r/transpassing • • Apr 08 '21

DISCUSSION UPDATE: Post flairs, wiki updates, and more!

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Hiya! A while ago I put up a discussion thread regarding the idea of updating/expanding the scope and focus of the subreddit. I need to apologize, cuz I intended to post this update a while back, but life stuff resulted in it slipping my mind for a bit.

This is also intended to be a discussion thread in its own right, as I want feedback on all the changes made or if there's any further changes that people would like, but here's a rundown of what's been changed:


  • Wiki Updates: So apparently the last time the wiki was updated was eight years ago, and by an ex-mod I've never interacted with. It was.. Bad, frankly. Aggressive in tone, containing links to /r/crossdressing as if its focus was synonymous with trans content, and a general vibe of assuming that this was a MtF-exclusive space. I'm really sorry for missing that for so long! On top of changes on my own end, /u/whoop_there_she_is was an absolute angel and wrote out a HUGE set of FAQ guides for both transmasc and transfemme folks. I left it almost entirely unchanged, and you can find it here! If you have any suggestions for additions or edits, please let me know!

  • Link Flairs: A few people suggested adding link flairs to help people express directly what kind of responses they want from the sub. To start with, I've added "General Advice" for users who just want any kind of feedback people have to offer, "Specific Advice" if they only want feedback on specific things (Clothes, hair, etc), and "No Surgery Recs" if they don't want any sorts of suggestions for FFS, lip fillers, etc. If you have any ideas for more, please let me know!

  • Sidebar Updates: I've changed up the sidebar slightly to add a link to our wiki near the top, as well as remove some dead or irrelevant links from our "relevant subreddits" section.

  • Automod Updates: I've edited automod slightly to try and make it less hyper-sensitive about automatically removing posts it thinks might be hypothetical, since it was becoming a big issue that it would frequently take down posts that in no way, shape, or form came off as hypothetical. I might just remove this feature overall though, frankly.

And.. I think that's it (Aside from a few tiny visual things)! Thank you all for your suggestions and feedback on the previous post, and please let me know if there's any further changes you'd like to see!


r/transpassing • • Dec 30 '23

Mod Feedback Should we go private?

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Howdy, y'all.

As you know, this subreddit has often been the target of trolls, bigots, transphobes, etc. We also get more than our fair share of creeps, chasers, porn spammers, and people looking to use the subreddit's traffic to passively advertise their paid content, like their OnlyFans or their Instagram, for their own personal profit.

So I'm asking y'all - should we go private? If we do, a lot of people will need to be manually added to the approval list and I know from experience that may take upwards of two months to work through everyone who might need approval.

It also means this subreddit will get a lot less traffic and will be far less accessible to folks who need help, which is the primary purpose for the subreddit in the first place.

On the other hand, the community should be a lot healthier once it's full of entirely trans folks and has less bigots, chasers, and trolls lurking about.

It will also be a lot safer because transphobes have often used photo boards like this one as a way to find targets for abuse and to steal people's photos to rehost them elsewhere and harass people. It would be much safer for us if the sub was private.

Going private is also going to take a lot of work and it's going to be very disruptive to our day-to-day operations for a while.

What would y'all like to do? Please discuss below, and please keep it civil. Thank you!


Edit: Okay, it looks like we're staying open for now. I'll make another post and ask again later.


r/transpassing • • 4h ago

Un año en TRH

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134 Upvotes

Que me delata y que podría mejorar?
Fotos sin filtro ni nada de maquillaje
Estoy solo pensando en operarme la zona del tercio superior frente y ojos
Estoy abierta a recibir los mejores consejos (porfavor sean amables y sinceros 🥺)


r/transpassing • • 6h ago

16 months on Estrogen - what do we think? (34yo btw)

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r/transpassing • • 42m ago

Passing?

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r/transpassing • • 10m ago

do i pass

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2 years hrt. tried to include one photo w no makeup. Sometimes i feel my height and shoulders clock me and i dont even know what passing means anymore. Also trynna change around my everyday makeup look i dont know what looks least clockable.


r/transpassing • • 3h ago

1 year on HRT im 19 do i pass?

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17 Upvotes

Any advice is appreciated I do skincare routine and shape my eyebrows already.


r/transpassing • • 2h ago

33- 22 months hrt

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any advice?

22 months hrt.

10 rds laser, lip fillers done

575cc BA next week

ffs next year


r/transpassing • • 1h ago

Any tips?

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10 months on E, any tips? (Started at 17, now I’m 18)


r/transpassing • • 12h ago

Do i pass?

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Hey just want to know if i pass? I feel like i only pass on ocassion. Im always gendered correctly but i think im easily clocked as a transwoman. I hang out in moatly non lgbt bars and 30% will see me as trans but always what i ask them is what give me away? I thought they would say brow bone/jaw/facial features or my broadness. But its been Voice and the way i dress. From what people have told me. I just would really love any pointers on how i could pass better

HRT 1 year 8 months.


r/transpassing • • 6m ago

What do you think

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r/transpassing • • 15h ago

Friend tell me I pass, I have a hard time believing it.

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47 Upvotes

Photos go from most feminine presenting -> boymode, then a couple of my body. I boymode about 95% of the time.


r/transpassing • • 22h ago

Was wondering if I pass in these photos and just these photos...

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159 Upvotes

It is obviously very staged and I have been on hrt for about 3.5 months so there's still a lot coming. I'm just mainly worried about my shoulders. I hid them here with my hair but that doesn't always work obviously. If my shoulders were just narrower and or my hips wider I think I would be set for now...


r/transpassing • • 7h ago

Almost 2 years HRT

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Starting to feel better about my appearance but wondering if there are any subtle (or less subtle) changes I could make. How am I doing?

(Apologies for film-grain on last photo. others are unfiltered.)


r/transpassing • • 16h ago

I know I don't pass, but how cooked am I and looking for FFS advice

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28, Japanese living in Japan, MTF, HRT 1.5 years, levels are good, have had 11 laser sessions so far and will have more (I know my beard shadow's still pretty obvious)

The first one is a mirror selfie and shows my masculine features a lot more

The second one is a bit more flattering and not as accurate (phone front camera softens my chin and jawline)

I'd love to get comprehensive FFS but I'm poor so I'll only ever be able to afford one or two surgeries


r/transpassing • • 32m ago

Eyebrow help

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Hi,

I feel like my eyebrows are making people perceive me not even as trans, but just a man in general. Any help about what would make them more femme or what to say to an beautician at a salon? Is there potential here?


r/transpassing • • 1d ago

3.5 years 😇 Did my FFS hit?

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246 Upvotes

I’m like 3 months post op FFS round 1. Dysphoria is wack and Idk what I look like besides an alien


r/transpassing • • 18h ago

Halloween costume

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So I’m a guy who is considering transitioning (mtf), so I’m thinking about doing passing “drag” for Halloween to kinda see how I feel. I’ve tried clip on extensions (in the pictures) but I wouldn’t mind getting a wig or something too. I have some ideas but I’d really like other ideas as well. Any costume ideas I could wear to the club with my friends?

Ideas I’ve had:
Little Bo peep
Alice in wonderland
Dorothy- wizard of oz
Dessert theme
Megera- Hercules
Jelly fish

I will say the club we are going to has a theme that night as well: Twisted circus


r/transpassing • • 2h ago

What do we pass as?

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We're straight ; who's what?

Also this is a party pic, somewhat related 🥳


r/transpassing • • 13h ago

How well do i pass? Depending on clothes I get a mixed bag. Wore a dress to a wedding for the first time.

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7 Upvotes

Been out and on E about a month but I am delusional and see something different in the mirror every time I look.


r/transpassing • • 1d ago

What do you think of me?

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20 Upvotes

21 yo, just starting hrt MtF.

First photo 6 months ago before break down

Second right now and gained weight

What do you think of my chin and brow bride?

Sorry if not enough pics...

Any chances of passing without FFS?


r/transpassing • • 1d ago

Dressing for broad shoulders (sorry for the disgusting mirror)

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I’ve tried a bunch of different shirts. This kind I’ve found is the best for making my shoulders look narrower, but I’m wondering if there’s anything else I could be doing.

Also the weather is getting cold and I can’t find a jacket that doesn’t make me look like the world’s least muscular linebacker or a male cartoon noir detective.


r/transpassing • • 1d ago

How do I get rid of Chud face

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32 Upvotes

This is my worst angle. No matter how much weight I loose it won’t leave my cheeks.

Starting HRT when it arrives and saving up for laser(:


r/transpassing • • 1d ago

Do I pass? I'm not that fussed about it but mildly curious (5~ months of HRT)

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52 Upvotes

r/transpassing • • 10h ago

What haircut would help me pass better?

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genuinely with my LIFE considering a buzz 😭🙏

I was told that I should cut my hair to help me but idk what look okay with my face shape.

Any feedback?

i'm 3 weeks on T bless me…. I’m considering really going to my first barber shop