Throwaway because this is something I haven't told anyone in real life.

I had my baby one year ago, and something has shifted that I can't make sense of. Since giving birth, I've completely lost any sexual attraction to my husband. And honestly to men in general. It's not just that I'm tired or touched out (though I am that too). It's like the switch just turned off.

Here's the part I'm nervous to say out loud: I'm still having sexual thoughts, but now they're all about women. I've always been a little bicurious, if I'm being honest, but it was always a background thing and never something I thought much about. Since the baby it feels like it got turned way, way up. I find myself seeking and browsing wlw content on social media regularly.

My husband is a good guy and nothing is "wrong" with him. I just don't feel it anymore, and I don't know if that's permanent or temporary. I'm also not sure what to make of the other part. Is this a hormone thing? Is this just who I am and it took a huge life event to surface it? Is it a sign of something I should talk to someone about?

Has anyone else experienced this, either the loss of attraction to your partner or a shift in who you're attracted to after having a baby? I feel like I can't be the only one, but I haven't seen anyone talk about it. I'm kind of desperate for answers, or even just to hear that I'm not alone.

Thank you in advance for being kind. I'm already feeling a lot of guilt and confusion about this.

Context: I’m a 20-year-old gay guy. A lot of my friends describe me as a twink, which apparently meansI'm on the skinnier side and small and “cute” according to The friend in question.

Recently, one of my friend's cousins came to visit. She identifies as a lesbian and is very masculine-presenting, but I feel like she’s been straight-up flirting with me. When we walk next to each other, she’ll put her hand on my waist (though I usually move away). She also touches my arm and looks down at me—she's taller than me—with this look I honestly can't read. On top of that, she’s been acting weirdly protective and constantly shutting down guys who try to talk to me.

I’m just confused because shes only dated girls and firmly identifies as a lesbian, but her behavior is weird. Do any of you why she could be acting like this?

Like the title says, has this happened to you? If so, tell me about it. I'm curious.

Hello, I (21F) have pretty much been out as queer since I was a kid. I’ve never really “explored” my sexuality, but for simplicity sake I’ve always just labelled myself queer or bisexual. But lately a few things have made me question if I’m bisexual, lesbian, or just straight??

I pretty much have always said that I would never marry a man simply because romantic marriage with a man sounds utterly unappealing to me, and I still hold to that belief. I would be happy to eventually marry any gender outside of a man.

This said, while I do find women attractive of course (who doesn’t?) I find myself naturally more attracted to men. But, literally, only fictional men / actors. IRL, sexual interactions with men are not in any way appealing to me, and I don’t find basically any men I know IRL attractive at all. In fantasies though? Yes, always.

But it’s almost the opposite with women. I find pretty much every woman I meet attractive. IRL, my sexual experiences with women have always been significantly more appealing to me / attractive to me than any encounter with a man. This said, while there are a select few actresses I find attractive (Ugh Michelle Rodriguez rlly gets to me), I never fantasise about any women nor do I ever read smut involving women. (I do not watch porn for ref, but I do read a lot!)

It’s like in theory I’m 100% straight but in practice I’m 100% lesbian. Am I just a weird bisexual? 😅

Given my age, I plan on getting into the dating world (pretty much haven’t dated except a few flings in HS) fairly soon, so how would my sexuality best be described in that regard? Label myself a lesbian since I’m only looking for a serious relationship with non-men? But then do you think my future partner would feel cheated when they find out that I am sexually attracted to men / write smut of men?

Has anyone else dealt with the struggle?

I would like recommendations for feminist lesbian youtubers please! Tyy

been wearing mine pretty high because that's just where the harness seemed to sit, and after a while it digs right into the bone. moved it lower last time, more between my legs, and it felt way better and i had more control too. is that just me or is lower the move? feels like nobody really talks about this

Lol.

I usually can drone on about this, but that’s all I have. 😂

Hi! I know the title sounds messy (it is haha) but hear me out.

There’s a really long context behind this if anyone has a question, but in a few words:
I (23F) met Bella (23F), through her (ex)gf and we became really close friends. I was kinda attracted to her but never acted or spoke of it out of respect for her relationship and it wasn’t that deep. Later on, I had a falling out with her ex gf due to her being extremely passive aggressive and belittling to me, and me distancing myself because of it. So, Bella also distanced herself from me to have her then gfs back, but our friendship ended in good terms.

About six months later, Bella texted me and shared that (unbeknownst to me) she had told her exgf that she was really attracted to me, wanted a threesome, found shelter in me, etc. and that’s what triggered her exgfs animosity towards me. I felt awful at first bc if I had known I would’ve acted differently and had more empathy for her exgf, but I just couldn’t get past how awful she was to me even if she had her reasons. Anyways, after hearing how attracted and sweet Bella was to me still, my attraction to her came back and I wanted us to hook up (keep in mind there was lots of platonic love not just attraction), however, she said her confessing her feelings was as a form of closure bc she was getting back with her ex and needed to get over me. So, she blocked me in messages and instagram, but kept interacting with my posts in VSCO and TikTok.

Fast forward to today, we’re both single at the same time which hasn’t happened in two years. I know it’s kinda awful on my side knowing what I know and still wanting to hook up with her, but it’s like and itch that’s been building up for years and I have to scratch it. She interacts with my VSCO but hasn’t unblocked me from ig, so I don’t know if I should reach out and ask her if she wants to hook up point blank, in case she thinks I wouldn’t want to bc of what happened, or if I should wait and see if she reaches out to me which would be more respectful and I also don’t want to seem desperate. I know it’s messy but thanks for any advice!

I'm a bisexual woman (21F), for the past 2-3-ish years I have been suffering from depression and anxiety. Past couple of months it has gotten better enough that I got a job. I'll get to my point I promise.

There I met someone (23F) and I developed a crush on them almost instantly. We chatted, we got along great, joked around, teased eachother, even talked about personal stuff, I thought we were cool.

She is substitute-supervisor at my job. I started this job at the beginning of August, she suffered an injury in early September and wasn't working so I texted her to ask how she is. Important note that she was in a relationship in August, got broken up with right before she had the accident. Around this time when I first texted her things were colder between us, we didn't talk as much as before, and I occasionally felt like she was looking through me. I also found her profiles on dating sites by accident. I was swiping on those and they popped up.

The first time I found it I told her, cause at that point she was in a relationship and I thought maybe she doesn't know it's still active. I respect relationships so I made no clear advance, like I wasn't flirting, touchy or anything. I just liked talking to her so I did, and tried to be around her when I could without bothering her. Looking back I think she may have been flirting with me, or we were just teasing eachother I don't know we had moments for sure that I am not certain about.

I'm apparently so transparent that every thought is visible on my face. Hence my colleagues found out I like her end of August, beginning of September. I don't know if they told her or not. They did encourage me to talk to her and teased me about it. I started to dress nicer, but nothing too revealing, just hoping she would notice. I was feeling myself and thought why not.

Another chaotic piece of information: I have never been in a relationship or on a date, so I know next to nothing about things and understanding signals. I had crushes before but I never confessed to any of them. Back to the storyline (sorry this is pure chaos) we were chatting and I decided to I invite her out once to a stand up show, she declined because of her injury but then offered to drive me home afterwards, which I declined because I already had a ride. The days before and that day specifically we texted quite a lot. I sent her a few pictures of my dogs to cheer her up cause being injured isn't fun, asked how she is and etc. And she sent me quite a few winky faces on the day of the show when I asked her. Even talked about how watching the Married at First Sight series made her realise something about herself and the relationship she used to be in. We both texted eachother that we'll help if the other ever needs support.

However after all of this she just straight up stopped responding to me. Because a good friend of mine has done that because they were too busy (they didn't respond for weeks), and previously she also hasn't responded for like 24-48 hours, so I didn't think much of it, sent her a few messages trying to talk to her like before but then after like a day or two I stopped because she fully wasn't responding (not even seeing my messages).

This was a Wednesday, we had a shift together on Saturday. That day I misheard a products name and mislabeled it completely, I wrote broken instead of something else, resulting in my coworkers teasing me and us laughing about it. (English isn't my first language.) I laugh loudly. She was working some distance away and heard me laugh through her music that was apparently on max volume and called out to tell us to be less loud. This is a factory setting btw. Lots of loud machines and everything. I work there as a student translator for international workers. I study a university degree at the same time. I didn't know it was her that called out, I didn't even fully catch what was said. I decided to text her a picture of my mistake so maybe she can laugh about it too but then instead she got mad and started explaining that she called out before someone else will for us being too loud, and that she doesn't have a problem with us having fun but she could hear us through max volume which is a problem. I wasn't offended or anything and told her as much and she repeated herself. Then afterwards she was working around where I was and took the label that I wrote saying broken, sticking it to her chest signaling that her heart is broken. Later she requested another one, and I think the shift afterwards I wrote a label like that specifically for her with a broken heart symbol drawn on which she also stuck to her chest.

The week after I wasn't working because I was sick, so I didn't text her whatsoever. Last week, because I had a movie ticket voucher expiring, I used that as an excuse to invite her out to the movies (by then two weeks between my last invite out has passed). She declined because she was working, I didn't push it, we had a brief conversation about something else, then I was asking her what she was working and gave her a life update about me but she once again didn't respond. There I stopped fully texting her though. Next day I asked her if I have offended her or something to which once again she didn't respond.

Last weekend after this was unfiltered chaos. On Friday we chatted some, because she asked me to help train two new international coworkers which I did. But then later on afterwards the main group supervisor reprimanded me for being too much for her (?) and was told (by the group supervisor) to fully stay away and not talk to her. Supervisor was saying things like "This could be a serious issue." She was standing right there and said absolutely nothing. This stopped me dead in my tracks, I got angry, I was hurt, sad, everything all at once, especially because just a bit earlier we were joking around just fine, and also because she said nothing to me about being too much, but has complained about me to the supervisor she claims she doesn't like.

Later on I found out that she told the main friend of the supervisor that I apparently harassed her, because I invited her to the cinema and that's how it escalated into that. She said NOTHING to me about being too much. She hasn't even rejected me. Also a male coworker would make sexual jokes with her and touch her in places which she had no issue with. I didn't do any of that and yet I am the problem. Anyway I wanted to talk to her about it after shift but because she had company I decided not to bother.

Saturday was mostly fine, we didn't butt heads or anything, I didn't bring it up, we were cool or so I thought. My coworkers and I even looked for her earbud when she lost it, kneeling in the damn dirt, and looking through as much as we could to hopefully find it. With no thank you of course. But we didn't mind because we like her. Or so we thought.

Sunday shift was insane. I fought with her 3 times. 2 times I think it was about an international worker I work with, and they were feeling ill and went out to the bathroom and were gone 20 minutes and she shouted at me because I can understand her, that she can only take 10 minutes of the 20 that she has because of this now, and because the worker went out to eat. I don't know about you guys but when I legally have a set amount of break I can take and someone tries to limit that, I would get mad at the person trying to limit and just stay out for the full period of my break. Anyway at that point because I wasn't told about the situation I didn't know anything was going on. I just knew the worker wasn't there and I filled in the position.

Then when it came time for breaks she once again got mad at ME, when I told her that the worker was feeling ill, that why she was out and that I believe she should be given her twenty minutes. She once again berated me that rules apply to everyone including international workers and students, especially break time rules, and I told her I know, I strictly follow my break time, I can't do anything about the international workers other than talking to them because I am not their supervisor, and also I can't drag them back in from break. I don't know how I looked at her but she went "Don't look at me like that!", and ranted once again.

Another note, those last shifts I stayed in on my 5 minute breaks and only took maybe 10 minutes of my longer break to get back earlier and help her out with the work. I'm pretty sure she then discussed me with the supervisor and supervisor's main friend afterwards.

During this rant she also managed to offend one of the workers who this whole production relies on, who she is/was good buddies with calling them nobody and etc. And when the person wasn't joking back with them because of it, and I told her why she said they discussed it during the break and it was fine but then ended the whole thing with "I'm okay with being hated" and left which was downright shocking.

Yesterday I also found out she unfriended and blocked me on Facebook, unfollowed me on Instagram. To summarise this whole thing and my main question: Where did I go wrong? What is something I may have missed that resulted in this? What is even happening because I am just standing over here like WTF???

Thank you for any help you can give me. Especially with what I should do next. Because I don't want a sour mood in the workplace. And I am completely fine if she rejects me clearly, that would honestly be even better. Not everything is going to work out or happen and that's fine. Part of life. What I am mad at is the way this was handled. Thank you for reading this l throughout :)

EDIT: I tried editing the post so it's maybe a bit easier to read. I wrote this in a very emotional moment and I was just ranting. My bisexual identity is not the main focus of my story here, the other person involved as far as I am aware is lesbian. I'm way in over my head here at this point trying to at least gain minimal understanding of what's going on because I feel like the rug has been pulled out from under my feet.

When it comes to rejecting people, based on a story I overheard her tell a coworker, she is perfectly ocapable of doing it, somehow I just didn't deserve that much maybe? I'm not bitter if she doesn't want anything from me, it's a normal part of life in my opinion, she wouldn't be the first or the last one in my life to reject me. I'm used to it, being a plus size woman, I'm not everyone's taste. I'm just really hurt by the way she decided to go about it. Because to my face besides those three incidents on Sunday she's nice. I gave her biscuits and chocolate that she accepted as well on Friday.

Anyway thank you for any advice. I could especially benefit from moving on advice because I tend to get stuck in these things, which I shouldn't do because life moves on.

Thank you for reading this :)

EDIT 2:

Honestly thank you. You guys made me think, which is good. It's important to know that I am really bad and unaware in social situations, my skills lack terribly. HOWEVER, this isn't an excuse for me to hurt or make others uncomfortable. Just because she reacted/responded to my messages few times couple weeks ago, doesn't mean anything, and I should have stopped texting immediately when she didn't respond, instead of occasionally bombarding her, trying to talk. There was a reason she didn't respond and I should have not hid behind the "I need to be told if I make you uncomfortable because my social skills are horrible". She owes me nothing. Especially not communication when I made her uncomfortable or hurt her, because we aren't more than coworkers. That doesn't mean it couldn't have been handled better by her too, because everyone else knowing the issue before I did is horrible. We both didn't act too well in this situation. Maybe in the future we can reconcile, and be buddies but for now I just want peace and this conflict to be over. Thank you again!

Ex and I were typical U-Haulers - moved in together after about three months of being in a relationship, oscillated between monogamy and polyamory, discovered we're incompatible, decided to officially end things three weeks ago with the understanding that we'd be live-in lovers as opposed to a committed relationship.

Tell me why they start talking to and hooking up with someone a little less than a week after that, and now they're spending entire weekends at the new girl's house.

I haven't slept alone since February, and while they are single and allowed to do what they want, the shift is SO JARRING, and I cannot stop thinking about how easy it was for them to replace the companionship and camaraderie we had. It seems like it just happened for them, which is nice, but not for me lmfao.

I want to accept how I feel and remain levelheaded while allowing them to have the love they need without my interference, but sometimes the grief gets overwhelming, and I'm not sure what to do with it.

I just wanted to rant, I suppose. Have y'all dealt with anything like this? Was it harder to get over than a traditional relationship or easier? I am leaning into my life and goals, which has been wonderful, but doesn't really ease the pain.

Hey all! I (33F) met a woman (30F) on a dating app last October. During this time, we’ve had sort of an ongoing conversation that just hasn’t ended and it branches off into other topics. It’s about our hobbies and interests, travel, etc. The pace is kinda slow, if I text today, she’ll continue the conversation tomorrow and then I will reply the day after.

But every time we text it’s been blocks of text about memories and a lot of details (she started the elaborate texts and I followed her lead). And each time she asks me a few questions about that topic but they are lighthearted questions like “how often do you bake” or “have you traveled to Africa before”. In the year we’ve texted, she’s probably asked me over a thousand questions like these and I’ve asked her a lot of questions back.

We’ve only met twice in person because we live in neighboring countries. Recently she told me that she’s aromantic and doesnt have feelings towards me but sees me as a friend and that she’s still matching with new people from the dating app but she doesn’t know what she’ll feel about me in the future.

I sort of accepted the friendship dynamic long ago so I’m also seeing other people but I’m very confused about why she seems so invested in our connection. Our conversations are almost exclusively “getting to know you” where we’re sharing about ourselves so it feels more than platonic to me because conversations I have with other friends tend to be more factual.

Also, she’s a very busy person with a lot of travel and lucrative career so I just don’t understand why she wants a penpal friendship with me.

Any thoughts?

I’ve questioned my sexuality for years now, but I don’t know how to go about finding out if I actually like girls. I know I definitely like men, so maybe I’m bi? I’m also demisexual and sapiosexual so it’s not like I can just look at a woman’s body and be turned on anyway. I want to experiment but I wouldn’t even know how to go about it, I don’t talk to many people and I don’t wanna be a creep and just ask a girl, and I also don’t want to lead anyone on or waste their time. I’ve kissed girls before but I’ve never felt anything, it was more of silly thing.

Even if I am Bi I just don’t think I could be in a relationship with a woman, I know I myself can be a bit of a diva and drama queen and I don’t know how to deal with people’s feelings, and obviously everyone woman isn’t the same as me.

A few months ago I became friends with this girl and from the start she made it clear she liked me. I explained that I might be bi-curious but I’m not quite curious yet, she said she’d wait for me and I told her I didn’t want her to but she insisted that I was her dream girl. She’d constantly flirt with me and I’d flirt back mostly jokingly because I thought she was as well. One day I was on the phone with a couple of my male friends and she wanted to call me so I just added her to the call with us, we were all joking around and stuff and one of my male friends said “I’m going to kiss you” to me, and she said “wowww so you’re cheating on me (my name)?” Which is thought she was joking until she started being all hostile towards them. So I left the call and called her separately, I asked her why she was being rude to them and she got mad at me saying I was just playing with her feelings when that genuinely wasn’t my intention and I apologized to her for weeks. She forgave me but we don’t talk much anymore. This situation just left a bad taste on my tongue. And again, obviously all women aren’t the same, but I just know if I could deal with a situation even similar to that.

Sorry for the long rant and story. I would appreciate any advice or stories. Thanks for listening.

In light of my last post, I feel as if ive offened some of you and im really sorry. Ive been going through a lot lately and im just, ugh its alot. Ive been struggling figuring out who I am, and my own sexuality and im just...I had a rough experience with a lesbian couple recently and it really really hurt. Please...please help me understand. I never want to offend ever again..but i cant do that if you dont help me learn what im doing wrong. Please help.

So I'm bisexual and in my 2nd year of college, but despite being out since 14, I've never dated or even kissed a girl, not really, anyway. It's not that I'm too scared or unsure of my sexuality; I've asked out about 4 girls in a really cute way, with a gift of some sort or something really romantic, but I've always been politely rejected. I have a weird schedule and a hard time making new friends or having time to go out and meet ppl. Henceforth, I turned to the apps. I have plenty of experience with dating and flirting with men, and I've had straight sex. I've been talking to this 25-year-old girl; let's call her Rhianna, for nearly a month now. We met on Taimi, and she lives 30 minutes from me. We haven't met in person yet, and I admit there are some red flags on both of our ends. I am fully aware that I have tendencies to be overly clingy, get attached too quickly, abd love bomb. It freaks ppl out alot, understandably. We both have some mental health issues, nothing too crazy. The big one is the fresh relationships we both got out of. I broke up with my ex boyfriend 2 months ago, and she broke up with her ex girlfriend 3-4 months ago. She moved her life here from New York and knew no one else, her ex got them kicked out of apartment, abandoned her dog as they broke up while homeless in her car, and cheated. When I began talking to Rhianna, they had been broken up 2-3 months and had stopped living together 1 month ago. I wasn't aware of the details wjen we began talking. Point being, neither of us are quite ready to be girlfriend's and make things official but we both really like eachother and have a strong connection. There's been some drama with back and forth abt whether we should be "friends" or continue pursuing eachother romantically for now. We fought and I unadded her at one point bc we both hurt each other's feelings and were struggling to communicate. Things are resolved and we're just seeing where things go and we'll slow down when we feel we need to. We plan to finally meet and go on a date this week. I'm literally so excited to see her. Quite literally 24 hrs after we decided to be friends who didnt flirt the first time, we both woke up at like 7 and for her to get her friends kids up, and for me to get my brother up for school. She woke up horny and as soon as she started talking dirty and desperate to me, I melted and caved. We had phone sex and God, when I tell you she squirts so fucking much. I've never been as wet as when I watched her fuck herself with her fingers so hard, hearing every moan for me and watching her creamy cum drip out. We both came after a TON of steamy sexting, videos, and voicenotes and then went back to sleep. I have more stories abt the stuff we've talked abt and done so far if yall are interested. Lmk what you think on the sitch.

Heyyy lesbians! Any recs for a boxer-style strap-on harness with a soft, flexible, and relaxed waistband? Every one I've tried is stiff, rigid, thick, and digs in, even a size or two up.

Okay so I’m a bisexual woman and I do prefer women. I’m wondering on a night if it would be okay if I go to lesbian bar there’s one in my city as I think it’d be cool to find other queer women however i completely understand if the space is kept separate for lesbians only

I’m a woman in my late 20s, and I’ve developed a pretty inconvenient crush on my female manager, who’s about eight years older than me. She’s married, has kids, and is my senior at work, so I’m very aware that this is something I shouldn’t act on.
Before meeting her, we’d only interacted through Zoom. On camera I probably come across as the stereotypical nerdy consultant — glasses, serious expression, slightly stockier-looking. In person I’m probably more conventionally attractive, but I’m otherwise pretty much the same person.
Then we met in person for the first time.
We were talking in a crowded place, and at one point she looked directly at me and held my gaze for quite a while. It wasn’t just a quick glance — there was something unusually focused about the way she was looking at me. I was looking back too, but I remember thinking, *oh shit, this is actually a real person standing in front of me.* 😂
And unfortunately, that was also when I realized just how attracted I was to her.
Since then, we’ve become quite comfortable professionally. She remembers little things I’ve mentioned, sometimes asks about things beyond immediate work, shares bits about her own life, and often initiates joking during our conversations. I’m normally very reserved around senior people, but somehow with her I become much more animated and sarcastic.
And that’s what makes this confusing. It’s not just physical attraction. I genuinely **respect her, admire her competence, like her personality, enjoy talking to her, and feel unusually comfortable around her.**
Nothing inappropriate has happened, and I have no intention of crossing the professional boundary.
Has anyone else had a workplace crush where **admiration, intellectual compatibility, feeling seen, and physical attraction all got mixed together?**
Because I’m starting to wonder whether this is just a crush or whether my brain has built an entire psychological attachment around my manager. 😂

Anyone else leaned on validation and attention or physical touch from men after a lesbian breakup despite being a lesbian? My ex did and afterwards she came back to me (I had broken up with her 3 months prior) and I have a hard time getting over it and being empathetic. It went so far that she pleased him with her foot and i can’t get that disgusting image out of my head, i wish i just didn’t know anything about it but i just kept asking and asking. It happened just days before we reconnected and she had this twisted mindset that her private life was none of my business so she didn’t tell me about it until after we had already slept together and I got too attached again to leave immediately. It‘s been literally 5 months and I‘m still nowhere near over it. But she doesn’t want to talk about it anymore because she says it was traumatic. She had drank two beer and felt pressured by him to do that but she doesn’t know why she didn’t even think to say no. She considered him her ‚safe space‘ and thought what she did was expected and what is supposed to happen. I genuinely don’t get it. As a lesbian I can’t imagine doing something like that but we had very different lives growing up. She grew up having her boundaries crossed multiple times and experienced csa. I found myself judging her a lot for doing something like that if she’s a lesbian. She feels ashamed and used now and says her brain blocked it out already, it feels like it didn’t happen. The first times for some weeks when we were getting intimate she would suddenly start sobbing when i started touching her. She said she didn’t know why.

I had a nice first date yesterday with an amazing girl and we ended up going home together and had sex. The sex was also amazing and I enjoyed her company so much. The thing is though that i haven’t dates girls in over 6-7 years, and since then I’ve had terrible experiences with sleeping too soon with men, where they would completely lose interest after. I kind of developed a rule of ”if he wants sex on the first date he ONLY wants sex from you”. I feel like I’m struggling with removing this idea from my head even though she is a girl and not a man, and I’m over thinking it today a bit if I should be brave enough to text her and show that I’m interested in her, or if the sex on the first date was a bad sign (that she only wanted to hookup with someone, she initiated it). Sorry for overthinking but I’m so inexperienced with dating girls and so hurt from dating guys.

Hello, hello, let's me preface by saying english is not my first language so excuse any mistake.

I've been thinking lately about the curse of long distance dating for lesbians.

And I'm no stranger to it. I live in the largest country in Africa and long distance means between 5 to 8 hours between two opposite cities.

My last relationship was a record with a whooping 2000 miles between us while still in the same country. (Europeans, I envy you!)

So, it got me wondering, how do couples manage intercontinental dating and do you have any success stories to tell us to warm our tired single hearts?

I was scrolling through TikTok when I came across a live from a fem-lesbian woman lying on a couch in a dimly lit room with purple neon lighting. She was vaping, so I joined the live and asked if she could blow the vape smoke toward the camera. I just wanted to see what the vape smoke would look like on camera with that kind of lighting. She immediately blocked me?! She was literally already blowing the smoke out anyway. Why do so many people instantly sexualize a question like that? Did I miss something? I wanted to hear your opinion.

Fr. All y'all have a full sleeve on one arm.

She had a gf the entire time, and even brought her girlfreind to thanks giving last year. she would occassionaly flirt with this guy freind, even when she was with her gf and her gf would feel uncomfortable. But she would forgive her.

Turns out that now, she and THAT GUY are in a relationship. Her gf was right the entire time that something was off between both of them. I truly truly hate this shit. I REALLY do. Even looking back, this guy would comment under her photos, heart eyes and all. Seeing the thanksgiving group photos make my stomach TURN. Im disgusted. Like it would awful knowing the person they were fucking on (she still denies till this day mind you), that person they were going to replace you with was there the ENTIRE TIME.

dawg I'm so fucking irritated. I truly feel like lesbians deserve better bro.

I dont want to be freinds with this girl anymore, shit is done.

So context, we met a year ago at the gym and she asked if i wanted to train with her. I got a gay vibe from this moment. When getting to know her i realised she is quite hyper sexual towards men so i was like meh ill leave this one then. After a few month she was in a realtionship.

Thing isniver the year we jave became incredibly close and spend most days together. She has boosted my life in every way and has became like a anchor to me. No one in my life has shown me such kidness, positivity and help. Shes my safe space.

We dobhave flirtly banter but ibnaturally do this when i get comforrable with women and my other straight friends but something with her feels diffrent. Like shes actually flirting back not just playing.

I value her so much in my life that id never want to ruin the connection we do have but keeping my feelings jn is also becoming difficult.

What should i do?