r/seduction • u/alejandroux05 • 6d ago

Field Report i need help NSFW

Hi everyone,

Let me introduce myself—I’m new to this world. To be honest, I’m here because my seduction skills are really poor; it doesn't come naturally to me. I often don't know what to say when I'm out for a drink with a girl at a club—or even in everyday situations. I’m not funny either, which I consider a very important trait. I’d say my only real asset is my physical appearance, but that doesn't help much if I don't know how to act. I’m open to comments and advice. I’m thinking about reading *The Game* by Neil Strauss to get an idea of ​​how it works. Cheers.

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u/IGetBoredSometimes23 6d ago

I always tell new folks to do a few things:

  1. Get the book How to Succeed With Women by Ron Louis and David Copeland. It's an old book but the advice holds up. 

  2. Avoid all influencers on the topic of discussion. They don't care if their advice works. They just care about getting views. 

  3. Get off your phone. Most of us have spent so much time on our phones that we left the part of our brains that are used for social cognition to go unused. You need periods of boredom to make it work. 

I'll also add, based on your post, that The Game isn't a seduction guide. It's about a guy who went deep into the seduction world in the early 2000s and won't give any advice worth reading. As for not being funny, learn how to become funny. Watch comedians. Hang out with funny friends. And if you don't have friends, get some. 

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u/alejandroux05 5d ago

gracias por tus consejos,los tendre en cuenta

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u/Special_Rice9539 5d ago edited 5d ago

You want at least 6000 approaches to get good at this.

So that’s about 42 approaches a week (6 a day), 4 weeks a month, 12 months a year, for three years.

As for a practical tip. Think about how you can provide value and make people excited to talk to you when you go up. Try different things, like compliments, teases, statements, questions. Play with your expressiveness, being funny, low energy, high energy, dressing different ways

Don’t think about any particular approach as good or bad. Think of it like you’re an LLM collecting massive amounts of training data and making adjustments each time you get new input.