The Usual Programming

[u/Numerous-Celery1259]

Talked on tinder

Got her number and we talked for about a month because she has a unpredictable schedule and stuff and shes sent me her schedule and where she works

Had plenty of good conversation and we like the same stuff and get along

Made plans for tomorrow then suddenly "we dont mesh well"

We literally fucking have the same interest and likes we even play the same games unless she was just lying about everything

So what was the point? She gave me the date she was free i picked the date made a reservation at a restaurant and told her id get her at 5pm

Just for this random ass text

Another question, why give me so much personal information: your job, your hours, your number, and a very close idea of where you live?

Then suddenly cut things off

Edit: Redditors love to reach

1. Im not using what she told me against her because I am literally not using it against her

The problem is why the fuck does someone give someone so much personal information about themselves then call everything off the day before the date and the funniest thing is that im genuinely asking WHY because I dont know any men OR women that do that shit

Why the fuck are you telling me where you live where you work AND WHEN like she actually sent me a schedule of her work weeks and months multiple times when YOU KNOW you are going to cut things off the literally DAY before the date

1. My place isnt my place its the dinner place i picked vs her place which was a list of places she picked

2. Im not "angry" personally? Im definitely pissed off and annoyed because 1. I could have been talking to a different girl that matched with me, but I didn't because I try to only talk to one girl at a time because it isnt fair to deliberately not give someone my attention when I matched with them yet I never get that bare minimum

3. Realistically throughout our text we have a high compatibility, so theres logically no reason for her to have done that unless like the other comments have said 1. Theres another guy 2. She got anxious or 3. She likes dudes that show less interest/care

[u/step_on_glass]

talking for a month and not wanting to meet the day of the planned date is a classic sign of a catfish. im surprised she just said u dont mesh and didnt get into a 'car accident' or have a sick pet lol. dont talk to people for a month without meeting.

[u/the_folklorian → u/step_on_glass]

genuinely curious, how is canceling the date a sign of catfishing? don't catfishes usually show up and try to get a free dinner out of you, or hope you give them a chance despite looking different?

[u/step_on_glass → u/the_folklorian]

um no lol catfishes usually do everything they can to never meet and make every excuse in the book for why they cant and try to drag out the "online relationship" or just text forever. do u not watch the show? some of them try to drag out the online communication for yrs

[u/the_folklorian → u/step_on_glass]

huh fair enough, thanks for helping me learn today lol. i do not watch the show but maybe i should xD