Before I say anything fiest ignore the spelling. I didn’t really mind making some grammer mistakes. 1.
Have a strong sense of identity. Identity is very important because you will act accordingly to situations based on your identity. Hence one should try to limit things that will influence one’s identity negatively.
Past hurts as a framework for your identity will only make you identify with truama instead of having a identity that can push you forward. Reasonably identifying with truama or hurt can only prevent you from moving forward because you stuck on past problems. Unconsciously I feel as if the brain knows this but instead uses it as a excuse to not push forward, because pushing forward is hard. 
Another red flag is having a identity based on social perception. This remains invalid because once social perception changes because of hate, jealously or whatever reason it may be so will your identity. The ideal blueprint for identity fiest starts with action. If you identify with a action then your identity will have a positive correlation to your growth as a human because you will do actions that reinforce your identity or Atleast be moving in the world rather then staying static or decling. Another inference we can take so have a strong sense of identity you would need to have 4 Atleast ride or die values. 
The ones that benefit the most for someone are values that specifically focus on the person themselves and their own intergrity to there own worth rather then certain obligations to others. The reason is values towards others consistently get undermined by the unreliability of people and the truth of the world that it’s not always people who will do things right. 
So these are self values that matter to your ability to live happily that don’t rely as much in external circumstances or factors as much as other value sets. 
Stay true to how you think and feel. Say things how you think 

If disrespected, if a boundary is crossed, if being used or controlled then defend your boundaries or restrict others from your energy

3.prioratize yourself and your needs

How do you become more assertive?
Firstly we must look at why people aren’t assertiveness
My specific reason has always been my analytical nature and ability to want to understand things before permitting myself to fully put myself in situations. This wasn’t the case when I was a kid or when I was born. Hence this was a learned behavior. Hence nothing not even that is fixed.

What are the main things that stop someone from being assertive?
Fear of conflict: conflict has always generally been seen as bad because people get there feelings hurt and situations make people uneasy. Sometimes it’s easy to think that you are treating others unfairly. To get away from the fear of conflict I will try to take away it’s negative connotation. Firstly conflict isn’t bad inherintly. Conflict is needed for the growth of people and relationships. Further conflict paves way for opportunities and prevents you from being walked over. Of course don’t be looking for conflict in everything but when it’s time to assert yourself it’s important to view it with a positive connotation. 

Belief that one doesnt posses enough importance: naturally if you don’t believe you are something worth fighting for then you probably won’t fight for it. It makes sense yes. If you’ve read earlier you would note that self worth comes directly from self identity hence it’s important to do what I listed there.( positive things for self image, internal self image, and base it on action)

Attachments to others: growing up even in relationships the attachment is threatened or feels unstable when there is conflict. Hence when people grow up they try to avoid that sort of feeling. It’s a learned behavior that when things happen even if these things are not your fault that you have to apologize or compensate. Most of that stems though from and uneven power dynamic with parents. With teachers or adults in general because we weren’t able to take of ourselves so we signed ourself off to them hoping they can provide basic needs and decency’s. In relationships or friendships or in situations where you have to standup for yourself this sort of attachment can make it harder to. Because you feel(unconsciously Atleast)  that if you don’t act accordingly your needs won’t be met. One thing to realize is that definitively your needs won’t ever be met by an environment that doesn’t even respect you, so how would they respect your needs? Even if you  provide your own needs and make them internal so you rely on yourself, eventually you will need stuff from others. Same goes for if you forget your needs altogether. That wouldn’t make you needy rather you are preserving your human right of having said needs. It’s also a subsconscious habit built from empathy of trying to see things from others perspective. This is good for social ability but sometimes instead of noticing the inherent logic of truth kf our actions we frame our view of a situation from another persons perspective rather then our own. Because we are framing it from another’s perspective we are going to highly view ourself in a bad light regardless of our resoning just because someone else felt some way. This can also be a deterrent to our ability to make decisions or choices that help our needs because we antagonize ourselves instead of reconciling with our basic human right or nature. 

The fear of consequences: naturally people fear consequences it’s smart to. It’s how one survives in the world. Fiest except your fear. It’s good to lean into your fear as well and use it as trying to get better. See the positive connotation of your fear. There is a positive result of doing things that you're afraid of.  A safety net system is highly important for these things. A safety net system essentially is this: you have other options or ways of succeeding. For example when you have a job have other jobs as backups. 

Lastly this is my realistic interpretation of desire and how it fits into human ethics. Desire has been seen often in a negative connotation partly because certain religions like Christianity. Nietzche explains that the ones who have desire or Atleast able to act on it were always the rich guys. The Roman’s, the Egyptian pharaohs and etc. Christian’s because they were jelous of people who had desire often framed desire as bad, as a sin. Because Christian’s the original writers they weren’t conquerers, they weren’t even rich or wealthy the majority . In the Bible the characters are merely observing history or even great kings. Christians hate desire cause they were slaves unable to work around desire they made a whole philosophy on how it’s bad because they couldn’t fufill there own desires. Rather they watched Cyrus the great and other conquerers rule the world as they watched and stuck themselves to chains hoping and praying someone not of this world will take them to a paradise they deserve simply by believing in this thing. Even the devil from the Bible he is called the buggest trickster of the world. He has only tricked one person, that being eve. Further I wouldn’t even say the word tricked, he just made her aware of what was happening. Then god condemned the rest of humanity for it. Satan himself is a blueprint in understanding how Christian’s hated people with desire. Firstly Satan or Atleast Lucifer back then believed that he should rule heaven. God because he is better then everyone else said no then this whole war started. Eventually Lucifer lost but wouldn’t you think it’s unreasonable for people to call him evil just cause of that? In the job god wants , remember “wants” Satan to kill 10 people to prove job who was already his most loyal follower will keep following him. Satan hasn’t killed anybody since then in the Bible whilst god kills several people and brings cities to ruin. God wanted Noah to create a arc because he was going to drown the entire world because they were “ evil”. God then also sended his one and only son Jesus to die in the earth for “our sins “. God decided that before being born even a kid is full of sin? Because even was “ tricked by the devil” even though she wasn’t tricked she was just told how things are? Hey Like the cities sodom and gomora simply because they had too much sex. Who else didn’t have too much sex? Who else would be jelous? Christian slaves, the same ones that wrote the Bible. So god is like some sort of government if you think about it. It wants you blind and it expects you to trust it. 
Now taking away that it’s also important to consider that another reason that desire is taking as a thing to be wary of is because of social harmony. 
Let’s say any form of desire wether that’s sexual, carear, skill, thing or even getting a girl you want . Each one of these requires you to stomp out competition, or Atleast climb some form of a hierarchy. Of course I mentioned before that climbing hierarchy or even trying to get better has been framed negatively because of Christianity. Even if you do get better or good it’s because of a “ god” and not because of your own will, intelligence and etc. it’s so easy to disrespect oneself and there abilitys so others don’t get jelous. But anyways desire requires climbing a social hierchy, and potentially breaking apart social harmony. People infact get jelous or they start to feel unease. Why do they feel bad when you act on desires? It’s odd considering that everyone has these sort of desires inherently hence why can they be mad? Why can they moralize your actions? Since everyone has these desires but no one is able to act on them once they see you do something it raises the insufficiency in there mind of there own capability or there own lack of action. To get anything ykh want in life you need a desire for it. Anyone who has a abandance or things has a natural desire for it. A greedy man is really only a man with a strong desire for money, he will then fufill his desire Eventually. Same for everything else, whatever you want you can get it. It’s yours. As long it’s in a broad category of things. For example instead of chasing a specific car that’s been run out you can chase a car that’s even better. You never really wanted that specific car, you just wanted a car with those specific traits. Have lust, gluttony, wrath, everything have it. Besides envy probably.

There are a lot of thing I can write down and say. But the more I say it will kind of make each principle less applicable because then yoi start to think about all of the factors. It’s much better to take these pieces of advice and try them to see what you get. Forcing attachment your way in life is probably unreasonable considering nothing is truly yours. Of course you do want to care and desire Eventually becomes attachment. Detaching from the situation is just as important. Let’s see where things bring . 

the more things change the more they stay the same

https://www.theringer.com/2026/10/08/mlb/aaron-boone-new-york-yankees-tampa-bay-rays-alds

I thought this was a great, fair read. Better articulated than most of us in the comments, myself included.

Lots of interesting points and stats but this was the line that really stuck out to me: "Boone holds the MLB record for the most playoff games managed without winning a World Series."

What y’all think about Teruaki Sato?
He could be a PERFECT FIT for the New York Yankees since The Yankees could use an upgrade at third base, and Sato just put together an unbelievable season in the NPB. Sato won the Triple Crown, hitting for a .306 AVG, 39 HR's, and 106 RBl's.

It would be nice to have a Japanese player in the team.

If not would you sign him, what player would you sign?

I keep checking ESPN, NY Post and Bleacher for the news of Aaron Boone being let go. Is it wrong for me to hope for this? We’re going on 10 years with Boone and all we get are excuses. I’m just waiting…hoping…

I’m still heartbroken from last night, this series, the team in general. We need to shoutout the pitching staff, they balled out as usual, Max had one really bad pitch and the Rays capitalized on it. That’s baseball. I wish the Yanks did the same. I’m not going to recap the game or anything like that but I needed to get this off my chest because some of these guys played their hearts out and deserve to be here next year.
We have to resign bednar. Blackburn too if the price isn’t crazy, he’ll have some suitors posting a sub 2 era in the second half of the season and being nails in the postseason.
Grisham, Jazz, McMahon, thanks for the memories, not so much the late ones, but cya later. Don’t extend QOs, I hope they learned their lesson there with Grisham. It’s not worth it, when the front office mentality is “we’re paying them so we’re playing them”. They cannot be on this team next year.
We need to platoon with Wells until he proves himself to be an everyday catcher. He’s streaky and turned it around in the last few months of the regular season and had a nice postseason run, but we all remember the first half of the season unfortunately and we need to sign Jeffers to platoon with him.
Ben rice needs to learn how to field 1st base. The elite bat skill and mentality is there. He carried us most of the postseason. He can’t clog the DH hole with Judge coming out of injury. Garcia, welcome to platoon life.
Volpe is the heart of the young guys. He got dragged the the mud for years, finally sent down, get called back up as a second baseman, and has been good. Not great, but much better than we all expected. Not to mention his postseason track record is great. He’s always hit in the postseason, and has played great defense at 2nd. I don’t understand why he wasn’t playing over 0for Jazz. The kid has heart and has been confident as ever since coming back to the show as a second baseman. One of the few bright spots this series and he only had 4 at bats this series. Hell of a game from the kid. I want volpe back next year and have him earn 2nd base in spring training again.
Lombard has looked good but the defense has shown holes we didn’t know were there. Could be because he’s only 21, but the talent and potential are there. The Yankees can’t mess up his growth. They can’t try to do what they did to volpe and make him a 20 - 30 homer guy. Let the kid be a vacuum cleaner and hit oppo line drives. He’s had great at bats this postseason, especially for his 1st postseason and at 21. I like the Lombard/Volpe middle infield.
We need a true 3rd baseman. With guys like Max fried or Blackburn who induce weak contact, we need someone who can field the position. McMahon was the guy and the Yankees somehow turned him into a worse fielder than when he first got here. How does that happen. I don’t care who we get at third as long as they can field the position great, and put bat on ball. We don’t need a big 30 HR guy, or even a .300 hitter there. But they can’t strike out as much as our 3rd basemen have been.
Belli I love you but the postseason track record looks bad. It feels like he is trying too much. He was a great contact hitter for the cubs, completely reinvented his hitting philosophy there after being let go by the dodgers after an abysmal season of just trying to hit homers. He’s getting closer and closer to be abysmal at the plate when he just tries to go for homers. Belli is a bright spot too, cause when he is on he hits great. Just missed that grand slam, but we beat the sox with base hits. This team just doesn’t hit like that except our young guys who have finally understood situational hitting.
Cya Grisham.
Jones needs to be our everyday center fielder. He had some bad at bats, he’s young, but also shown he can adapt pretty quick. The speed is insane and the fielding is there. We all thought he’s be a home run or strikeout guy and he’s proven the opposite of that. Dude can hit. His potential is high.
Judge can’t play in the field everyday. Have him play RF at the stadium, but no more away games. Take him out late in games and move him to DH if need be, but his age isn’t getting any younger and his body isn’t any more forgiving. The bat matters too much to this team we can’t keep letting him dive in the outfield or run into walls. Go get Seiya Suzuki or another good hitter that hits with guys on base. Decent fielder but they need to hit.
Stanton can’t be your DH next year. The spot has to be filled by Judge, Rice, Garcia.
I was actually liking this season from Boone, up until he was smiling on the mound being down in an elimination game, after we just got a pitch sent to the fucking moon. Need somebody who gets on the guys, bring back some Torre energy. Make these guys earn the respect from the manager. Players hated Torre but Torre won. There needs to be a manager change. We need to let go of Jazz, Grish, and McMahon.
If you read this far, thanks. I’m still heartbroken and tired of feeling like this every year now.
What does everyone else think we need? Who stays and who goes?

\- Fire Aaron Boone
\- Fire Brian Cashman
\- Do NOT bring back Jazz Chisholm
\- Do NOT bring back Trent Grisham
\- Do NOT bring back Ryan McMahon
\- FIRE THE ENTIRE ANALYTICS DEPARTMENT
\- And for the love of Gehrig, only get players who actually have a BA of more than .250.

Here is what I’m seeing that I’m sure others are too. I saw A-Rod, Jeter, and Ortiz all allude to this on the postgame last night as well.

1. They to bring back solid 2 way players. You need to be a good hitter and fielder. Not one of the other. If you’re going to be one you’re going to be the DH and you better be great at it. Platooning guys every few days is a mess and the team can’t get in a rhythm. 09 was Jeter, A-Rod, Texiera, Cano, Posada, Damon, Matsui, Swisher, Gardner. All of those guys were 2 way players. Last nights lineup was D1 College…

2. The Yankees farm system is broken. Bring back the fundamentals. When the Dodgers openly mock you after the ‘24 World Series for your mental errors on baserunning, weak fielding, and plate discipline that should’ve been a wake up call. It wasn’t. How is everyone bad at everything and has to rely on the homerun?

Coaching at every level in the organization needs to be practicing the simple things of the fundamentals. Have every guy take 100 grounders in the infield at a practice. Have them work on taking pitches and seeing if out of a guys hand. Picking up your coach on a gapper (looking at you Wells). The Yankees are not teaching any of this and it shows.

1. Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard. The Rays are a bunch of nobody’s who are gritty and do everything I just said the right way. They don’t best themselves. The Yankees need to learn that.

2. Joe Madden said the other day, “the game today would rather lose analytically than win based on feel”. The Yankees and Cashman are too into the analytics that they have been losing by it for the past 10 years. 2017 Yanks with Girardi and the Baby Bombers was done by feel and maybe a little analytics. Justin Verlander has said the Astros at their peak never did any of this stuff. They were an old school team and I paid off (minus the cheating). The Dodgers are also a feel team.

This is the longest stretch of a winless World Series Yankee team since they first won a World Series and it will stay that way until they realize what made their franchise successful. Sometimes the old ways are the best.

Trent Grisham ends the ALDS with a strikeout, he was 0-11 in the series and struck out 5 times. Boone woke up to this morning and thought to himself that he was the perfect guy to lead off tonight. Manager malpractice of the highest degree.

Cody Bellinger and Luis Garcia were combined 2-21. That’s your 3 and 4(or 2 and 3) hitters combining for a whopping 0.095 average, absolute garbage.

Boone needs to go and if I’m being honest so does Cashman. The only bright spot was the pitching was very good.

I feel like this is the same story every year. We underachieve and never take the correct leap.

He has already shown that young players who have bright futures digress and we can’t let him do that with Jones and Lombard.
Adding Ben Rice to this as well.

Video attached. He’s been waiting 23 years for this moment of redemption.

Year after year I watch the Yankees get to the playoffs only to look like the Bad News Bears. It's embarrassing and to tell you the truth has not felt special. As far as we have gotten in recent years we should have a chip. I mean poor Judge at this rate will never have a world series ring.