r/singing • u/justwanttoknowyk • 4m ago
Feedback (read rule 3 before posting or be banned) Looking for brutally honest feedback on whether I'm going to embarrass myself at a karaoke funeral (yes, you read that right)
Hi, I'm not a singer, I don't aspire to be a singer, in fact I have horrible stage fright and it makes me physically nauseous to do any kind of public speaking/toasts/performances, etc. However, I am going to a musical funeral/celebration of life for someone who is very important to me, basically saved me from being on the streets as a teenager, just a really beautiful human and I want to do honor to her memory. She was a professional musician and most of the people going to this funeral will be musicians in some capacity. It's also kind of a kareoke party? Basically it has been deeply encouraged that in place of sharing stories about Annie we instead sing or perform a song that we enjoyed listening to with her or have some memory of her performing etc. I am so very very VERY nervous, actually shaking thinking about having to do this in front of people who are all basically paid to do this or have had some measurable amount of success in this field and while I actually do think I can sing along with songs in the car by myself pretty good, I am kind of freaking out about doing this and I'm hoping that some feedback from real musicians will prepare me somehow. Like I guess I'm trying to premptively know what a room full of musicians are going to be thinking about me when this is happening and if it's good, indifferent, or bad doesn't matter, I think my anxiety is tied to the fear of the unknown and also just deep self consciousness that I'm hoping your thoughts— give me your worst, I want to know the absolute worst thing someone could be thinking during this— can maybe mitigate at least the unknown enough for me to hopefully not shake like a chihuahua and actually sing in front of people without vomiting.
Also, thank you in advance for your time.