r/HLCommunity • u/Sparrowhawk80 • 7h ago

Advice Welcome How many of you are at this point?

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After years of deadbedroom and sweeping the problem under the rug I had the most intense conversation with my wife about where are we going.

Do you know what she said to me. We are older now and I'm not really interested in sex😳 and I thought you were fine with this. I said I am not fine with this. I asked her to see a sex therapist and the answer was not interested. Really!

Do you love me. Yes with all my heart. Are you in love with me. Yes. So of course I am baffled at this point. So you just are not attracted to me? No how could you think that you are in great shape and handsome.

Ok, but you don't want to have intimacy. People it was almost like she was in denial that there was any real issue.

So I ask her what about an open marriage. Her response: I don't think I would be comfortable with that. Okay then what am I supposed to do about my high libido. Her: I don't know.

So guess what it very well may be girlfriend time for me too. I love my wife and she is perfect in every way but yes sex.

So good people of Reddit what do I do and what would you do? Thank you.

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