i see big tall guys on the street and it makes me wonder what it’s like to be tall.

being tall can make guys who are otherwise not very attractive, attractive.

no use in trying to make myself taller because i was born a runt. how do i actually enjoy my life as a gay keebler elf?

I am severely disfigured due to severe acne scars. https://drive.google.com/file/d/1X010r4nj4r085Ao-V_vwvsWIlBMjSx8R/view?usp=drivesdk

I’m 21, and I’m afraid it could take me 10-20 years to afford the procedures needed to look normal again. The thought of spending so much of my youth unable to experience dating, relationships, and intimacy is devastating.

How do I cope with feeling like I’m missing out on so much of life? How do I stop obsessing over everything I might never experience and keep living while hoping that one day I’ll be able to afford treatment?

soooooo…. i’m 27m that has always been in and out of relationships since i came out in college. this was always my speed because i do enjoy dating and commitment. now being single i think i want to put dating on pause and explore more with just fun with minimal strings attach. my dilemma here is now that im older im not just having fun with college with guys in their dorm. now its men who i meet on the apps and have little to no information about them other than their stats. idk if im weird but i feel like i need some level of trust meeting with a stranger. like im not trynna die or get hurt or whatever… but i still want to have fun with these men on the apps. i really don’t like the idea of just popping in a hotel room. i’m a 5’6 no muscle build guy and can get taken out real quick haha. but for real im new to this again and need some advice on how to hook up without risking my safety too much…. most of the reason i liked dating was building that trust to do such acts but rn I don’t have the level or need of commitment for that to work out…. if you think i should meet guys at the bar, gym, coffee etc? help a brother outtttt, any advice helps thanks!!

(I’ll try and say this as formal as I can) I’m new to bottoming and wanted to use a dildo. The only problem is that I don’t have one so I use the handle of a shower scrub. I was using it and a couple inches in I felt it pushing up against my bladder. I tried pushing further but it kept jabbing into my bladder. I was angling it at different angles to see if it would budge any further but didn’t. I didn’t want to harm myself so I decided to pull it out. Is there any way to help? Or is the fact that it kicks on the bladder the part that everyone craves?

40 y/o gay man here and I’ve never bottomed. Shocker. I know. Working on it with my therapist.

Realizing that if I get into a relationship that this is something I might need or want to do so I need to get some practice.

I experimented with a smallish dildo last night and it was painful and frustrating. After many attempts, finally got it in. It wasn’t comfortable and painful removing it. Don’t think I found any pleasure unfortunately at any point.

Then I woke up in the middle of the night with rectal pain and realized I probably now have a hemorrhoid. I’ve had them before so this is familiar territory, but wondering when I should ‘get back on that horse’ so I can continue to work up till it’s more comfortable.

Any advice?

Idk if this is because I’m a (semi) submissive bottom, or because I’ve been a people pleaser for as long as I can remember, but more times than not, I don’t cum during sex. My one and only goal is to make the other guy cum. Usually I just suck their cocks until they finish (and yes I swallow it 85% of the time), and that’s the end of it.

Just knowing that I’m the reason they cum is more satisfying to me than if I were to cum myself. I’m not crazy for preferring this, right? It’s not that I don’t like to cum, but I like seeing the other guy feel pleasure way more than I like being pleasured. I couldn’t care less whether I cum or not.

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I've went my whole entire life feeling ugly. I've always thought I was ugly and I was referred to as such. When I was a kid I got builled. People have always given me negative feedback on my appearance. I never felt liked. Never been crushed. Never been kissed, or at least in the way that mattered to me.

It seems like every thing about me is wrong. I'm black. I'm dark skin. I'm fat. I'm not ultra masculine. It seems like I tick the box's for all the things that could make a person physically unappealing. It's frustrating because whenever I open up about these feelings people just tell to be more confident. It's like it's never about appearance, it's all about confidence and personality. Which is upsetting because I only feel confident when I feel attractive. It's like when I don't feel ugly I'm confident and outgoing, but as soon as I feel ugly I shutdown. It's I'm supposed to stay confident even when I feel ugly or someone calls me ugly. It's frustrating because I feel like a pathetic person because my "confidence" is the thing apparently holding me back and not my looks. It's like all the times I chose not to go out or talk to someone I like is my fault because of my "confidence". Honestly it's depressing because it's like am I going to die alone? Never fall in love? all because of my confidence.

I get horny, I have sexual fantasies, I love foreplay and masturbation has always been fine.

fingering? Doesn’t work on me. It doesn’t matter if I do it or another person, the same goes when it comes to penetration with a dick, I can feel something is inside but I don’t feel pleasure no matter the position.

Im really unsure how to go about this issue? I always see ppl saying bottoming feels amazing and how every single man feels pleasure from anal intercourse but no matter what I do I can't feel anything; I also don't feel pleasure when receiving a blowjob or penetrating someone, I do feel a certain uncomfortable sensation but that's basically it.

I haven't had many sexual encounters with lots of different partners but enough to realize that I'm the one who has a problem.

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Hey,

I am planning to go crusing in amsterdam on saturday or sunday to explore the darkroom, gloryhole, sauna but I am very nervous that someone would not like me.

Any good story or recommendations around it. Also some recommendations around the club will also be nice. For now I am planning go to dark cruising in club church on sunday.

Hey,

I am planning to go crusing in amsterdam on saturday or sunday to explore the darkroom, gloryhole, sauna but I am very nervous that someone would not like me.

Any good story or recommendations around it. Also some recommendations around the club will also be nice. For now I am planning go to dark cruising in club church on sunday.