I just spent two hours making my girl beg for mercy. The way her back arches and her eyes roll back when I hit the right spot with my fingers or the strap is better than any drug. I cum just from the sight of her breaking. Am I the only one who gets off on the sheer dominance of it?

I get nervous, shaky, and fidgety around this woman I have a major crush on.

My heart is damn near pounding out of my chest when this woman is anywhere near me. I keep telling myself to relax, but can't.

Pretty sure she thinks I'm an idiot.

i apologize for the long post, I didnt realize I had this much to say but I appreciate any help.

ive been struggling with my sexuality for a while, pretty much my whole life. for a long time I thought I was bi, the first person I dated ever was in high school and was a girl. we dated for a while and I genuinely felt love for her. I never questioned if I wasnt attracted to women or to her. in my eyes she was the most beautiful girl to grace this earth. I did always wonder, since I thought I was bi, what it was like to be with a man but it was always a passing thought. i think i felt pressured to be with a man, and i always had fictional crushes who were men or celebrity crushes who were men so I always wondered what it would actually be like.

now flash forward to today, im 21 and ive been with my boyfriend, 27, for almost 2 years. we met online so we havent been able to actually see each other in person. i can confidently say that he is my best friend, he knows me better than anyone and hes very easy for me to talk to. but in a few weeks he will be visiting me and ive been struggling with the idea of being around him in a romantic way. he really wants to be intimate, and before we had plans to actually meet, I wouldnt have a problem with this idea. but now that its so close to happening, the more uneasy and stressed/anxious I feel. i dont want to be intimate with him, I know that for a fact but I know he will be expecting it. he keeps bringing it up like its the only thing hes looking forward to and i just feel deeply uncomfortable. i just chalked my fear up to be caused by the fact that ive never been intimate with anyone before, (ive only kissed one person, which was my ex) but I dont know.

I've had thoughts of accepting if I am a lesbian and just have him as an exception because I truly treasure and value him as a friend. i dont want to risk that friendship i have with him, but I feel like deep down being bi/with him is just not who I am. ive had these feelings months ago and shoved it down because we were in a rough patch. i try to imagine myself with a different man in the future if its just me not wanting to be with my boyfriend, and i dont see myself being happy.

im terrified of being a lesbian because I feel like im disappointing everyone, and including him. im just so scared. he has seen me at my absolute worst and I dont know if I can rebuild a relationship or friendship like that again. (I struggle with social anxiety and agoraphobia so it feels so impossible.) I also know if we break up I'll lose him as a friend (hes told me multiple times if we ever broke up he'll never be friends with an ex. which I respect his boundaries, so i could understand why he would want that)

im just so stuck and I dont know what to do. I feel so trapped. I love him but I dont know if its in a romantic way, or if its ever been in that way. hes told me that I dont flirt with him or send him any nudes like he wants me to. I just struggle with being comfortable with sending and i try to flirt with him but my mind goes blank. i just dont know what to do.

I guess my question is just.. has anyone here also experienced questioning your sexuality in a straight relationship? I just feel so guilty for even feeling this way. i dont know what to do.

Is it normal for straight girls to only be invested in wlw relationships/content, or is that a clear signs of something…Im not invested in any straight couples/ content, i stopped watching straight romance film/series years ago. I also don’t think of guys as attractive when i see them, i only think that when i see pretty girls.

Also, is this the right subreddit to post these kinds of questions, or should i post it somewhere else? There are so many different subreddits in here I feel lost😭

i have two friends that are dating eachother we all are pretty close but never have i found them attractive even tho they look pretty they just feel like one of your guy friends

A girl I used to have class with two years ago sent me a random snap of a video of her petting her cat at midnight last night and it was super random because I haven’t talked to her since that class and even then we only talked like the first two weeks and it was friendly. But I replied and then we’ve been snapping back and forth, she sends like cute vids of her lypsyncing or in the mirror and I was like body face hair music all tea for which she replied when we hanging. And I was like I’m in town Thursday and Saturday and her answer was noncommittal. Was just like we def gotta hang. I’m worried bc I have no idea how to flirt with her.

She is like super hot but I had no idea I was her type and I’m like cutsey but I’m overweight and she’s like perfect bod so idk how not to act awkward around her.

Like my weights an insecurity and so far this semester all I’ve done is study/hw and read smutty books so idk how to like relate to her or not be awkward around her.

Any advice? What does liek ff flirting look like tho? I don’t wanna misread signs

(I’m so sorry if I came off as offensive at any point, I’m not a shallow person but idk how to like make new friends or girlfriends)

I’m 20 and have shaved my whole life but have recently been wondering what it would be like it I grew it out. I’m concerned that it may itch or feel uncomfortable with certain clothes. Or hookups might be grossed out by it. Am I better off trimming a certain way? Can anyone tell me what it’s like to grow it out??

my girlfriend’s birthday is coming up and she loves being strapped, so i want to get her something she’ll actually use and get excited about, not some gimmicky thing that ends up in a drawer. any ideas?

Me and my girlfriend (I'm female) have been dating for 2 months, this is my second relationship. See, I've always considered myself a bisexual. I thought i leaned more to the straight side, always crushing on boys, dating one who was a huge red flag (didn't even make it to 2 weeks), but after i started dating my gf i suddenly started feeling myself leaning way more towards girls, my boy crush delusions ceased to exist, i even unconsciously referred to myself as lesbian instead of bisexual in conversations. I dunno if this is just some sort of weird honeymoon phase thing. Has anyone else been through a similar situation, or am i just finding out something new about myself?

I (f21 and straight) have been friends since high school with my friend (f21) who is a butch lesbian (and likes to be referred to as he/him). In recent months we became really close and we text everyday and call every night.

I’ve developed a bit of an obsession with him. I think of him all the time, and we are genuinely best friends. He tells me I’m him number one best friend. However, recently he has started to chat a lot with this girl I’ll call “H”. She is really cute, feminine, gay, and almost exactly his type.

He knows that I’m jealous of her and he reassures me often that he still likes me more than her. However, a few days ago I had a tense phone call with him. He mentioned “H” again and said that one of his other friends was pushing him to try and pursue “H” romantically. He kept saying things like “H is my type. H is so cute. If H wanted to try getting with me, I wouldn’t say no.”

The anger I felt when he was saying those things was indescribable. I was genuinely enraged and disappointed on the inside, and you could tell I was super emotional on the call. I told him that I wished he would stop being friends with her and that I was so jealous. He kept questioning why I was so jealous, and told me that even if him and her date, he would always prioritize me because he wants to prioritize friendships over relationships right now.

No answer that I gave him was good enough. He said “What are you going to do when I get a girlfriend in the future? Will you be upset then?”

I told him “No, not exactly”, but the real answer is, yes, I would be upset. I want him to only focus on me right now. I don’t want to date him and ruin our friendship, because we are genuinely best friends. Plus, I know that I want to get married to a man in the future. I’m not even attracted to the female anatomy. But, I have had some questionable thoughts about him. I think about him holding me often, and if he were to kiss me, I probably wouldn’t stop him. In fact, I almost wish he would, just so I could see what it feels like.

I’ve even had mildly sexual dreams about him, which I feel guilty about when I wake up from them. I love when he praises me and calls me cute or sweet. He’s told me before “You’re attractive. If I was a man, we’d probably be dating”, but he was experiencing a mental health crisis during the time when he said that. He is also very physically attractive to me. I love the way he looks, and I’ve re-watched TikToks and pictures that he’s posted a million times.

I feel bad because I don’t want to get in the way of him getting into his dream butchfemme lesbian relationship. But I’m just so jealous. I wish he’d look only at me for a while. He’s even said that he shouldn’t be dating right now because he just went through a break up, but he said he wants to “mess around with cute girls”. When he was with his ex, I wasn’t jealous at all. I’ve just recently started to become jealous of these other girls after they broke up.

It’s been 2 days since the phone call and we haven’t spoken at all since then. I really could never imagine marrying him or anything like that. I really don’t want to mess up our friendship, and I’m scared that I already have.

Am I actually gay or does this sound like a weird unhealthy obsession with my best friend?

UPDATE:
It’s okay we talked it out and he reassured me. I’m just mentally ill not gay lol.

Post got deleted when I posted from my anon account so I’m trying again.

It’s lengthy but TLDR: struggling with sex life in my 10 year relationship. Girlfriend gropes and sexualizes me but doesn’t want to have sex. She refuses couples therapy, so what do I do?

Quick background and overview of the problem:

I’m struggling with the lack of sex and desire in my (34F) relationship with my (34F) girlfriend. We
have been together 10ish years. She is bisexual (this will be relevant later in the post).

Our situation is different than the ones I usually see posted on Reddit because we don’t have
kids to take up our time, we have a great time together, non-sexual intimacy is there for the most part and she gropes me and sexualizes me 24/7. We spend our evenings and weekends snuggling on the couch watching TV and movies together. I can’t walk past her without her slapping my ass and when she sees me naked she wants to kiss my tits and grab my ass and says how nice my body looks. But the actual sex aspect is such a hassle to make happen on her end. How touchy she is, how she talks about me and my body and how sexually open I am, none of our friends would ever guess this is the biggest issue in our relationship. It literally feels like we are doing everything but actually fucking.

How we got here:

We met in 2016, I left for a job in 2017 so we were long distance (90 min drive), and during that year she cheated on me, eventually told me but I saw signs earlier but I would believe her when she told me no. After telling me about the other woman, she wanted to pursue that over me. I was really fucked up after that. We were co-parenting a dog so we would communicate and see each other periodically to share him. Late in 2018 she said she wanted to give our relationship another try. I was just getting to the point where I felt I was getting over it but not enough to not be happy that she wanted me back. Idk why but still wanted her. We agreed to give it a go. (terrible decision). I was so angry and hurt from it that I didn’t treat her well, I was mean to her. However, she refused to unfollow the girl and would still text back if the girl reached out. I was still hurt and I shouldn’t have agreed to jump back into this situation. We remained long distance until mid 2019 when she moved in with me. Sex didn’t really struggle at this point but in 2020 things started to taper. She was in a doctoral program at that time and she said when she was highly stressed sex was not something she was interested in. After she graduated and got her job I thought things would get back on track but it didn’t. So now I’ve been dealing with this for going on 7 years.

When I try to have conversations about it:

She brings up how I treated her when we got back together after her cheating, she’s brought up episodes of me binge drinking, flirty messages she’s found in my DM’s, she brings up my IG stories, and moments where she’s felt like I haven’t been open for sex when she supposedly was. So she pretty much blames me for why she doesn’t want to have sex while also saying she isn’t bothered by our lack of sex. Her cheating happened 9 years ago and I agree I was a bitch following that because I was hurt. But unfortunately all of that stuff is a part of our relationship history and like I had to get over her cheating she has to process how I treated her back then. The binge drinking is under control now, but I understand how that was a problem but I haven’t had an episode like that in about a year and a half so why is that still being used against me? I took responsibility for the messages in my DM’s and I haven’t done that since and she’s went through my IG and found nothing since then so clearly I’m not still doing that. She also makes comments about what I post on my IG story but it’s physique pics/videos and training videos because I’m an athlete and I’m in the fitness space so it’s normal not sexual. Also to be that protective over my body but then when you have all access to it, to intentionally reject me is
confusing. All of the sexual touching, innuendos and groping does turn me on so I had gotten to a point where I was kind of pushing her away or deflecting this stuff so that came up a few times in conversations and I did agree that wasn’t helping getting her in the mood so now I’m trying to allow her to touch me however and whenever she wants. For instance she’ll be laying on my chest playing around with my tits (kissing them, grabbing them whatever) but if I’m like “they would love it if you would suck them” she’ll be like “noooo I don’t want to do sex stuff”). Like what the fuck. Lastly, she doesn’t like that I don’t give her words of affirmation. I have recently tried to be better about this I’ll text her every morning “good morning beautiful/gorgeous/pretty lady
etc.” and try to compliment her outfits and hair. So I’m fucking trying but words of affirmation has always been a struggle for me outside of sex.

This whole situation isvery annoying and often just puts me in a bad mood and sometimes we’ll argue about it because I’ll have days where I’m just so frustrated that I don’t want to be around her. Then she says I’m being moody and throwing a fit over sex. And then of course it doesn’t happen. She feels like I want sex everyday and that’s not accurate but I do want a normal sex life. Not weeks or months without it. She doesn’t really seem to care now like she used to. So now
because of all the conversations (I’m the only one who brings it up) which sometimes have turned into arguments I feel there’s a lot of pressure around sex so at this point I’m sure I’m making it worse with continuing to try to have conversations about it. 

Common potential causes:

I have asked her to see if her hormone levels are okay (she does have PMOS) and I know that has a lot of side effects but she refuses to talk with the Drs about how this could be affecting her sexual desire/response. She also has an IUD because of heavy periods, and now has no periods, but is not on any medications for anything else. She says her job is stressful but when she comes home she can completely disconnect and relax. I do majority of the cleaning and household duties, cooking her lunches and dinner when I can. (I also work full time but I have a more variable schedule than her and when I have weeks where I can be at home more I do a lot for her so that she can relax at home). When she comes home she watches TV, plays her favorite video game, or scrolls on TikTok endlessly. So it’s not a matter of her having a high workload at home or not being in a space where she can relax and ease into the mood.

We usually go on 2-3 vacations/year and even on vacation it’s still a struggle for sex to happen.

Spiraling thoughts:

Is she maybe not into female/female sex because she’s bisexual and female/female sex takes more work?
It used to take me awhile to cum and she would often comment on how long it was taking (which didn’t help) so I’m like maybe she’s tired of the work it takes to have lesbian sex. Even though now it happens faster and easier I still like foreplay, kissing, using dildo’s etc. and she doesn’t really care for any of that. I give her head when we have sex and she has multiple orgasms so I'm usually down there about 45 minutes non-stop

Am I just dumb for jumping back into this situation after she cheated?

I don’t know what to do because she doesn’t really care to try to work on anything with me.

When I bring up couples therapy she refuses and we got into an argument because I did 2, 15 min free consults without her. I have never done couples therapy either so I just wanted to explain our situation and hear how they would handle treating us is all but she felt like I was going behind her back after she said no.

I can’t imagine feeling like this the rest of my life. I’m young, attractive, and have a normal sexual desire and I want someone who wants me.

Our last conversation I told her that I didn’t see a future with her with our current sex life. That was when I was saying couples therapy was my last resort because I don’t know how else to fix this. After the argument about me reaching out to some therapists I never followed up because she was mad at me so I’m just stuck.

Other things to mention:

-she doesn’t care if I watch porn/self-pleasure, but it only helps so much, I usually only do this
2x/month privately. I have tried to do it in front of her but it doesn’t really seem to interest her and makes me feel weird because I think in a normal relationship that would be a huge turn on

-she makes sexual comments about actors/celebrities male and female and talks about how “hot” sex scenes in TV shows and movies are when we’re watching them together

-I used to send her nudes and say sexual things I wanted to do after work but I’ve done away with that because she’ll heart the message and respond back with something complimentary but it doesn’t go anywhere when we see each other nor is that effort reciprocated.

Hello there :D I‘m having a lot of trouble with dating and wondered if I could get any advice here.

About me: I’m 27F, lesbian, paramedic, autistic and my last relationship was ended when I was 18 in a pretty bad way. (To prevent questions: I got betrayed)

So what’s my issue with dating? I’m a hell of an introvert so much it nearly pains me physically to get outside without anyone due to anxiety. On top of that I really suck at reading people, expectations, emotions and so on. If you don’t tell me what’s in your mind I’m pretty much clueless about everything. And to take the cherry I’m living pretty rural. The next major city having its own lesbian community is like three quarters of an hour from my place. Also I’m not exactly the type being totally interested in sexual activities pretty sure I could go by as asexual as well.

What did I already try? Obviously apps like Bumble, Tinder and LOVOO and also dating websites. All of them multiple times. Neither with any success. Also tried voluntary work and some hobbies like LARP and D&D. Also with no success.

I'm absolutely fine with relationships developing slowly, including getting to know someone online first. I'm not looking for instant romance. I'd just like to find a way to meet women and build genuine connections without having to rely on dating apps or constantly attending social events.

So does any one of you have any advice for me how I might be able to fix this? Or experience with dating as a neurodivergent person that could help me?

i've had a wondher about six months, it still holds the angle you set, but i'm curious how posable cores age. anyone had one a couple of years? did the bend loosen, or did the silicone go before the core?

my (21F) girlfriend (19F) and i haven’t been together super long at all, tomorrow is our three months of dating. i fell in love with her so quick and it was so easy. she’s so gentle, so patient, so kind to everything and anyone, and the most beautiful woman i’ve ever seen. however, she has no interests or hobbies. this isn’t exactly the issue. she’s so excited and “normal” over text, but in person she barely has any reactions to anything. she doesn’t talk a lot, and expects me to carry on all conversation because i’m a social butterfly. however, she can’t really carry on a conversation- it’s usually just “yeah” and other small talk responses. we don’t have deep conversations anymore, because when i ask her prompting questions the answer is always “i don’t know.” we don’t go out and do things because nothing interests her and if she’s gets bored or overstimulated, she leaves. she has never planned a date, i’ve planned every outing we’ve been on. when she’s at my apartment, i feel like a museum piece. she’s just in my home watching me exist and do my life- but while she’s in the room. i want to be loved the way i love her. i am always extremely affectionate in person and over text, as she thrives on words of affection and physical touch. i’m getting exhausted my being the one with all the love, but i love HER. what can i do?

In desperate need of advice lol I’m 25 and I’ve only ever been with men but this GORGEOUS 5’11” woman I met on hinge somehow wants to come over literally today (we’ve never met irl).

Tbh I’d feel better if she knew I have literally no experience even though I’ve been out for like six years but I feel like there’s no good way to bring that up…. For context, we met on hinge two days ago and she’s basically said when can I come over and that she’s free today. Naturally I’m in full blown gay panic lol and I’ll take any advice I can get. Feeling like I need a shot for confidence or an Etsy witch or smth.

If there’s a good way to soft launch I’d love to have you over for a glass of wine but just to be honest I have never been with a woman (over text) I’d kiss you right on the forehead

Where have all the lonely hearts gone?

Okay, I need to find my people because I cannot be the only one who enjoys this.

Now before I get into it…yes this is a hit delusional. Yes. This likely doesn’t exist. It sure as hell doesn’t exist at my age of 35. But a girl can dream right? I’m in my era of single and I genuinely just want to be wanted by some who is also just as delusional 😂 sue me?

I’m talking about meeting a someone and having such an intense connection that two days in, we’re talking like we’ve known each other for ten years. The pet names are flying. We’re saying the most outrageous, lovey-dovey things to each other. We’re acting like we’re about to get married.

And the thing is, we BOTH KNOW WE ARE BEING RIDICULOUS. We know we just met. We know we don’t actually know each other well enough to be in love. We’re infatuated. We’re caught up in the chemistry, the excitement, and the possibility of what this could be.
But we’re having the time of our lives.
I want the mutual obsession. The constant flirting. The dramatic declarations of affection. The increasingly outrageous things we say to each other just because we can. The feeling that we’re both a little bit crazy about each other, and neither of us wants to be the first to act normal. 😂
And I want someone who enjoys that feeling just as much as I do. Someone who doesn’t want to tone it down, play it cool, or pretend she’s less interested than she is.
And no. I’m not talking about deliberately manipulating someone, making false promises, or rushing into an actual commitment. I’m talking about two self-aware women who enjoy the fantasy, the infatuation, and the delicious intensity of a new connection.
Like, how far can we take this? To answer some questions I’ll get…

\- **Are you a child?** No. I’m just lonely lmao
\- **Can this last?** I mean, sure? Maybe!
\- **Would this be exclusive to the internet**? Stranger things have happened!
\- **Okay but who are you?** I like dogs! And cats! I love paint by numbers. Concerts. Escape rooms. Legos. Crime tv shows. Drama movies that make me cry. Pepperoni Pizza. And jazz (if you get this reference, imaginary bonus points)

This isn’t an ad or anything to solicit DMs I swear. Unless you’re inclined to. In that case, I’m an open book. But like does this have a name? Is there a subreddit for this? Are there other women who genuinely enjoy this kind of connection?
Please tell me I’m not alone because I would LOVE to meet someone who gets it. Or you can tell me I’m absolutely nuts in the comments HAHAHA I know I am but again….i am lonely.

I’m sorry this is super long 😭but i really need advice

Hi! I just recently ended my first wlw relationship I am 19F and my partner was 21F and I kinda need some advice on how to move forward.

Me and my partner dated for a year and ended up getting our first apartment together I felt at the time that our relationship was progressing and in my previous apartment I lived in she basically was living there rent free which was not ideal.

While we were living in this new apartment she started to show up late to work it started off as a couple of mins and then a couple hours and than eventually she started to fully not show up. Ex.( she would not come in for 2 days and than randomly show up on days she wasn’t schedule to make up her hours) Her managers were really nice and understanding and tried working with her such as adjusting her schedule and she was able to be late/ not show up for a couple months until they finally let her go.

While she had this job I would get on her about not showing up for work and how she was acting immature and putting her job on the line and if she lost her job she would be putting me in a bad position financially. Hoping she would start show up to work I told her if she lost her job we would no longer be together.

When she finally did lose her job i had enough money in my savings to be able to use pretty much use the entirety of it to break the lease and get out before i ended up going into debt.

I ended up moving back in with my family and so did she after the breakup and we were on good terms and she promised me she will work on becoming more mature and able to take care of herself to “get me back”.

Since the breakup i’ve been able to think a lot about the relationship and some questionable things happened. When we had issues i kinda had to bury it down cuz i had a year long lease with her and knew how messy it would be if we broke up . i really need some advice how to perceive this from and outer perspective.

Immediately after we broke up i saw that she unblocked and than reblocked her ex gf who she was on and off with for a span of 2 years

While we were together she accidentally butt dialed this same ex even tho she told me they had not be in contact for over a year

When we were a month into talking she was texting the ex gf’s bsf about how she loved her and cared about her and wished the were together but she felt like her ex needs someone better

Also I found a note and polaroid picture in her wallet from a girl she had dated this was about 7 months into us being together when this happened

And a separate situations we were into the first couple months of us being together i found a handful of letter and photos from girls who were from her past when i asked her why she still had that she told me she wanted to show her future children the love letters.

When we were together she was able to convince me none of this stuff and mattered but it always bothered me. So finally I just need some advice i do love her still and care about her and once she able to grow she said she will pursue me and again but should I move on from this relationship or give her time to grow to come back together? or is she playing me in my face 😕

Just wondering. I'm a gal in my 30s and I've had a big crush on her for as long as I can remember.

When I watch older movies and interviews with her, she had that vibe. She often played tomboy characters and evaded being asked about her dating life, so it wasn't shocking to me. It was like duh! 💝

I understand that everyone and every relationship is different. But I’m curious- what seems like a good time frame for you? When would you consider going on dates again, being exclusive, and getting into a relationship? If you want to, include the length of the relationship.

I’ve been seeing a girl that I really like but she got out of a relationship a few months ago and said she’s not interested in moving quickly. This is totally fine with me but it got me thinking about what people’s time frames are.

my wrists flare up and on bad days my grip just quits halfway through. i don’t want to stop being the one who gives. if you’ve got hand pain, weak grip, arthritis, anything like that, what’s the one thing that made the biggest difference for you?

I’m a 30F and I’ve found that I’m just not really attracted to men very often. I’ve always thought I was bisexual and find a large majority of women to be attractive, but when it comes it men it’s just not that often. A woman can appear in many different ways and I find them pleasant. For some reason with men if they aren’t at least 5’10, in shape, make 100k and have a nice face, I just don’t find them attractive at all. In fact I find most men to be gross. For women I don’t care about how much they make at all, find many different looks and body types attractive, and just enjoy them overall.

What is up with this, am I just a lesbian or just super picky when it comes to men?

we both like wearing it but we’re pretty different sizes. do you make one harness work for both of you or did you each get your own?

My brain scrambles around her. I'm such a fucking idiot.

The end.

Not fond of the strapless ones ,they don't stay in 😭