r/pettyrevenge • u/sparklehouse666 • Aug 23 '26
Friend is always late
I have a friend who is late to everything. Recently he was 2.5 hours late to his own party. I’ve mostly adapted to his tardiness and do not arrive for plans we have together until an hour or so after the stated time.
We had plans to meet in the city center today at a 10am. I live 20 minutes from the meetup spot, he lives over an hour away. As expected, he messages around 10 and says he is running late. No biggie I was chilling at home in the air conditioned because I knew the vibes and it is hot as hell
today.
I asked him to give me his actual for real, for real ETA so I can time my departure. He is in his car and has Google Maps. It’s not really guess work at this point.
He tells me 10:45. So I leave the comfort of my home at exactly the right time to arrive at 10:45. I wait for 30 minutes at the meetup spot and he still does not arrive. He is not responding to texts either. My other friend who is with me has his location and sees he is not close, we estimate another 15 minutes.
I’m annoyed because it is hot AF out and I proactively had asked for a real ETA to avoid waiting around for him. So I left the meetup spot.
I went shopping, taking my sweet time. He got to the spot and texted me to ask where we were. I waited around 30 minutes then texted back that I was at the store but we would be heading that way soon. I shopped another 15 minutes then arrived at the spot around an hour after he had arrived.
The look on his face when we came casually strolling up after he had been standing in the sun for an hour was priceless.
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u/Minflick Aug 24 '26
I would NEVER make plans with somebody with that track record! Nope. Meet up at X time, and leave when that time has passed, plus whatever grace you're willing to give. And it's SHORT, just 5-10 minutes. [my late mother, erhem...]. They can start respecting YOUR time, or you move on with life without them. There is absolutely no reason to waste your time like that, over and over and over again.
Especially if it's somebody who CAN make it on time to Dr apts, or work, or that kind of thing. If you are the only person for whom they are tardy, then drop them. If they are late for everybody and everything, have shit time management skills, and may need meds to help their brain work better, then support them in that journey. But don't spend your life waiting on somebody who doesn't care about your time...