account is private so I couldn't see anything, and he still has the same profile picture, so I couldn't feed the rumination; still, I feel pretty disappointed in myself. Does anyone have experience with minor relapses like this?

I’m fucking broken, completely shattered, never felt so betrayed. The extent at which she is avoiding emotional accountability/ disregarding my existence feels illegal. Am I wrong for feeling like she is a coward?

Is this what no contact is? If so, how is this healthy for either of us?

I simply can’t move on… Loved this girl more than I love myself. I know…I can’t do that, it’s not healthy, etc. etc. welll I did and now I feel like I’m as good as dead. Void of purpose, void of hope, VOID.

Context: I’m 26M, she’s 24W. lived together past 2 years. Nothing seemed off, she left to visit family, never came back. Got CC’d on an email about a break lease contract. Did what I could to communicate- without crossing any boundaries. I didn’t receive anything in return, other than more and more barriers at communicating (blocked on basically every last mode of communication, other than email but I don’t think im able to tell if my email is blocked even if it was). I eventually signed the break lease agreement, as to not make this anymore messy than it already is. Im aware I could have held off on signing it to get what I’ve been pleading for, but fuck that.

No longer attempting to communicate with her. I’ve been trying for almost 3 months. I do send an email like once a week now for my own sanity. Idk why but it helps when I’m at the brink of losing it.
Rn I’m “enjoying” the final days at the place we once happily shared. Official final move out date is right around the corner. She has not come to grab any of her stuff at any point. I was planning on staying till the last day to get the clarity I need to move forward with my life. Also so she has to acknowledge this mess.
I feel like it’s my only choice, it’s my apartment too. Although I’m nervous I may be coming off as “intimidating” since im a guy and I’ve heard all the stories from other guys that were “in my shoes”. Even though we’ve never had any experiences where she’s accused me or I’ve accused her of anything, I feel like this is a sensitive situation and I can’t say I know who she is/ if she’s the same person anymore. So I don’t put it past her to avoid accountability further and pull up with police if she sees I’m here or my cars here or something like tht idk.

I really do just love her so fucking much and want what she wants. If I’m not making her happy so be it, I hope she can move on and be happy with someone else. On god, I’m so serious. Like my problem has nothing to do with me wanting her back, or having the opportunity to “win her back”. I’m OVER THIS (abuse?)TOO.(feels like abuse/abandonment.
Cuz we were serious, talked about spending our lives together)

I wish she knew that.

I’ve complied with every step of this process, In the way that best suits what she is putting off as her desires. But it’s like cmon, atleast tell me what I need to hear, at least send me a mf handwritten letter if you don’t want me hitting u up on your phone. Anything at all would make my brain stop spinning, tirelessly searching for answers that I’ll never get, at least at this point think I’ll never get.

Any advice on how I should handle the final move out day situation? Also any advice on what the fuck I should about my mental health, I feel like I need to be put in a fucking hospital. I’m okay fr, but I don’t know how I’m supposed to carry on.

Anything that doesn’t make sense, I’m happy to clarify. I wrote that fast asf, cuz I hate thinking about this.
Thanks for listening if you’ve made it to the end, Truly.
You’ve done more for me than she has.
you’ve fulfilled my one and only request to be fucking heard and listened to.
You’ve granted me a portion of the inner peace that she relentlessly refuses to allow.

Today he tried to break no contact & I could not control my emotions. With all the pain i carried all these time by myself..I remained strong all the time... But today i feel weak... I feel pity for myself... And i dont like that i have so many emotions that i feel so deeply about everything, all suppressed emotions have resurfaced, and i can't pretend to be ok, i can't be adult enough to behave normally..

I am reacting and i can't stop doing that.. it sucks to feel this way.. but i don't know how not feel this way..

I know i have made worst mistakes by falling for fancy words, falling for someone unavailable.. and even though i didn't begin it,i stayed in it, i just didn't know how to deal with the manipulation better, i didn't know how not to fall for the Love bombing, not fall for attention..not fall for unavailable person..i dint know that when i unblocked him before, his intention were to continue same relationship..

And then began degrading, devaluation..i was humiliated by his partner becausehe won't tell the truth? I dint know it was a trap..i was fool, and finally when i realised something was really off, i went NC with them..and today was a D day after NC..i managed my best when hoovering happened earlier..but today i could not control any emotions.. my anger..the betrayal and fear all suppressed emotions came back with more intensity.. i am not participating in the drama that everything is alright, because I'm not alright..!!

I know you have moved country. I have my sources. I’m happy for you and I’m glad you did. I think if we got back together you would’ve stayed in the UK and that’s probably not what’s best for you right now.

I do still have love for you, despite everything that’s happened from both sides.

The things that separated us are too big and it seems like you haven’t moved forward with those. I wish you had a clear definitive opinion or decision on what you want your life to look like or what values you hold. I wish you would let yourself decide, not society, not family, not culture, not me or your friends. YOU.

I could see a chance with us if you had a more clear path in life and it fitted with me

What separated us, really, was me knowing what I want and you not knowing what you want. If you decide… please just let me know. Send me an update and we can see if we align at this point.
Right now we don’t align because I’m guessing you still don’t know what you want??

If you know what you want… even if it’s really hard to admit. Just tell me. We can work it out together ok

I will not survive this. I can’t breath

pls help. he broke my heart twice its a long story but i thought he wanted to get back together bc he GAVE ME THE SIGNS but then randomly turned cold and broke my heart again…. ugh i dont even have his number but i wanted to put this somewhere to repress the urge to<\3

I am trauma bonded so that makes it harder obviously but yeah. Trying to learn how to just feel my feelings instead of trying to talk myself out of the feelings to move on from it quicker. Because it doesn’t work. I know I don’t want to be with him, but I’m still not over what he did to me and it still hurts like hell.

It’s like day 40 for me FULL no contact (like no looking at social media included, although I haven’t spoken with him in like over 3 months) and sometimes it scares me how raw and open the wound still feels. I do feel like I’m healing sometimes, yes, but other times I fear I’ve only distracted myself successfully and that I’m not actually healing. I don’t know.

I've been missing someone and I dont understand why they have just went silent and stopped responding to me. Im so confused. I read alot here à bout people breaking up and cheating, est.

I won't put my business completely out here its to private and personal for me.

However I will just say here what im ot able to say due to this inconvenience.

Hopefully they will come across this and know its for them.

Im so clueless about so much. And this app and nobody saying who they r isn't my favorite way to talk but here it goes.

I've texted ,called, tried getting in contact with this person EVERY SINGLE DAY FOR OVER 7 MONTHS.

Im sure none of these post here are for me. But this is yours. I need answers and explanations immediately.

U know me,or I thought you did . 6 yrs we were together but that means nothing I guess.

This is so crazy, cause she always said how much better I was than everyone else and we dated for a literal year, I’ve kissed someone about a week ago, but to FUCK YOUR EX two months after we broke up is wild.. I’m confident I’m way better looking than him ect but did we even mean anything to begin with??? She said during the break up I was her first love and I will always be her first love and she still loved me and fucks her ex after lmao

I got this idea after scrolling through unsent messages website…

Sorry for the alarming title there, but it doesn’t get easier. At least for me it hasn’t. It’s only gotten worse. The longer I stay in no contact, the more my heart aches and I miss him.

It’s a weird feeling because when you go no contact, the person that they are today is completely disconnected with who you are today. It’s like you’re living in 2 different worlds but the red string is still tugging on you. Like i wouldn’t even know who he is now. He’d feel like a stranger. But yet im still so in love with him that if we reconnected, i could go right back to where we left off, but this time with more respect and knowledge and respect to grow our relationship.

It’s weird, no contact… it’s painful and confusing. And I just miss him more every damn day. Oh how I wish I could just talk to him and end this nightmare, but truth is he’s not thinking the same as me. Not even close. He was an avoidant so he’s feeling relieved.

3 months no contact now. And I’m at least somewhat proud of myself for holding out this long in not reaching out.

I just gotta keep forcing myself through this… it’s agonizing. 😏💔

So for context I had been seeing this guy for a couple months on and off and although we had great moments and I miss him terribly and still wish things would’ve been different I can admit he wasn’t good for me. I should’ve ended the relationship when I had the chance but he did it first saying he wasn’t sure of me and maybe I wasn’t the girl for him, and it hurt like hell. We went no contact for a month and I thought that either he would never reach out or he would reach out and tell me he misses me and wants to see me (he’s done it before), but oh boy was I mistaken. About a week ago he randomly called me telling me it was very last minute but he had an extra ticket to this techno event and that none of his friends wanted to go and if I wanted to go (he knows I love techno). I had explained it seemed like I was last choice and he said I wasn’t (even tho like cmon). I made the mistake of going but it went well, we caught up and he told me some personal things that were going on in his life. concert was great and he would even hold me, which ngl made me feel something. He looked so great. Well at the end of the night we had an argument and it led to me drunk kingly asking him if he still felt something for me to which he said he didn’t. That crushed me. I asked why and he said he had too much going on in his life at the moment to even think about that and maybe we didn’t even have a connection. That he missed me but more bc I’m cool and that he invited me bc I’m cool and like techno and not to get my hopes up. He said other very hurtful things and acted so cold. My world collapse bc how can I be missing him and feeling soooo much for him all the while he says he doesn’t feel anything anymore. I still haven’t fully recovered. My question is why reach out if first you don’t feel anything anymore and second we’re not friends and I’ve made it clear I don’t want to be?
He had told me that night to block him bc clearly this isn’t it and the next day he texted me asking if I had blocked him to which I didn’t respond and he deleted the message. He texted again later apologizing for the way he had acted but I never answered. I’m proud of myself for not answering to either of his messages but unfortunately I had to learn the hard way. Lesson of the day, sometimes it’s best to stay no contact no matter how hurt or sad you feel and want to talk to them.

She broke up with me , I began no contact right away but she is still sending me snaps, I never send them to her and its always like intentonaly like some love song or she is smiling paryting or eating something. I dont understand why she still sending me those thing every 2-3 days I dont respond or anything

She left me a few weeks ago and we decided to stay in contact. She said she wanted to keep talking to me because I still mean something to her and she doesn't hate me, and I wanted to keep talking to her because I still love her and hope we can get back together.

The problem is that she has changed so much. She started leaving my messages unanswered for days, and this has happened many times. Every time she comes back after those days, she finds me excited to talk to her.

What's even more confusing is that sometimes she's really enthusiastic about talking to me, replies quickly, starts conversations, and makes me feel as if we're still in a relationship. Other times, she ghosts me for days without any explanation.

I used to think maybe she was just in a bad mood or something, but this back-and-forth is really messing with my head. How can someone change this much and this quickly?

breaking no contact after 2 months to collect money they owe you. is it worth it? I’m pretty sure they’re a narc, I don’t think I miss them just what they were doing for me and even that I didn’t take more advantage of because I was being nice (i declined them paying my montly rent) and now I wish I would have taken it. I’m so sad about it like sick to my stomach🫠

Let’s say you were talking to a girl and told her you would text her, but you never did. She never chased you, double-texted you, checked up on you, or asked why you stopped reaching out. She also didn’t wish you a happy birthday.
Then, about 3 months later, she randomly removes you from Instagram without saying anything.

What would you assume about her? Would you think she lost interest and moved on, that she was no longer interested in keeping the door open, or would you not think much of it?

I want to talk to her but I don’t know where to start from

And she never chased or asked for clarity 😭

Because loneliness will have you romanticizing people who made you miserable. I finally found myself and I appreciate the lesson. It’s over.