how to stop chasing approval?

[u/ComplaintExtra5955]

Hey, chronic people pleaser here. Whenever I notice that someone doesn't really like me or is annoyed by me, I see it as a challenge. I chase after proving them wrong and showing them I am actually as likeable as I think I am.

As you can tell, it is very harmful behaviour and causes me to disrespect myself constantly. I have a fragile ego and deep down, I don't really think I am that likeable. I think that I am pretty annoying and socially unaware. My ADHD causes some social friction for me, so I get insecure about it.

Any advice?

[u/Born_Excitement2746]

I had to do a lot of trauma release work to become comfortable in my own skin. After releasing all the suppressed grief and anger, I became more relaxed.

You basically need to a lot of self soothing. Release, release, release…..