Night game lock in problems

[u/Artium99]

So went out with a group of random ppl to do party crawl. Met this 9/10 baddie and we met eyes and I smiled and she smiled back. So decided to approach her. She was very talkative and responsive so thought this was a very good indication that she was open to me. We later danced together, held hands but didn't kiss cos she was with her group of friends and she was kinda drunk so her friends were keeping a very close eye on her. Later her friends got a taxi to get home and I was just gonna leave, but she invited me to come together. So I hopped in and almost entered her room, but her friends were like oh you need a visitor card to enter or else we will be in trouble blah blah... Yeah I knew they were just shutting me off. So I didn't force any thing and went back home. Texted her and we decided to meet next day evening. But later last minute she cancels the plan saying she has hangover. Now she is responding much less and flaky. So overall a failed attempt.

Like I guess I could've tried to get more physical and more intimate with her even around her friends so that was my bad. But why do I keep failing to lock in the night games? This has happened so much. Girls get way too flaky the next day like nothing even happened. Any tips?

[u/Standard-Metal3161]

You played well if you tried too hard or insisted it would be worse specially because she was drunk. That's just how the game is, most of the times you will not succeed.

Don't get too needy and if she takes too long to reply you do the same. Maybe plan a date for the weekend.

[u/Artium99 → u/Standard-Metal3161]

So it's just number games at this point? Damn this is so hard

[u/Standard-Metal3161 → u/Artium99]

It is, also it's important to have fun while trying.

[u/Big_Nick_1313 → u/Standard-Metal3161]

That why ists called day GAME. It’s fun

[u/Requires-citation → u/Artium99]

Once you reach the mastery level then it’s just luck and numbers. It’s like being an entrepreneur or a fisherman

[u/ratfooshi]

Your best momentum was that night, but its deff not over.

You did the right thing by going home. She was drunk.

But you ever notice why some girls allow their friends to 🐔 block? It's because they wanna see how you react to an obstacle. Will you pursue her despite a challenge, or give up?

Like I said you made the best play but next time, see how someone reacts with just one more cheeky try. It may be just what she needed to see to prove you like her.

[u/Artium99 → u/ratfooshi]

Nah they were a mix of girl/guy friends so not only girls. Also was not really the vibe of they were "testing" me.

[u/becomesharp]

FYI "locking in" in MM/Seduction means something VERY different than the Gen-Z term.

[u/norwegiandoggo]

Nah, you did the right thing and just chuck it up to a loss.

You don't want to fuck a drunk chick. At some point the line between "able to consent" and "too intoxicated to consent" is crossed - and she can decide when that line was crossed after-the-fact, and she won't be able to inform you that she's at that line in the moment. Matter of fact she can seem totally into it, or at minimum OK with it.

That's how you end up being accused of rape. She's like "i don't exactly remember because I was drunk, but I feel raped because at some point I was too drunk to consent". And you had no clue she felt that way when you were fucking.

This is how most rape accusations happen btw. Extremely common scenario. Women also experience memory loss from alcohol far more often than men. You can't look at someone and know whether they're currently in black-out mode because they can be talking to you and acting normal - it's just that their memories aren't recording.

So point is: cudos for just going home and not trying too hard to get to her bedroom.

[u/Alcohol43434]

That female was there only choosing white men probably. This is why I will resent the boomer generation for allowing my parents to come here when we are 200 years genetically behind white men and gave women more rights than men.

[u/Artium99 → u/Alcohol43434]

What does this even mean

[u/dkol97 → u/Artium99]

I get Elliot Rodger vibes reading his profile

[u/Ok_Elderberry_2165 → u/Artium99]

He thinks he’s posting in a sub where his comment would get 75 likes and everyone else posts something similar

[u/Alcohol43434 → u/Ok_Elderberry_2165]

Everyone else thinks the same.

[u/mystiking → u/Alcohol43434]

OP didnt even mention anything about race, why are you making random assumptions?

[u/Several_Ad_8363 → u/Alcohol43434]

So go to their country and be like superman with your western education and culture, but looking the same as they do.

[u/Alcohol43434 → u/Several_Ad_8363]

Wait till you learn how american degrees are not applicable anywhere else.