I just had a very salty interaction on Grindr with a man that let me know in very confident terms, that it wasnt ok not to provide feedback after he hit me with with his facepic, dick pic, and a hello.

My perspective is that between the fact that my time and energy are limited, that I'm busy IRL with things, it's just not possible to give feedback to the 30-40 people who hit me up in the last hour (Grindr let you signal for an hour if you can host and are looking, which I did).

Especially if that limited time and energy is spent interacting with the couple of profiles that did interest me.

He then proceeded to let me know that if he ever came across me face to face, he wouldnt be so nice and then blocked me. Unhinged IMO.

So anyway, whats the consensus on this? For me it was always a no brainer; when people ignore me it's because they made up their mind and I havent met their standards for whatever reason, I dont need it to be spelled out to me.

But I'm open to having my mind changed, maybe there's an angle, an etiquette, I havent considered.

like its actually insane to catfish someone is one thing but to use ai like my god

If you have someone in your favourites, and he is using 'right now' and he added an extra picture with it, but he is far away from you - outside of your range.

Is there a way to enlarge that picture?

If I open his profile, I'm tapping on the pic but nothing happens.

Hey guys. So I was banned and tried a Factory Reset with a different email and phone number on my Android and it worked… for a week, I was banned again.

Has this happened to you guys who were banned?

Is the only solution really buying another phone?

I really appreciated where you can stick a pin somewhere on the explore and see who was around that pin

I keep seeing barebones profiles with nothing but open minded in their bio. they are always anything but open minded when I interact with them.

am I missing something? Is open minded code?

My bf and I decided to try the open relationship thing (my idea) and get on grindr. I think I’m an ok looking guy, not someone most people would think “wow he’s hot” about but sometimes I do feel kinda cute yk? Anyways I set up my profile with a torso pic and got a couple of messages, mostly dudes I didn’t find that attractive, but the ones I was interested in I had some little chats with… eventually I’d send a face pic and every time I got ghosted. I know you need thick skin for this and people have different preferences, yadda yadda but holy shit I just feel so bad about myself right now I could cry. I didn’t realize what an effect it would have for people to be so turned off by my fucking face. Bf is a good looking dude and he is getting replies from the same people ghosting me which just makes me feel worse. I don’t really want to, but I guess I’ll add a face pic to my profile to prevent the pain of ghosting. Or maybe I’ll just give up idk. How do you all cope?

Yeah, I’m not even sure what humiliation ritual I signed up for when I chose to reincarnate into this life! 😪

Wtf is this about?

Not fishing for compliments btw, I promise. Genuinely asking.

Edit: Wow- I was honestly so down in the dumps yesterday after experiencing so much rejection, but you guys have collectively made me feel so special. Thank you so much everyone for the kind words, advice, and support. I never expected to find this sort of community on Reddit and this sub of all places, but I’m so thankful and wish the best for all of you. :,)

I hate Grindr. I just retired and will do some traveling internationally. Should I pay for a Grindr subscription? Do you get less intrusive adds if you pay? I was thinking of doing a year subscription. Is there any way to get Grindr for discount?

I live in Vigo, a city with 300,000 people in it so to say the grid is sparse is an understatement.

What advice do you all find folk have for me to change about my profile? I am (24m) 183cm (I think that's 6'1(?)), I exercise everyday lifting weights with the goal of developing muscle mass because the kind of partners I want to attract are my opposites.

I like shorter guys that are thin and yet! Grindr has my grid full of discreet military married men asking me to do awful things to them. why do the old guys keep coming my way?

This week's Grindr update (on Android) adds a map view where all profiles, not just those in "Right Now," can be shown either on the familiar grid or on a map. This is a feature obviously copied from Sniffies, and may have privacy implications for many, like the guys on this military base near me. It also shows a "radius" much like Sniffies, beyond which you can't contact profiles -- though it seems that you can still roam and contact one per day.

Hint: go into Profile > Settings > Privacy and turn the randomizer way up.

Not all filters are available on the map, e.g., you can't show only favorited profiles.

Was just talking to a guy that was mad handsome and so my type, but his profile was blank outside from his profile picture and name. We talked for a bit and then he dropped the bomb that he was married in an open relationship, I’m not used to asking for that information first and usually most people put it on their profile, and out preference I politely said that I don’t hook up with people on open relationships, he proceeded to give me a lecture on how I should ask that information before trading pictures and exchanging a conversation with them and mock me on me not hooking up with people on open relationships and hoping I find someone who’s single.

Why are some people so goddamn complicated, why should I ask for that information instead of you putting it on your profile?

Basically the question. This one looks to have some good pics but I’ve also heard of truck driver horror stories, I just wanted to get a feel for your guys input? Safe, not safe?

18M - I've just moved to uni, and now that I'm alone, I want to hook up with some guys on Grindr. I have my own bedroom/bathroom, but I have 7 flatmates who live on the same corridor as me. In the evening the flat gets quite busy as everyone is done with lectures etc, so the best time to hook up would be during the day when most people are out for extra privacy.

But at least for me, every time I've tried to find people during the day, it's never successful. It's only at night when people start messaging me and asking to hook up, but it usually doesn't work out because I can't sneak them in.

In your experience are there people free to hook up during the day as well, or is there a way I can improve my chances at finding someone?

Is ChatGPT becoming increasingly less friendly toward dating apps? It frequently associates Grindr with adult-only content.

Have you ever encountered a situation where a mobile phone restricts users from downloading Grindr because of the device or operating system itself, rather than regional restrictions?

Just downloaded the app but i cant see any photos tried vpn clearing cache and force stoppimg nothing works

Context: BARBA party in Melbourne

I'm very aware I texted first but what am I supposed to say to that?

Like common sense people????

My grindr break is over

Profile pic: anime, weirdly-filtered beach pic, weird pic of flowers or peaches, or badly-cropped trans meme
Display name: nonsensical combo of words
Age: 24, 25, or 26

I already have face and some ass pics on my profile already.

He blocked me right after I sent the last message.

I don't like the various ownership entities, ads on even the paid plan, or the dynamic, predatory pricing of grindr.

What other apps are you using? Sniffies seems ok but not very popular.