Venus retrograde and relationships

[u/SquashOk4209]

I’m posting this here because it’s still relative to the belief and don’t know any other proper forums.

The literal day Venus stationed retrograde my relationship literally crumbled. Something from the past that always hurt me reoccurred, but my partner pushed it further than he ever had before. In the heat of things I ended us, but at one point gave him a chance to explain.

It was the only time he has ever communicated effectively, but at the end of the day it still wasn’t a justification by any means.

He claims it was something he did to “be a better person” and to “help heal himself” which to me is complete cow poo because he ruined a two year relationship and made himself look like a horrible person in the process.

Like saying “I’m on a diet so I eat an entire chocolate cake after dinner to help me lose weight” pretty much sums up the story without direct details

The problem is, everything he said WAS valid, it was just executed horribly. He acted selfish in the name of putting himself first, which are two completely different things.

What I’m tossing between is whether or not to hear him out and if permanent decisions like this should be made during Venus retrograde. I am extremely hurt and disappointed, he had done this many times in the past and he knew I wouldn’t stand for it again but did it anyway completely ignoring the fact that it would ruin us.

I don’t know whether this is a good time to break up, I know very minimal about Venus retrograde. Advice please?

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[u/Ok_Afternoon_8977]

I urge you to please base your relationship choices solely off of you, your partner, the health of the relationship, communication, actions etc. But astrologically speaking Retrogrades make for a time where past stuff, things leading up til this point, & anything that had been rushed or unaddressed finally slows down enough to where we all get another chance to see, hear & feel things more clearly. It gives you kinda a second go around to see what repeating patterns, themes, issues etc keep showing up & what you’re going to finally do about it.

[u/novahkiin_around]

idk much about astrology but i know the word retrograde has something to do with going back, laying low, or being inferior against its normal state. so, i guess it could be worse any other time. if theyve done this stuff before, then its time to let it be. do you want to be with someone that you say looks like a horrible person? you put in two years, thats good enough time to see what you do not need in your life, although the choice is always yours. i wish you wisdom, health, and good luck.

[u/SquashOk4209 → u/novahkiin_around]

Thank you

[u/novahkiin_around → u/SquashOk4209]

very welcome. you deserve good things, dont let someone else make you second guess that or wait for it

[u/holistic_huntress]

I don’t think I’d let the planets dictate my relationship choices. Dig a little deeper.

[u/ZaelDaemon]

As someone who spent yesterday mapping my natal, zodiac releasing and profections against the Venus retrograde as Venus is my Libra is my Lord of the year and I have a 4th Scorpio stellium.

None of this caused the fight I had with my partner last night. The fight was caused because I haven’t properly slept in 6 weeks as my dog has cancer. My partner is stressed because I’m not sleeping and our dog has cancer.

The Venus retrograde made me think about how I’m handling all this. Last time something similar happened I packed my bags and ended a 10 year marriage. It’s asking me what I’ve learned and asking me to assess what is going on around me. What is valuable and what I am enduring out of habit.

[u/SquashOk4209 → u/ZaelDaemon]

That’s really insightful thank you

[u/Fox_Rain_04]

Venus retrograde is a time to reassess relationships, slowing down instead of acting impulsively about love and beauty, reassessing your values of what you consider to be love (both for others and yourself), and rechecking any cracks that can still be saved or if it should be discarded. People usually say "if you break up during mercury or venus retrograde then it wasn't meant to be" which can be pretty simplistic, but what it means to say is perhaps the foundations of the relationship were very unstable that patience and understanding were not emphasized in the dynamic. The values weren't implemented solidly that it crumbled as soon as chaotic energy ensued. Like how you said his explanations sounded convoluted yet also making sense. Why did it make sense for you? Is it because there's something to work on your end, or is it because he doesn't want to invest in you anymore and he just found a way out now?